The term “gentle parenting” popped onto the scene in the past few years. Many people still view it as a new style of parenting, but it’s been around for a long time—there just didn’t used to be a pop culture name attached to it. Gentle parenting is generally when a parent considers how to speak and interact with their children, with the emphasis on them being a full person who is learning to navigate the world.
Parents who use this method attempt to hear their children out, offering options and not using harsh tones or language, focusing on age-appropriate development in their approach. Some people view this style of parenting as permissive and can’t imagine how a child will develop into a functioning member of society without punishments and rewards for behaviors.
One woman has the answer to that question, taking it to social media so others can see. Noor Elanss created a video sharing that she was gentle parented as a child, and some of her revelations may surprise a few people.
The woman starts the video explaining, “I’m an immigrant child who was gentle parented and as an adult, I’m vibing. I’m so happy to be alive. If there’s one thing that I think really distinguished my parents is that they were kind. They were so kind to me.”
Noor credits her parents’ gentle parenting style with her confidence today, “Never once have I walked into a room thinking, ‘do I deserve to be here’ cause growing up my parents always told me how proud they were of me and that I could accomplish anything that I wanted to.”
She goes on to list other examples of how she was parented showing up in her daily life, but one of the biggest takeaways from her video has to do with her self talk. Noor says that because her parents were so kind to her while shaping her inner voice that she speaks to herself kindly. Commenters were taken aback by the video writing messages of hope as well as disbelief.
@noor.elanss so blessed to have learned kindness at a young age 💕
“This is refreshing to see. I see a lot of people’s take on gentle parenting and they assume their children will grow up entitled. I gentle parent,” one person writes.
“Is this a skit??” I’ve never heard someone actually say this before. This is all I wish for my daughter and children in the future Mashalla [God has willed it],” another says.
“Like I technically knew this existed…but I still cannot BELIEVE that this is some people’s real life,” someone reveals.