Month: July 2024

One of the first things you learn when you fire up EA Sports College Football 25 is that throwing the ball is hard. Like, really hard — especially if you try to play on All-American. The goal of the developers was to make the game more realistic, and that meant making college players just generally worse than their NFL counterparts. Not every quarterback is capable of making all of the throws, and if you want to push it down the field with that 70 OVR QB, you will likely pay the price.

As such, arm strength matters more in this game than maybe ever before. If you want to throw the ball over the top or even hit deep outs, corners, or posts before a safety can undercut you for a pick, you better have someone that can really rip it. With that in mind, we went through and found the quarterbacks with the strongest arms in the game, as that might help you pick a team to consider in Dynasty, whether it’s when you start or later on in the coaching carousel as some of these are strong armed freshman.

98 Throw Power

Austin Mack (Freshman), Alabama

97 Throw Power

JJ Kohl (Freshman), Iowa State
DJ Uiagalelei (Senior), FSU
Nico Iamaleava (Freshman), Tennessee

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Garrett Nussmeier (Junior), LSU
Jalen Milroe (Junior), Alabama
Dylan Raiola (Freshman), Nebraska
Rickie Van Buren (Sophomore), UAB
Ron Kramer (Senior), Nevada
Trey Owens (Freshman), Texas
Drew Allar (Junior), Penn State

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Callum Wither (Sophomore), Ohio
Conner Weigman (Sophomore), Texas A&M
Jackson Gilkey (Freshman), UTSA
Evan Svoboda (Junior), Wyoming
Tyler Van Dyke (Senior), Wisconsin
Arch Manning (Freshman), Texas
Maalik Murphy (Sophomore), Duke
Jayden Denegal (Junior), Michigan
Jay Butterfield (Junior), San Jose State
Ben Chamberlain (Junior), North Texas
JJ Cody (Sophomore), San Jose State
Ryan Rivers (Sophomore), Arkansas State
Eli Holstein (Freshman), Pitt
Cade Fox (Sophomore), USC
General Booty (Junior), ULM

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Ty Thompson (Junior), Tulane
Kurtis Rourke (Senior), Indiana
Max Johnson (Senior), UNC
Will Howard (Senior), Ohio State
Connor Bazelak (Senior), Bowling Green
Christopher Vizzina (Freshman), Clemson
Brock Vandagriff (Junior), Kentucky
Walker Eget (Junior), San Jose State
Luke Kromenhoek (Freshman), FSU
Brayden Dorman (Freshman), Arizona
Cash McCollum (Freshman), North Texas
Walter Taylor III (Sophomore), Colorado
Vic Sutton (Freshman), Mississippi State
TJ Finley (Junior), Western Kentucky
Cam Ward (Senior), Miami (FL)
Tate Rodemaker (Junior), Southern Miss
Seth Henigan (Senior), Memphis
Hank Brown (Freshman), Auburn
Harrison Bailey (Senior), Louisville
Brendan Sorsby (Sophomore), Cincinnati
Donovan Smith (Senior), Houston
Miles O’Neill (Freshman), Texas A&M
Jake Merklinger (Freshman), Tennessee
Amari Jones (Sophomore), FIU
Raheim Jeter (Freshman), ECU
Taylen Green (Junior), Arkansas
Ty Dieffenbach (Freshman), Pitt
Jaxson Dart (Senior), Ole Miss
Trace Campbell (Sophomore), UAB
JP Sangold (Junior), ODU
Phillip Rush (Sophomore), Wyoming
Rob Webster (Sophomore), New Mexico State
Wyatt Quinn (Sophomore), Miami (OH)
Garrison Beasley (Freshman), Western Michigan
Braden Davis (Sophomore), Syracuse
KJ Jefferson (Senior), UCF
Jacurri Brown (Sophomore), UCF
Tahj Bullock (Junior), Akron
Nate Yarnell (Junior), Pitt
Kyle Crum (Sophomore), San Diego State
Caleb McMickle (Freshman), Houston
Marco Lainez (Freshman), Iowa
Judd Anderson (Freshman), Miami (FL)
Hayden Wolff (Senior), Western Michigan
Shedeur Sanders (Senior), Colorado
John Alan Richter (Sophomore), Toledo
Sam Horn (Sophomore), Mizzou
Davis Beville (Senior), South Carolina
Carson Beck (Senior), Georgia
Brady Allen (Sophomore), Louisville

Post Malone’s pilgrimage into country music has given fans yet another track. On July 16, the “Pour Me A Drink” musician held his Bud Light-sponsored A Night In Nashville concert (read Uproxx’s review here).

