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Bill Bradley Wants Our ‘Common Humanity’ To Become The Most Important Thing

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If you lived in New York City in 2020 or 2021 and you were in Central Park at the right time of day, there’s a chance you saw Bill Bradley walking and talking. Bradley, the NBA champion-turned-U.S. Senator, is at the center of what he calls his performative autobiography, Bill Bradley: Rolling Along, which currently lives on Max.

It’s a 90-minute one-man show about one of the more compelling characters in American history. There aren’t a lot of Americans who have won an NBA championship, which Bradley did with the New York Knicks in 1970 and 1973 en route to becoming a Hall of Fame inductee. There aren’t a lot of Americans who served in the United States Senate, which Bradley, a Rhodes Scholar who attended Princeton and Oxford, did from 1979-1997. There aren’t a lot of Americans who ran for president — Bradley attempted to do that in 2000, but fell short of the Democratic Party’s nomination, which went to Al Gore.

The fact that a person from a small city in Missouri did all of these things, unsurprisingly, makes for a pretty interesting hook. After donating his political papers to Princeton, Bradley got a chance to tell some stories to an audience, which piqued the interest of legendary Broadway producer Manny Azenberg. It beget a lengthy process where Bradley worked on the performance, then took it to cities across the country and would seek out feedback.

“And then COVID hit,” Bradley tells Dime. “And it actually allowed me to go deeper into the material. And at the end of COVID, I realized I wasn’t going to go do this on stage all over. And so I’m going to rent a theater for four nights and have five cameras, and make it into a film, and that’s how it happened. And I realized that I’ve always had a performative element in what I did, whether it’s basketball, or politics, and so [this is] the kind of natural evolution of trying my hand at this.”

Bradley got to work memorizing the show completely, which is where walking around Central Park comes into the occasion. He’d do a little bit of the show in his study, then he’d head out into the park. He’d get to specific places — the Poet’s Walk, the Great Lawn, etc. — before he’d forget his lines, and he’d figure out what he’d need to work on next time. And when he eventually did get it all down, well, comparing things to basketball is pretty easy for Bradley, so he drew that parallel here.

“When I finished, when I got it memorized, I realized that I had to also … like shooting baskets, you got to shoot every day to stay sharp,” Bradley says. “And so I’d do it every day in the rec room of the apartment building we lived in in Manhattan.”

The result is a comprehensive look at Bradley’s life from the person who would know it best. It’s as interesting as it is powerfully earnest, the sort of labor of love that can only come from a person who believes it’s important that this story gets told. And if Bradley has his way, people will watch this and take one thing from it: There is a common humanity that we all experience, and although there are many things that divide us, that is powerful enough to bring people together for a common good.

Recently, Dime caught up with Bradley to discuss Rolling Along, how his basketball career informed his politics, what he’s learned about America over the course of his life, Joe Biden, and much more.

I found the whole thing compelling. But one thing I really want to focus on is the way that your basketball career, in particular, informed your politics. To talk about compelling things, I found the section about the distrust that your Black teammates had for white Americans in particular to be super compelling. So, how did your time in the NBA, and even dating before that, really inform the political career that you would go on to have?

Well, let me say, before I get into that: I just described to you how I did it. But the question is, why did I do it? And I did it because I thought that if I told my story candidly, it would encourage other people to tell their stories. And in the process of those stories, we discover a common humanity. And that’s what we need in our country today, we need an emphasis on our common humanity — not what divides us, but our common humanity. And so my hope, I wanted to try to generate a little healing in the process.

So, in terms of the basketball, the basketball was fundamental. It’s been fundamental in my life. You can say my mother sitting at the piano as I was practicing piano and hating it was discipline. But the real discipline came when I was 14, went to “Easy” Ed Macauley’s basketball camp. He’s a pro for the Hawks, and he said, “Remember, if you’re not practicing, somebody, somewhere is practicing, and if you were to meet, given roughly equal ability, he’s going to win.” I thought, that makes a lot of sense, so I got to practice. And that was the origin of my workaholism in basketball from 14 to, I don’t know, probably 20, or until I was a pro. I would do three hours a day, five hours on weekends — certainly in high school, I did that.

It formed the whole approach I had to life through basketball, and then, of course, with the Knicks, I learned a lot more from my Black teammates than they learned from me, and I describe what I learned in the course of that time, and how their friendship became central to what I value in life. I heard things that I did not know — of course, I grew up in Missouri, part of that was sometimes segregated, I had a very influential African-American male who taught me how to box when I was a little kid, nine or 10 years old.

But I wasn’t living in a Black world. And then when I got to the NBA, I was living in a Black world, and I heard things. Dick Barnett tells me about his Tennessee State team winning the national title and going back to Nashville and going from the airport to a lunch counter sit-in, and to have the discipline not to respond when white people spit on him. Or the story of the African-American rookie from Mississippi who says he’ll always vote, because for 150 years, nobody in his family had a right to vote. Or Cazzie Russell driving down from Ann Arbor where he went to Michigan to visit for a while, to a practice in Detroit and being late and Red [Holzman] fines him because when you’re late, you’re fined. And 10 minutes into the practice, he’s in a fight with a white rookie. And Willis [Reed] steps in to break it up, and Cazzie snaps, “Uncle Tom.” And Willis says, “Uncle Tom? Well this is Uncle Tom Well is gonna do some ass whooping if you do that again.” But the point is, only later did I discover that his lateness and his foul mood came from being stopped by Michigan state police on the drive down.

So, I had the experience of living and I saw my African-American teammates’ distrust and suspicion of white America, saw how far we had to go before our racial reality matched our ideals. And I realized how much I would never know, because I’m not African-American.