During the show, attendees were treated to a taste of his forthcoming album, F1-Trillion. Today (July 19), the world gets to watch the live debut of Post’s unreleased track, “Yours,” with an official performance video.

As the visual opens, Post thanks the crowd, then provides a quick backdrop to set the record up. “This next song is not released yet,” he said. “But I wrote this song about my daughter getting married. I gotta two-year-old and I gotta long time to go.”

The somber track imagines the faithful day when Post is wheeled up conflicting emotions as his daughter goes off to create a family for herself. “Don’t know who you are, one day I’m going to / And it’s gonna break my heart when she gives hers to you / It won’t be tomorrow, but it’s gonna be too soon / When I walk her down that aisle and do what daddies have to do,” sings Post.

Watch Malone’s full live debut of “Yours” above.

F1-Trillion is out 8/16 via Mercury/Republic. Find more information here.

Domestic violence survivors are cheering on the winner of the Miss Kansas competition after she stood on stage and called out her abuser who showed up to the pageant.

Before Alexis Smith was chosen from 26 participants in the state competition on June 8, 2024 to represent Kansas in the 2025 Miss America contest, she was asked to speak on stage about her Reclaimed Respect initiative.

“My vision as the next Miss Kansas is to eliminate unhealthy and abusive relationships,” Smith said. “Matter of fact, some of you out in this audience saw me very emotional because my abuser is here today. But that’s not going to stop me from being on this Miss Kansas stage and from representing as the next Miss Kansas. Because I, and my community, deserve healthy relationships. We deserve a domestic [violence] free life.”

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@lexlex_smith

Respect Reclaimed is about reclaiming your power and standing firmly in it. On the night of Miss Kansas, my journey took an unexpected turn when someone I have been healing from tried to disrupt my peace. Instead of falling into silence, I chose to live out my vision for a better world. I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening. This isn’t about shunning others; it’s about turning our pain into purpose and channeling it in a way that unifies and uplifts. I’m ready to use my story, tools, and resources to end unhealthy relationships in all forms. My voice and advocacy will empower everyone to reclaim their own power in their own unique way. I might be small in stature, but I stand tall in strength, purpose, and power with hopes of inspiring others to do the same. #fyp #abuse #miss #misskansas #missamerica #pageant #awareness #me #relationship #respect #tiktok

In the video shared on TikTok, the new Miss Kansas wrote, “Respect Reclaimed is about reclaiming your power and standing firmly in it. On the night of Miss Kansas, my journey took an unexpected turn when someone I have been healing from tried to disrupt my peace. Instead of falling into silence, I chose to live out my vision for a better world. I took back my power—not just for myself, but for my dreams and everyone watching and listening.”

She wrote that it wasn’t about shunning anyone, but about “turning our pain into purpose and channeling it in a way that unifies and uplifts.”

“I’m ready to use my story, tools, and resources to end unhealthy relationships in all forms,” she wrote. “My voice and advocacy will empower everyone to reclaim their own power in their own unique way.

I might be small in stature, but I stand tall in strength, purpose, and power with hopes of inspiring others to do the same.”

People who have experienced abuse themselves applauded her advocacy.

“As a victim of domestic violence I applaud you for speaking out!! I watched this 10 times!! I’m still getting bullied by his parents even with a no contact order. I plan on helping women like us as well.”

“WHAT A WOMAN. This is absolutely incredible. From one survivor to another, I am SO SO proud of you for reclaiming this moment for yourself. You will do amazing things🫶🏽🫶🏽”

“Incredibly brave of you. You just made a statement for all women. I appreciate you so much.”