That actually leads into something I wanted to ask, which is, you use your Knicks teams as an example of how to push back against division in America. And I want to read the exact quote here: “Take responsibility for yourself, respect your fellow human being, disagree with them honestly and civilly, enjoy their humanity, and never look down on people you don’t understand.” What in your eyes, as someone who has a good perspective on these things, has made us get away from that?

You just read the key lines of the film, particularly my grandmother’s line, which is “never look down on people you don’t understand.” And that occurs three times in the film, and all of those those things typified our Knick teams.

What did we get away from? How did we get away from it? Well, we allowed our differences to separate us in ways that, in some cases, became more than our common humanity. And we have to get back to that common humanity that I experienced on the Knicks, that is expressed in those words, and that we still have in the country today, but our politics is so brittle and so loud and so divisive that it pulls people away from their common humanity into a kind of tribal, party atmosphere. And that’s destructive in the long run to that which would unite us as a country.

It was heartbreaking to me to hear some of the things you discussed his issues in this — abortion, race relations, money in politics, a more just and equitable economy — that are still really prevalent issues today.

Yeah, yeah.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought you could hear in your voice that those are still heartbreaking things to you.

Well, yeah, I think they are. And the difference between being a basketball player and a politician is a basketball player plays their game, plays a season, and becomes champion, it lasts about 48 hours. But that is it, you’ve done it, and you now are at the top.

Politics, you’re never at the top. Politics, there will always be problems related to the economy, to education, to healthcare, to whatever. And therefore, it’s a continuum, and the continuum is what is important in politics, whereas the peak is what’s important in sports. And so, I think that these issues will always be with us in different forms, because they’re human issues, and politics is, in its best sense, a human endeavor, where things happen because people who disagree with each other find common ground, and compromise, and move our collective humanity a few inches forward. And that’s what appealed to me about it.

And you have answered this to several extents here. But how do you hope this film, obviously doesn’t single-handedly solve those issues — it would be great if that could happen — but maybe refocuses how we approach them?

We did a focus group after this, after I had the film. And the guy who did the focus group was very experienced doing documentaries and feature film focus groups. So he said to the people after we watched it — I’d watch them watching it, which is a sobering event [laughs], someone’s eating while they’re watching, or drinking.

He said, “What do you think this was about?” And they said, “It’s about all of us. It’s about love of country, love of the game of basketball. It’s about forgiveness, perseverance. It’s about triumph and loss and sadness and joy. It’s about life.” And that’s what I hope people see, it’s a film about life, and expressing it in the form of a performative autobiography. You encourage other people to tell their stories, and you know, when people start telling their stories about their lives, we’re going to find a whole lot of common ground that is not allowed in political language. Because political language, by definition, separates, whereas human language, by definition, unites. And that’s what I want this film to do.

One line that I liked in the doc was, “I wanted to know America like I once knew the seams of a basketball.” And I just want to know, what did you learn about America as a politician that you didn’t know or didn’t really understand going into that chapter of your life?

Well, I’ll give you an example. For probably eight years, at least, I was the chairman of the Water and Power Subcommittee of the Energy and Natural Resources Committee. That kind of sounds dry, right? And I don’t mean that as a pun. But that subcommittee had jurisdiction over water in 20 Western states that had very little water, and therefore depended on irrigation. I didn’t know anything about that! I was from Missouri, on the Mississippi River, and New Jersey, on the Atlantic Ocean. What did I know about what it is to live in a dry land?

And so I learned those kinds of things about the country, and then I learned about people. I’d go on what I call these American journeys, I describe where I go for two days with a wheat farmer in North Dakota, or two days in the Cajun country, or on the Mexican border, or a steel mill in Ohio, or whatever. And I learned something in each of those places about the place and the circumstance, and more importantly, the lives of people living in those places trying to have a decent life. And therefore, my view of America became much more enriched. And I was, I don’t know if you’d say insatiable — paralleling this, I didn’t talk about in the film, I would read stuff, Wallace Stegner on the west, or whatever.

The combination of all of that was my attempt to know the country like I knew the seams of a basketball. That was my attempt to absorb the country — Whitman says that better than me, but I’m not pretending to be Whitman. But that’s kind of what my inspiration was. He says, I contain multitudes. Well, I wanted to be able to understand what it was to be a wheat farmer in South Dakota, or what it was to be a crawfisherman in the bayous of Louisiana. I wanted to understand what it was to live in Appalachia, in western North Carolina.

And I thought that if I knew that, I would know the kinds of pressures and demands that were put on Senators from those areas, and by having that level of empathy, I’d be able to better reach them and get compromise on things that divide us. And it’s basic respect. When the Princeton assistant Episcopal chaplain made fun of me, says “he’s one of those.” Well, I felt that. I feel how evangelicals feel, because I experienced that. People who are not Evangelical make fun of them, and I respect them. I respect everybody. And the point is, I wanted to get back to a point where I internalized it, and that’s what I tried to do.

And to go back to that main overarching philosophy of the doc, I think it’s something that everybody knows, but I would assume — correct me if I’m wrong — but going through that, it really hammers home that, at the end of the day, everyone wants to be able to make a good honest living, have a roof over their head, have a few meals a day, and take care of themselves.

Absolutely. That’s the basics of life, and over time, politics at its best has helped people achieve that. I point out that there was a time where the elderly didn’t have health care or a pension, the Great Lakes were industrial sewers. And politics changed them, and that’s the kind of things I hoped to do in getting in politics.

Everyday people, in my experience, tend to just have an inherent distrust for the elites. And I don’t know if there is someone on the surface that fits that billing more than the Ivy educated Rhodes Scholar professional athlete who was a U.S. Senator and ran for President. You focus on this in the film, but how did the lessons that were instilled in you from the time you were a young man in Missouri help you break down those barriers that, again, just kind of inherently come when a person meets a Senator, or a pro athlete, etc.?

Treating people with respect and with curiosity about their lives. I love hearing people’s stories, I love identifying with their travails or with their moments of great happiness. For me, being alive is being alive, right? And that means you have to have sensitivities to other people’s lives, and in the process, you derive a deeper life yourself.

Why do you think we don’t see more professional athletes get into the world of politics? We’ve had you, Jack Kemp, Steve Largent, plenty of others, but I’ve always wondered why the people who see all of America, get this great media training, meet so many different people, all these sorts of things are prime for entering that world once their playing days are over.

Why are there so few politicians, why are there so few people in politics in the country generally? Life is politics, in a way.

But you mean running for office. Why don’t we get more running for office? Well, if you take a look, there are probably more lawyers who run for office than athletes, but there have been a share of athletes. How many mechanics have run? How many preachers have run? There have been some, but to your question, I don’t know why there’s not more. I mean, Jack Kemp certainly was there, Steve Largent. Tom McMillen, I played with him on the Knicks, he became a congressman. There are any number of other people who were in sports.

To me, the relevant question is not what is your background, but what kind of person are you as a colleague in the Senate and in the House. And sometimes, your background helps you, sometimes your background, you got to overcome or whatever. When I got there the first time, for example, I’d never been in a legislative body and here I was in the U.S. Senate. So, what is my frame of reference? I don’t know. You’re supposed to just be quiet as a rookie, as a first year Senator.

So, I was by and large quiet, and then three months into the experience, I was in the Senate cloakroom — there are two cloakrooms, which are rooms off the floor of the Senate, the Democratic and Republican cloakroom. Basically, you have sofas and some phones, get a soda or whatever. And it was late at night, like 10 o’clock at night, it was in session. I looked around on the Democratic cloakroom, and here was one person who was reading, two people were talking, some guy was telling a joke, a guy was on the phone. I thought it wasn’t a lot different than a Knick locker room.

And it gave me a sense, well, I understand what’s going on here, yeah, this is it. And so, there are commonalities that you find, as well as real differences. And I also think it has to do with how you approach things. If you approach it with respect and curiosity, and people don’t think you are some hotshot celebrity coming in to perform, that would be a recipe for total failure, by the way. Because as a first year Senator, you have no power. And I was very proud, one of my proudest moments, I won the Golden Gavel — a Senator would preside, a Senator always has to preside. I volunteered, I had over 100 hours, because in front of me was the parliamentarian, and he would make rulings on motions, and that’s how I learned the rules.

My last question, we’re obviously in an election year. I’m not going to ask for a prediction or anything, but I presume you and President Biden, as a pair of Democratic Senators, have had a relationship with one another. If he sought counsel from you on what to do ahead of November, what things that you highlighted in the doc would you try to emphasize to him?

I think he embodies a lot of the values that I talked about in the film, so I don’t have to tell him — I’ve known Joe since 1978.

I’ll tell you a Joe Biden story. First time I took a trip as a Senator was in my first or second year, and it was to the then Soviet Union, and it was led by Joe Biden. He took four Senators, I was one, and we were meeting in the Kremlin with Alexei Kosygin. Usually, when you meet with heads of state, particularly in the Soviet Union, they have long monologues — like Putin, he’ll talk forever, right? So, it’s a long monologue, and you don’t have any dialogue, really. But this occasion, Kosygin, who was a really bright guy, kind of an academic in a way, and I think an engineer, we got into going back-and-forth, back-and-forth.

And at one point, Biden pauses and looks across this felt covered table in the Kremlin to Kosygin and says, “Come on, Alexei, don’t shit a shitter!” When we left, I asked the interpreter, “How did you interpret that thing in there where Joe said don’t shit a shitter?” He said, “Not literally.” [laughs]

I think Joe Biden has got an incredible record of accomplishment. I think he’s got the finest record of the last four or five presidents in what he’s accomplished. And he embodies a lot of the values that are in this, particularly respect for people, respect for people in all walks of life. I also think you’re taught — maybe it’s your coach, or maybe it’s your family — you’re taught when you lose, say at basketball or football, you congratulate the winner. That’s what’s called sportsmanship, and you learn that early. And that should also apply to politics. And you know with humility and hard work, you might be able to achieve excellence, and that’s how you take care of your family, and if enough people achieve excellence, country moves forward.

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Husband shares how he used to think of himself as the ‘main character’ of his marriage

There is certainly no shortage of stories from women highlighting the glaring disparity between society’s expected responsibilities of husbands vs. wives. Some are a bit more lighthearted, poking fun at the absurdity. Others reflect utter frustration and had-it-up-to-here-edness with partners not doing their share of the work.

However, self-proclaimed “Clueless Husband” J Fisher’s honest, thoughtful retrospection on the subject shows that it’s not just female partners noticing that things need to change.

In a now-viral TikTok video, Fisher describes how he used to consider himself the “main character” of his relationship.


What exactly did that look like? Early on in his marriage, it looked something like this:

“Say we’d be going on a trip. My partner at that point in time would be doing the laundry, vacuuming the house, making sure the dishes were done. I would think, I would literally think like, ‘Well, yeah, we don’t have to do that. That’s you wanting to do that. It’s not what I want to do,’” he explained in the clip.

@jfisher62 What NOT to do as a husband #fyp #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #fairplay #parenting #feminism #dismantlethepatriarchy #relationship #marriage #support #partnering ♬ original sound – J Fisher

Fisher later shared how his wife would then get everything ready for said trip, while he would simply pack for himself. This continued even after they had kids. It became worse, actually.