“As an old survivor…I’m so damn PROUD OF YOU!! Love, A Stranger💚”

“We got to see you ACTIVELY showcasing your platform LIVE IN PERSON! My upmost respect to you Miss Alexis. This is beyond any crown, I cannot wait to watch your journey. As someone who grew up around domestic violence, I have chills watching you. You will always have a supporter in me.💖 You absolutely ate that. 👑”

“YAS GIRL! As a fellow survivor, you are an inspiration and I’m so proud of you for using your voice and showing your strength.”

According to The Wichita Eagle, Smith uses her 19 years of experience as a ventriloquist to teach kids about healthy relationships with puppets as part of her Reclaimed Respect initiative. She also works full-time as a cardiothoracic ICU nurse.

According to an April 2024 Gallup poll, 54% of Americans identify as part of the middle class, with 39% identifying as “middle class” and 15% identifying as “upper-middle class.” That percentage has held fairly steady for years, but for many, what it feels like to be a middle class American has shifted.

Notably, inflation caused by the pandemic has hit middle class families hard, with incomes not keeping up with cost-of-living increases. Housing costs have skyrocketed in many areas of the country, mortgage interest rates have risen to levels not seen since the pre-Obama era and grocery bills have increased significantly. One government study found that cost of living has increased between around $800 and $1,300 a month depending on the state since 2021, putting a squeeze on everyone, including the middle class.

One woman shared that her family is just getting by and asked other people who identify as middle class to “chime in” with what they have in their savings account.

“I swear, every paycheck I am putting money into my savings, but needing to transfer it back within a few days,” shared @abbyy..rosee on TikTok. “My registration is due. My husband’s registration is due. He needed two new tires, even though they had a warranty. That’s $300. My oldest needs braces, he needs a palate expander, that’s $120 a month. Not to mention groceries are $200 more a week. Forget about feeding your family great ingredients because who has $500 a week to spend on perfect ingredients to feed your family?”

@abbyy..rosee

somethings gotta give #savings #middleclass #relatable

She explained that her husband makes enough money that they should be able to live comfortably, and that she quit her job because the cost of daycare was more than she was making.

“At some point, something has to give,” she said. “What is going on? How do I save money?”

People in the comments chimed in with their savings account totals and it was quite eye-opening. Many people shared that they have $0 saved.

“We make the most money we ever have and have zero savings. We live paycheck to paycheck and every month I don’t know how we get by.”

“I think the middle class is 1 personal disaster away from bankruptcy.”

“Y’all got savings accounts?!?! 😂”

“I used to freak out if I had under $10k in savings, now I’m happy when I have over $150. 😫”

“We make almost 100,000 a year with no savings!!!! It’s always something!!”

“I’m lucky if we have $500-$1K for an emergency. every single time we start saving something happens. the vet, the cars, the kids… something.”

“Savings account? I transfer money each paycheck but always end up needing to transfer it back. My husband makes great money too but we are scraping by.”

“$803 but we have to pay a $750 deductible this week b/c my Husband hit a deer soooo… back at it 😭 It’s exhausting. Constantly draining it, refilling it, transferring.”

Some people shared that they do have some savings, but several said it was because they’d had an inheritance or other chunk of money come their way. Many people shared that their savings has dwindled as increased costs have taken their toll. Some people gave lifestyle advice to save money, but most agreed that just the basics have gotten so expensive it’s harder to make ends meet much less put extra into savings.

Thankfully, the inflation issue appears to be waning, but even just plateauing at their current financial reality isn’t ideal for many American families. Middle class is supposed to be a comfortable place to be—not rich, but well enough off to feel secure. That’s not how many middle class folks feel, though. Most Americans don’t have anything close to the amount of money saved that is recommended across the age spectrum, but at least hearing that others are in the same boat is somewhat comforting.

It can be vulnerable to put your financial reality out there, but it’s helpful to hear what other people are doing and dealing with so we all feel less alone when we’re struggling. Perhaps if people were more open about money, we’d all be able to help one another find ways to improve our financial situations rather than lamenting our empty savings accounts and wondering how to change it.

As people age, society expects them to fit into a neat little box of what is deemed appropriate. This can be anything from what job an older person has to their style of clothing to how they speak. Societal rules like these often go unspoken—that is, until you break them. That’s when people have a lot to say about things that are seemingly no one else’s business.

Things like women over 50 having brightly colored hair, wearing tall heels or having hair down their backs. Apparently women over a certain age are all supposed to go to a salon to get the granny cut and wear clothes that identify them as over an arbitrary age. But older women are starting to rebel against the status quo and looking fabulous while doing it.

Arlinda, who runs the page funkingafter50 on Instagram explains to Style Like U that due to her dressing in styles she likes, people often seem surprised. She has gotten some stares but she takes those moments and uses them as a teaching moment in a way.

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Arlinda has no interest in keeping up with what society has to say about how women her age dress. “They say women of a certain age shouldn’t wear things that are above our knee. You see my face, why can’t I show my 66-year-old knees if I can show my 66-year-old face,” she ponders to Style Like U.

But it’s not just knees she’s showing. The grandmother wears crop tops, bold colored bras that peek from under her shirts and brightly colored lipstick. It honestly looks like she’s having a blast with her style, commenters also agree.

“Fly girls don’t have an expiration baby. When you got it, you got it,” one person cheers.

“She’s eating the younger girlies up in the fashion department! I love this,” another gushes.

“No explanation needed Queen!!! Love your body and teach others to love theirs. There ain’t two the same and we are all gorgeous queens. I’m almost 40 and trying to have this amount of self love and I’m getting there, but you are an inspiration,” someone writes.

“Honey, she is my new muse. Don’t want to wait until I’m 66 to have this level of self-love,” someone else shares.

Arlinda is an inspiration to a whole generation of women just by being herself. The amount of joy she exudes from wearing whatever makes her feel good is contagious. There’s nothing wrong with a little “nana belly” according to the fashionista and it seems plenty of others agree. Life is short, wear the crop top.

Like most parents, Stephany Faublas often used an iPad to keep her 5-year-old daughter Cadence Gray entertained, especially during work hours when she couldn’t devote a lot of her attention.

But Faublas shared that she began noticing behavioral changes in Cadence after an extended amount of screentime.

“We were butting heads a lot,” Faublas told Good Morning America. “I was noticing her ability to listen to the full direction was not there or was decreasing. Her patience was decreasing [and] so was mine.”

Hoping to nip the problem in the bud, Faublas began a “no iPad challenge,” swapping out the normal hours of screen time for practicing writing the alphabet.

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Though the 34-year-old mom was initially nervous about how her daughter would react, she was pleasantly surprised by Cadence’s enthusiasm at the challenge. So much so that she decided to record the journey and share it on TikTok.

“Her excitement to start made me want to record and keep the moment – just in case the enthusiasm wasn’t the same the next day. I figured I could use this footage to remind her of her excitement to learn,” Faublas told Fox News Digital.

So far, we’ve seen the adorable Cadence have a blast with letters B through M, and viewers are having a ton of fun along with her. So many have written in commending the young girl’s confidence and bold personality.

“It’s giving class president,” said one of the top comments.

What’s more, Faublas noted that those previous behavior issues “went away immediately.”

“Her ability to have a little bit more patience was there. I also felt like her emotional responses were also much more tempered,” she told GMA.

Though quitting screens cold turkey isn’t always necessary, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends limiting screen time for children between the ages of 2 and 5 to less than one hour per day and doesn’t recommend any screen time for kids under 2. Still, the organization recognizes that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.

Regardless, it’s a good idea for parents to have some ideas for screen-free activities—particularly those that stimulate the body and the brain. Previously, Simple Life posted a video sharing a whopping 30 games that do just that. And luckily, none require a ton of props. A tissue here, a stuffed animal there. All in all, pretty darn simple.

As this video, along with Stephany and Cadence’s story, shows, finding ways to reduce screen time can be enjoyable both for parents and kids. Parents get a bonding opportunity, kids get to learn in exciting new ways. It’s just a win-win for everyone. IPads can definitely be a godsend at times, but we all know that relying on them too much doesn’t do parents, or their kids, any favors.

To follow along on Stephany and Cadence’s “No iPad challenge,” find them on TikTok.

Kids and phones—it’s the modern age dilemma of every parent. When to let them have a phone, what apps to allow them to use on it, how to monitor their usage…none of these are questions with set answers. The only thing we do know is that making the wrong choice can lead to serious consequences for a child’s mental health and development, so parents are understably wary.