“My partner would do all the work to get all of them ready to make sure they were bathed, snacks packed, and I would get myself ready.”

Looking back, Fisher can plainly see how this behavior was “not okay.” But how did he think this was acceptable in the first place? After some reflection, he realized that it was simply the standard being modeled to him from an early age.

“I saw my own father do this quite a bit where he would take care of his own needs. So, I know I didn’t learn it from nowhere,” he said. “But I also had to unlearn it because it never was okay. I thought that my role was to do all these things outside of the home and that the home was women’s domain. I saw that modeled and even taught as the way it should be, but, oh my gosh, is that not partnership? And that sucks.”

After coming to this revelation, Fisher’s opinion is that if you approve of this division of labor, that you “shouldn’t be in a relationship.”

Hard to argue with that.

Hoping that he can further illustrate a better partnering mindset in a way that “may help it click for some guys,” Fisher has all kinds of insightful TikToks focused on taking accountability and expanding emotional intelligence. In them, he often names therapy, setting boundaries, finding community and accessing personal joy (rather than relying on a partner to fulfill all emotional needs) as major tools for creating a more equal relationship.

@jfisher62 Good intention ≠ Truly loving 💔😔 “I’m Sorry” doesn’t begin to do it justice. #fyp #foryoupage #marriage #longtermrelationship #partner #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #accountability #healingjourney #grief #stagesofgrief #dabda #acceptance ♬ original sound – J Fisher

And perhaps the best part—there doesn’t seem to be so much shame around the subject. Fisher acknowledges his own goodwill while still admitting to displaying less-than-healthy behavior. It’s hard not to feel like if maybe this kind of honest, yet compassionate reexamination of gender stereotypes were more commonplace, we’d all collectively be a lot farther ahead.

This article originally appeared on 5.4.23

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Here are 15 life hacks that ‘seem fake’ but are actually a ‘true lifesaver’

Have you ever heard advice and thought, “That’s too good to be true?” As we all know, that usually means it doesn’t work. However, sometimes, there are simple and easy solutions to problems that once seemed impossible. We just have to look for answers in the right place.

A Reddit user who has since deleted their account reached out to the online forum and asked people to share their life hacks that at first seem to be fake but are a “true lifesaver.” They shared everything from tech tricks to bring back dead laptops to easy ways to trick ourselves into developing powerful, “atomic” habits.

Here are 15 of the best responses to the question: What lifehack seems to be fake, but is it a true lifesaver?


1. Freeze your busted hard drive

“Hard drive in the freezer to get it to spin up one more time. I swear to god I thought it was bullshit until I was out of options and tried it… and the damn thing came back on a few more times and I got the data off of it I needed.” — KnightCrusader

“I’m not sure there is a better answer to this question. It is such a goofy solution that shouldn’t realistically work. The number of times I’ve successfully extracted data from a dying drive using this technique is ridiculous. When a good friend of mine gave me this advice over the phone, I remember being genuinely pissed that he wasn’t offering any real guidance. He had twenty-plus years in IT at that point and he was my go-to in times of crisis. I was absolutely gobsmacked when it worked.” — MJSlayer

2. Mental vs. physical fatigue

“Don’t confuse mental fatigue with physical fatigue. After a long day at my brain-intensive job, I think, “I’m tired, I should lie down.” But really, I’ve been sitting on my butt for eight hours and what I need to recover is physical motion.” — From_around_here

3. Stop crying

“You can’t cough and produce tears at the same time. It only works for a second, but if you need one to keep from crying, clear your throat.” — Fermifighter

“I can confirm this helps; if I am trying to hold back tears and feel them starting to slip, I clear my throat several times and it helps me regain control so I can focus on breathing and calming down.” — Redheadredeemed

4. Slow down to speed up

“’Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.’” My therapist told me this and it has changed my life. At the beginning of a work session or project, I think through everything patiently, without rushing. Start working, and before I know it, I am in a groove and time flies by.” — BreakfastSimulator

5. 2-Minute Rule

“I like the ‘2-minute’ rule. If it takes less than 2 minutes, just do it right now. It greatly helps for people like myself who are prone to procrastinating. Whether folding a few shirts, making a phone call, putting away groceries, putting something in the kitchen, cleaning something, etc. You put off trivial small things, and over time, they stack up and become too overwhelming to do. If you follow the 2-minute rule you will find that you’re more organized and there are fewer annoyances that get in the way of the real things to do.” — Musecorn

6. Memory trick

“If you are one of the types that gets anxious about leaving the iron on or similar stuff, do this. Remove the plug from the socket, point at it, and say out loud, ‘Iron is off.’ You WILL remember that you did, in fact, turn it off.” — Buroda

7. Vacuum trick

“Yell at your vacuum cleaner to get your dogs to stop barking at it. Apparently, it helps your dogs realize that you are dominant over the vacuum, so they stop trying to protect you from it. Sounds like BS, but I literally did it once and it was never a problem again.” — IAmNotScottBakula

“This works! I felt ridiculous telling my vacuum to sit and stay and ‘bad boy’ in front of my dog, but after that, dog gave zero f**ks about the vacuum.” — Silver_Ells

8. Atomic habits

“Lots of the tiny habits/atomic habits stuff sounds so dumb, but it works for many people. Basically, the idea is that you commit to just doing one pushup a day, or learn to write one foreign language word, or one hug with your partner, or write for minutes, basically one teeny step toward whatever goal you are aiming at. Over time, the ritual gets built in and you can scale it. It’s worked really well for me for writing. I write now. Less so for exercise, but hey ho. I still do 5 minutes minimum per day, every day.” — AutoReponseUnit

9. Baking Soda

“Baking soda is a miracle cleaner and unpleasant odor remover. You can clean ovens, clear up slightly clogged bathroom and kitchen drains, remove grease, remove stinks from furniture and clothing like shoes, and many more.” — TheBassMeister

10. Look busy

“When you look annoyed all the time, people think that you’re busy.” — Upstairs-Traffic

“I discovered later in life that I had developed Resting Bitch Face. A little investigation revealed that colleagues often just left me alone instead of making requests because they thought I was busy and probably pissed off with work. I actually love helping people, so I’ve made efforts to offset it, but if I really DON’T want to be bothered, um, yeah, turns out that works.” — DeathBoyUK

11. Magical Vodka

“Vodka is the ultimate odor remover. You can use it for BO on clothes or animal urine scent. Put the cheapest vodka you can find in a spray bottle and spray the affected area. Allow to dry. It’s like freaking magic. I have gotten odors out that nothing else worked on. Vodka is the ultimate odor remover. You can use it for BO on clothes or animal urine scent. Put the cheapest vodka you can find in a spray bottle and spray the affected area. Allow to dry. It’s like freaking magic. I have gotten odors out that nothing else worked on.” — Diedbyicee

12. Splurge protection

“If you are thinking about a splurge purchase, wait 3 days. If you’re still thinking about it at that point, then splurge away. Otherwise, it was just a passing fancy.” — No_Mongoose5419

13. Exercise

“Unfortunately, getting vigorous, regular exercise really does help with depression. Doesn’t solve it, but actually does make a difference. I used to get so mad when therapists would suggest it, lol.” — Personal_Custard_95

“I have been diagnosed with depression. A walk and some exercise help my MOOD a lot, but it doesn’t CURE the mental illness, that’s what the meds are for! A walk does help though, and having a dog does help with ‘get up and go for a walk’ because he gets so excited to go around the block.” — CooperTucker

14. Take accountability

“Taking accountability for your actions and apologizing rather than trying to justify them and becoming defensive.” — IndianBeauty143

“This one is so huge. The relief you feel when you stop fighting it and just admit when you’re wrong. So much tension and anxiety releases.” — Capaldithenewblack

15. Lift a little

“Compound interest isn’t just something to do with money. It works with exercise, too. Invest as little as 10 minutes a day in getting your heart rate up or doing some weights; that is all you need to do. You don’t need to bust your ass off 5 hours a week.” — PPLifter

“A few of my friends are personal trainers and they love to pump anyone up by telling them that even five minutes of exercise a week can make a difference after enough time. People take on too much at once with exercise and they crash and burn because they’re overworking their muscles and hurting themselves. There’s a lot more to it than that, but starting small is great.” — Nauin

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Former airline employee shares her top hack to make your flight day so much simpler

There’s no question that booking and tracking flights has gotten so much easier with the advent of the internet and smartphones, but there’s a little-known travel hack that makes navigating your actual flight day even simpler.

TikTok creator Darby (@durbinmalonster) shared the No. 1 flight hack she learned when she worked for the airline industry in a video that’s been viewed nearly 10 million times in one day. In the caption, she wrote that she learned this trick seven years ago, so it’s remarkable that more people aren’t aware of it, but that often seems to be the case with iPhone features in particular.

If you have an iPhone (don’t worry, Android users, we’ll get to your workaround in a moment), and you want to be able to access to your specific flight updates and all of your flight information—including gate and baggage claim numbers—in one click, all you have to do is text yourself your flight number.


The flight number in the text becomes a link. When you click on it, all your real-time flight info comes up. You can also send it to someone who is coming to pick you up so they have easy access to your updated flight info without having to look it up or download an app or anything.

The only two caveats are: 1) It has to include the airline code, so if your flight was American Airlines flight 387, you’d type “AA387” or if it was Alaska flight 294, you’d type “AS294.” And 2) Only use this hack the day of your flight, since airlines will often reuse the same flight numbers. If you do it the day before, you might get updates for the wrong flight.

Watch Darby demonstrate how it works:

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S/O @Brooke Webster for teaching me this in my bag loading days 7 years ago

Some people were blown away simply by the fact that you can text yourself. Apparently, this is also not common knowledge. As one person wrote, “I’ve learned more on TikTok than 8 years in college.”

Some people shared that they text their flight number every time they fly and love it.

“I’ve always done this and made family share with me when they’re flying. My partner didn’t have time between flights once to send his connecting flight in a rush and I was able to find his new flight,” shared one person.

“I do this all the time and it’s even better than having the airlines App,” offered another. (A lot of people said, “You can just use the airline’s app!” but people don’t always fly the same airline and there’s a good chance you’re going to be using your texting app already at the airport, so it’s more seamless this way. Plus the benefit of being able to easily text it to someone else.)

“Omg this is so much easier than flight tracker,” wrote another.

“Ty but I prefer printing my boarding pass at the kiosk and spending the rest of the time frantically trying to relocate my boarding pass and rechecking the info on it and asking ppl where my gate is,” another person joked.

If you’re an Android phone user, there’s a similar hack that’s just one extra step. You can type your flight number into Google, grab the link that comes up, and text that to yourself. Any time you want to check your flight status, just click the link in your texts. And if someone is coming to pick you up, you can text them that same link so they can track your flight in real time.

Technology can make our lives so much better when we actually know how to use it. Thank you, Darby, for the valuable lesson.

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Red, yellow and blue aren’t actually primary colors, according to updated color wheel

One of the first things most of us learned in art class was that red, yellow and blue are the primary colors. All other colors could be made from some combination of these three, we were told, plus black and white for tints and shades. We probably even remember mixing various amounts of red, blue and yellow together to make the secondary colors of orange, green and purple.