One mom named Kailey recently shared how this anxiety even led her to taking away her tween daughter’s phone after she had already had it for a year.

In a video posted to her TikTok, Kelly explained that at first giving her two daughters phones at the age of 10 brought her “peace of mind.”

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Phones gave her daughters more independence to roam the neighborhood and go to friend’s houses, while still being able to contact her if anything went wrong, and she could track their whereabouts. This felt especially important to her since so many parents don’t have landlines, nor do they exchange each other’s contact information.

Kelly “struggled” with this decision, given all the information out about granting kids phones too early, but ultimately thought this was the best option.

That is…until now. Kailey went on to say that over a year’s time, she has seen firsthand how “detrimental” phones can be.

Perhaps most surprising of all, Kailey added that it wasn’t social media that was the big problem. “You can block the social media. That stuff’s all easy,” she said.

“What it is … is hormonal girls being jealous.”

Kailey then shared the story of how her daughter was out with friends when one of those friends posted on Snapchat. Her daughter doesn’t have Snapchat but was recorded in the video. Another friend who does have the app saw the video and demanded to know why Kailey’s daughter was hanging out with that friend instead of them. Cue drama.

“And then my daughter feels bad and she has to make up a lie because she doesn’t want to hurt that friend’s feelings.”

While Kailey knows that jealousy and teenage girls have gone hand-in-hand long before iPhones, she felt that—despite all the precautions she’s taken—it only made the problem worse. This eventually led her to deactivating her now 11-year-old’s phone.

“We can’t keep them from having phones forever…they’re a part of the teenage experience now, but at what expense?” she concluded. “We as parents need to band together and agree that we’re not going to allow it until 14, 15, 16.”

Down in the comments, other parents understood Kailey’s experience completely.

One person shared “My daughter is 11. I reluctantly got her the phone last summer. I totally regret it. The texting drama is nuts. I have all social media blocked.”

However, many felt like this decision would bring about more problems—either by compromising her daughter’s trust or ending up making her feel isolated from her friends.

“When you take it away they will hide more from you,” one person said. “They will make accounts on their friends phones, and now they won’t talk to you about problems.”

“I was cut off from my friends because I was the only one without a phone (at 11 specifically) and it was the worst thing for friendships. Nobody cared to include the girl they can’t text. I’m 26 now,” another recalled.

Others pointed out that it might be overlooking the real problem: navigating conflict.

As one person put it: “It sounds like you need to have multiple conversations with her about making good friends vs bad friends and being mindful about who she surrounds herself with and a lesson on boundaries with friends.”

In a follow-up video, Kailey stood by her choice, acknowledging that while we’re never going back to a time without smartphones and their inherent issues, she thinks that waiting until her kid is older is the necessary “happy medium.”

Finding a happy medium is a good way of putting it, for sure. And getting to that balanced place might require some experimentation, since no two kids are alike, and since this is still fairly new parenting territory. Of course, knowing how long to keep kids as kids is not new and will always be a challenge for parents in one way or another.

TikToker EchoBadlistener has his hands full with four dogs: Morty (deaf and blind), Echo (deaf and visually impaired), Winston (overweight), and Frank, who, in his owner’s estimation, is “not too smart.”

But even though Morty can’t see or hear, he enthusiastically greets his owners whenever they come home. A recent TikTok video that has been seen over 9,000 times shows how Morty has given his high-energy hellos to his owners over the past four years.

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Although Morty sometimes takes a little while to find their exact location, once he zeroes in, he leaps up and grabs them with his paws or makes excited doggie donuts in the middle of the kitchen.

@echobadlistener

Little kangaroo #deafdogsoftiktok #blinddogsoftiktok #fyp #threedeafdogs #morty #babymorty

So, how does Morty know when his family is home if he can’t hear or see? Dogs have an incredible sense of smell up to 10,000 times greater than a human’s. So he picks up on their scent when they enter the house. He is also probably very sensitive to familiar vibrations, such as a door opening and closing, and can feel footsteps when people walk across the floor.