Except making purplewas always a problem, wasn’t it? Did anyone ever make a vibrant purple mixing red and blue together? No. It usually came out a sort of muddy eggplant color instead of the bright iris purple we were looking for. As artis Anna Evans shared in a recent Facebook post, “I used to get very frustrated trying to mix purples, they always came out the colour of dried blood. It was not purple.” After hours of research on color theory, she added magenta to her palette and never looked back.

There’s a reason for that. We’ve basically had the primary colors for pigments wrong.


Instead of red, yellow and blue being the primary colors for paints, magenta, yellow and cyan are more accurate. This isn’t really a new idea—CMYK has been used for printing for over a century—but for most of us, the RYB = primary colors equation has practically been as unquestionable as 2+2=4.

Color theory can get a bit complicated, especially since color works differently with light (additive color) than it does with pigments (subtractive color), but in some ways this new color wheel simplifies things on both fronts.

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The reason our red and blue paint mixing experiments always created muddy purple is because there’s actually yellow in most red pigments. Yellow and magenta can actually be mixed to make red. In addition, cyan and magenta can be mixed to make blue, so the idea that nothing can make red or blue because they are primary colors isn’t actually true.

What makes this color wheel simpler than the RYB one is that red, blue and green are the primary colors for light, while cyan, magenta, and yellow are secondary. For pigments, in the CMY color wheel, it’s just the opposite. That’s easier than trying to wrap your head around light colors being so different than pigments when it comes to primary and secondary colors; all you have to remember is that they’re swapped.

If all of this sounds bunk and you’re absolutely sure that red, blue and yellow must be the primary colors because that’s what you learned and have always believed, check out artist Jazza’s experiment in which he tries to make cyan and magenta out of red, blue and yellow. It’s quite entertaining.

However, there is some controversy over this whole concept in the art world. While some have been thrilled to realize why their colors didn’t always come out the way they wanted them to using the RYB color wheel and have found CMY to be much more color-mix friendly, there are arguments for not throwing the RYB baby out with the bathwater. It’s not so much that it’s entirely wrong as that our definition of primary colors might need a bit of revamping.

For a more in-depth and nuanced view of what primary colors actually are and why there are arguments for considering both RYB and CMY as primary colors, check out Florent Farges’ excellent explanation of the whole primary color controversy here:

If there’s one takeaway from all of this, it’s that when it comes to pigments, yellow clearly reigns supreme. All hail the almighty yellow!

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Man responds to family looking to reconnect after throwing him out of the house 37 years ago

On March 16, 2024, Upworthy shared the story of a Redditor named Fancy-Anywhere-4733 (FA for short) who had an incredible dilemma: How do you respond to your family 37 years after they threw you out of the house as a 16-year-old for a bogus reason?

Now, he has shared his response, which is full of honesty, strength and grace.

First, here is some background (you can read the whole story here).

FA’s mother died when he was 12 years old and 2 years later, his father married a woman named Ashley with two kids, Mark (14) and Emily (12). “I got along with Ashley and Emily really well, but Mark, not so much so,” FA recalls. The following year, this rivalry came to a head when both boys fell for the same girl, Lisa, that FA began to date, much to Mark’s annoyance.


To get FA back for dating his crush, Mark planted some of Emily’s panties in his dresser drawer for his stepmother to find on laundry day.

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“I had no answer as I’d never seen [the underwear] before,” FA wrote. “Of course, no one believed me. No matter how much protesting I did.” Mark added to the lies by saying that FA often stared at Emily and once said he wanted to marry her.

FA’s father threw him out of the house for being a “perv” and he was forced to live on the streets, doing whatever he could to get by. After decades of hard work he created a new life. He had a good job, was married with 4 kids and had finally found real happiness.

Recently, at the age of 53, his stepsister, Emily, whom he hadn’t spoken to in years, emailed him. Emily revealed that Mark got drunk and admitted that he set FA up and the news has been like a “bombshell” was dropped on the family.

“After sharing this revelation with Mom and Dad. Dad started crying, like really crying,” Emily wrote in the email. “I’ve never seen him cry before. I believe it because he has been carrying around a lot of guilt all these years. Obviously, now knowing the truth, he is now having to deal with the consqueses of his actions. However, after several hours of talking, we all came to the conclusion that we needed to find you and make amends. I have spent hours trying to locate you, in the hopes that I could reach out and extend a heartfelt apology for the years of misunderstanding and mistreatment and hurt.”

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Receiving the email was an incredible shock, and FA wasn’t sure whether he would respond at all. “I’m, however indifferent to the idea,” FA admitted. “Like, I have no ill feelings towards [Emily]. She obviously was young and had no real say in the matter. But with lots and lots of therapy, I learned to let go of that hate and anger and to let go of them. As well with all the love I receive from my wife, kids and in-laws, it’s all I really need.”

FA received countless comments from people who suggested some ways to respond to the to the email. Two days later, he shared his response to Emily in a new post:

Dear Emily,

I appreciate you taking the time to reach out to me, but I must be honest with you. The years of pain and hurt caused by the lies and manipulation by Mark and the betrayal by Dad have left deep scars that will never be truly healed. While I understand that you are now aware of the truth and are genuinely sorry for what has transpired, I find it difficult to simply forgive and forget.

The betrayal and abandonment I experienced at the hands of my own family have left me with a sense of distrust and resentment that can never be overcome. The damage that has been done has impacted me in ways that you may never ever fully and truly understand, and the idea of trying to reconcile now feels like an insurmountable task.

I have spent years in therapy trying to come to terms with the pain and deep trauma I endured, and I have worked hard to build a wonderful life for myself that does not rely on the presence or approval of those who turned their backs on me.

While I am grateful for the apology and the newfound awareness of the truth, I do not feel compelled to rekindle a relationship that was built on lies, deception and betrayal. Especially after all these years.

I have found peace and closure in distancing myself from those who caused me harm, and I do not see the need to reopen old wounds in the name of reconciliation. While I believe in the power of forgiveness, that isn’t something I can give.

I wish you all the best in your life, I really do, but I must prioritize my emotional health and self-preservation above all else. I hope you can respect my decision and understand that the wounds of the past will take a lifetime to heal. I would appreciate if you pass this fact on to the others and please don’t reach out again. I must look to my future and not my past.

Sincerely, [FA]

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“This is a good response. You are letting them know that the door is closed, and you didn’t give them any information on whether you have a family,” Primierofilho wrote in the comments. “That’s (one of) my favorite parts of [FA’s] beautifully eloquent reply. By denying his ex-family any information of how he is doing, they don’t get to know which way to turn their feelings,” Darkstormchaser added.

One of the most powerful parts of FA’s letter is the clear reason why he will never be able to forgive them. Even though he believes in forgiveness, doing so would unravel a lot of the work he’s done to heal after the incredible, nearly insurmountable pain they have caused him.

Forgiveness was simply a bridge too far and FA should be proud that he drew up clear boundaries with his family. There was no reason why he should trade an ounce of his peace of mind in exchange for giving solace to those who abandoned him as a teen.

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What Is Cardi B’s Net Worth?

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Believe nothing you hear, half of what you see, and only a crumb of what’s on Google. Well, unless it relates to celebrity net worth.

On March 15, during Cardi B’s appearance on 360 With Speedy, the “Enough (Miami)” rapper shed light on her massive wealth. With several business ventures, endorsements, and more, Cardi must be rolling in the dough.

Like most of us, host Speedy Morman could not help but ask Cardi to verify the search engine results. Continue below for Cardi’s official response.

What Is Cardi B’s Net Worth?

When Morman asked if the $80 million price tag on Google was indeed true, Cardi seemed to confirm that it was certainly close to it.

“I made a lot of money,” she said. “I feel like I actually passed almost doing $80 million. I make a lot of money. I make a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of money.”

Cardi went on to say that even though she’s rolling in the dough, she also has quite a few bills.

“But also, I got a lot, a lot of bills,” she said. “I’m taking care of [family]. I’m helping a lot — I’m not going to say I take care, I’m helping a lot, and I help a lot of my friends and I help a lot of my family and everything.”

Watch the full interview here.

Cardi B is a Warner Music artist. Uproxx is an independent subsidiary of Warner Music Group.

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Sasheer Zamata Casts Her Spell With ‘The First Woman’

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Sasheer Zamata has never seemed more radically free and confidently at ease than in her latest comedy special, The First Woman — an hour-long, joke-per-minute feminist history lesson that quietly became one of 2023’s best stand-up offerings when it dropped late last year. Soaking up the spotlight in a stylish tangerine jumpsuit, surrounded by jungle plants, and miming how one empties their silicon menstrual cup, Zamata manages to make her brand of social commentary sincerely funny — a rare feat given the current stand-up special churn, but one that shouldn’t come as a surprise for anyone who’s been paying attention to her upward trajectory.

In the seven years since departing Saturday Night Live, the comedian has bounced from actress to writer to podcast host, starring in indie films and network comedies, and headlining her own show with friend and fellow funnywoman, Nicole Byer. She’s graduated from supporting player to singular talent, ditching the formulaic constraints of sketch comedy to broaden her hysterically funny horizons. And The First Woman, her second stand-up venture, filmed in D.C., is the culmination of that years-long odyssey. Filled with deeply intimate musings on racial inequality in our nation’s healthcare system, bizarre anecdotes about public masturbation, and a surprising amount of fact-checking punchlines on everything from witches to Amelia Earhart, Zamata’s set is bold and unapologetic, brimming with what she labels “female energy,” and born from a COVID lockdown that sparked growth and an abundance of material.

UPROXX chatted with Zamata about the feminist themes of The First Woman and the strange kismet of her casting in Marvel’s Agatha.

What’s the catalyst for doing another stand-up special? What has to happen to convince you that now is the right time?

I wanted to release new material. The last special I put out was in 2017, and a lot has happened with the world, with me. I feel like I’ve grown so much since then and this material and this performance reflects that. It’s very woman-heavy. I’m talking about women’s health and our bodies and history, and it just feels very rich with female energy.

This special dives into a bunch of zeitgeisty topics – women’s health, the erasure of Black women, and reproductive issues. Do you ever look at the social climate and think, ‘This could be a good time to put out these jokes.’?

I don’t think I really write material like, ‘Oh, this is a hot topic, I’ve got to jump on while the goings hot.’ But unfortunately, women’s health has been, is, and continues to be an issue concurrently, for all time. So it’s timely now. It’ll probably be timely next year. It has been timely for the last decades of our lives. I think if you just do work that feels very personal to you, it will feel timely because other people can find something to relate to within it. And yeah, we are in a moment where people are talking a lot about women’s rights health-wise. I actually shot this special in D.C. Something about it felt really refreshing and cathartic — to scream about my pussy in D.C.

At one point in the special, you quiz the audience on which household items they’ve sexually experimented with. That feels like a risky move. Why do it?

It’s genuinely fun. I can’t remember when I started doing that on stage. I am sharing the first time I masturbated with a household object — it was the handle of a lint roller. I’ve talked to other people who are like, ‘Oh yes, I use a filter of a fish tank. I use a hairbrush. I use whatever.’ And I’m like, ‘Other people have wild stories too. I want to know.’ So I just kind of opened it up to the audience and I was like, ‘Please give me your stories. This is a safe space.’ And the more I did it, the wilder the answers got. I think it’s beautiful because then people start feeling comfortable talking about that stuff.

We’ve been repressed to feel like that kind of sexuality or exploration is reserved for men or straight men. They’re encouraged to masturbate or be sexual beings at a young age because of the media that we’re given. But women, we kind of have to button up and not even address our own body parts or our own desires because it’s icky or it’s gross or it’s weird. So I wanted to create an opportunity for people to loudly admit something they may have never told anyone. It’s a wonderful moment because I feel it brings the audience together. Like, ‘Hey, I’m not the only one. We’ve all done stuff like this.’

Has anyone ever shouted out an answer that surprised you?

Someone said a Spirograph pen during the special, and I’ve never heard that one before. It vibrates, so I was like, ‘She’s innovative. I appreciate that.’

Are there topics in this special you worried might not land? Maybe they’d be too political or divisive?

Yeah, I do talk about pussies and our reproductive organs a lot, and I think there have been times where I’m like, ‘Am I talking about it too much? Are people going to be like, ‘Oh my God, get out of here. Can we move on to a different body part or a different thing? Anything?’.’ But I think once I did it a bunch on stage, I realized that I was getting a response from women, just people in general, who were craving this, who were craving someone talking about this stuff out loud and acknowledging it because we don’t in our culture. So I think I was like, ‘I want to dig deeper into this stuff, but I don’t know if people are willing to go there with me.’ Then I would do it more and be like, ‘Oh, they are ready.’

I think I also attract a crowd that’s way more open to that kind of stuff than I think other comedy crowds. I feel like my crowds are just down to be radical.

There’s plenty of witch lore in this special. Was that a result of working on Agatha?

I actually finished the special before I got cast on Agatha, so it was kind of magical kismet. When they hired me, I emailed the director and I was like, ‘Did you know you actually hired a witch?’ They saw me perform and do some of these jokes and they were like, ‘Oh, wow. We didn’t even realize how good of a fit this was.’ But yeah, it is nice that I get to be in witchy things — that aligns with the work that I was already doing in my stand-up. It just feels very much like this is the right time.

Did you suggest they include the history of the broomstick in the show?

Yeah, [Kathryn Hahn] was down and the creator of the show was like, ‘We have thought about using the history of broomsticks and how women have masturbated with broomsticks, and that’s kind of the imagery of a woman riding a broom, but it’s still a Disney show. It’s still on Disney+.’

As a woman in this comedy game, how have you grown and how do you feel about your place within this world now?

I feel like I’m in a good spot where I get asked to do things that feel like they align with my own values. I play a lot of characters that are hippie-dippy or social justice warriors or just things that feel good to me, and that’s how I like to present my voice in the world. I feel like my standup represents who I am as a person, and I love that people can also see that and put me in roles that align with that. So yeah, I feel very fortunate that my career has turned out to be one that feels right to me.

You can watch ‘The First Woman’ streaming now on YouTube

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Nicole Kidman Has Her Own Dreams For The Future Of Her AMC Monologues

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“We come to this place….for magic.”

Those are the first words of the National Anthem, also known by some as Nicole Kidman’s AMC Theaters monologue, that captivated the nation ever since its debut in September 2021. While some A-list actors hate being a part of the joke, Kidman has been outwardly embracing her role of Movie Theater Ambassador/Bedazzled Paint Suit Enthusiast for those iconic AMC ads. And she has no plans of stopping.

“My dream will be to be onstage doing it with a drag queen,” Kidman told ELLE in a new interview.“I’ve got to be able to do that at some point.” Of course, it’s already been done, so all she has to do is show up.

Of the ad, Kidman wasn’t surprised with its initial reaction. She said she filmed the initial ad over just one weekend, and soon enough the ad was spoofed on SNL, went viral on TikTok, and even got Jigsaw involved. “If that’s what it takes, I’ll do whatever it takes,” she said referring to the virality of the ad.

Kidman also teased that this won’t be the last you see of her in those plush reclining chairs. “We have to have some more ideas for the next one,” she added. It seems like this AMC gig might go down in history as one of Kidman’s best roles, aside from her short gig as Tom Cruise’s wife. That was super convincing. But after all….heartbreak feels good in a place like this.

(Via ELLE)

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How Much Are Tickets For Pulp’s North American Tour In 2024?

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Pulp surprised their North American fans this week by announcing that they will be bringing their reunion tour here this fall — marking their first shows on the continent in twelve years. They will be performing in five cities: New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, San Francisco, and Toronto.

Pre-sale passes for those who signed up went on sale today, giving a better idea of what the general public can expect when the official sale opens on Friday, March 22.

Here’s what fans who are looking to attend should know about ticket prices.

How Much Are Tickets For Pulp’s North American Tour In 2024?

Using Pulp’s Chicago show as a starting example, the passes are only General Admission and are all-in pricing, meaning no hidden fees. According to Ticketmaster, this show started at $94 for tickets — but appears to be sold out for now.

For those who want to attend in New York, the prices might be a little different. The tickets for this show’s pre-sale also are sold out, but fans on Reddit have claimed that theirs were around $131.

Using the thread, Reddit users also claimed that Chicago tickets were even lower at $69.50. San Francisco ranged from $59.50 to $99.50. Los Angeles ranged from $79.50 to $99.50. Finally, Toronto ranged between CA $99.00 to CA $135.00.

Additional information about Pulp’s North American tour can be found on the band’s website.