Morty and his sister Echo are deaf and have vision problems due to birth defects that come from breeding merle dogs. Merle is a genetic pattern in a dog’s coat that causes irregular patches of color on a lighter background. It’s also known as dapple in some breeds. When two merle dogs breed, each puppy in the litter has a 25% chance of becoming a double merle. Double merles have a very high chance of having congenital eye defects and hearing impairment due to a lack of hair pigment in the inner ear.

But being deaf and blind doesn’t stop Morty from recognizing his owners and showing them what a good doggo he is.

Millennials have witnessed a lot in their time. Some of these events have been positive, like a decrease in the gender pay gap, more LGBTQ rights and sweeping technological advancements that, despite their flaws, do provide unprecedented access to information and resources.

On the other hand, the slew of economic crises, pandemics, natural disasters and tragedies incited by gun violence make it easy to see why this group is labeled “the unluckiest generation.”

And since change continues at an ever increasing rate, who’s to say what life will look like in 50 or even 10 years time?

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Recently, someone on Ask Reddit posed the question:

“Millennials, what do you think we’re gonna possibly see in our lifetime?”

The general consensus was certainly a mixed bag. Below are some of the answers that stood out.

Many predicted massive, not-so-great shifts as a direct result of global warming and climate change.

Photo of a forest firePhoto credit: Canva

Or as physicistdeluxe put it, “lots of heat and weird weather.”

“I live north of Seattle and have for all my life…Snow would stick around for a few days and we’d have multiple snow days. Now snow dumps once or twice, if that, and is gone by mid-day. Used to go camping before school started and we’d be able to have a campfire. Can’t do that anymore as burn bans start in early July. Snow in the mountains all year round. Not anymore.” —Hungrypotato19

A911owner seconded:

“I live in the northeast; I’m convinced we’re less than 10 years away from having our first winter where —-we don’t get any snow. The last few years have seen very little and it melts quickly. “

Only a slightly brighter note, quite a few expected to see impactful medical advancements, especially thanks to gene therapy.

Finger pointing at futuristic medical hologramPhoto credit: Canva

Fulcrum87 anticipated a “cure for cystic fibrosis” in a couple of decades, while miss_kimba and others counted on “cancers and systemic diseases” being eliminated.

On the same front, UnluckyCustard8130 “guaranteed” that there would be an equal uptick in “designer” babies. While someone else theorized that “AI therapists” would become mainstream.

Meanwhile, someone else just hoped for “universal healthcare including dental 😭.”

Speaking of healthcare, PracticalCows (and others) stated that this generation would witness “our healthcare system collapsing when all the Baby Boomers need end of life care at the same time.”

“This will be what creates the final push for universal healthcare. The only generation who opposes it in large numbers will be the ones who need it most,” said BillionaireGhost.

Millennials agree that the future workplace will also likely continue to change at a rapid pace, and in a way that provides more work-life balance.

Photo of a group of coworkers with laptopsPhoto credit: Canva

“With luck, widespread adoption of the 4-day work week,” declared Certain-Mongoose6323.

As one commenter pointed out, “there’s more benefits for both employee and employer than downsides, enough studies have proven it at this point. And just like with the five day work week, any company that doesn’t follow suit will find their labor pool all going to their competitors.”

Especially as the 2024 election looms near, many millennials worry about the future of democracy as we know it.

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Jamanuh1776 went so far as to say we “might actually witness the fall of the American Empire.”

_idiot_kid_ added:

“As an American this thought is always in the back of my head. The USA is a really young nation. And it’s doing many things completely wrong. When I’m old my birth country may no longer exist. That’s a serious fear that I’m not sure older generations ever experienced.”

As far as the economy is concerned, folks are understandably wary.

Man looking at graphPhoto credit: Canva

“I hope I see us all being able to relax, afford a decent house and get married if that’s what we want. I just want to wake up next to someone I like in my own home. I don’t know why this is suddenly some kind of fantasy akin to winning the lottery,” lamented enchiladasundae.

Meanwhile, Jahstin predicted Costco’s famous $1.50 hot dog combo might one day cost $2.

“This here is the scariest one,” one person joked. Honestly, with rising food prices, concern is warranted.

People also expected continued progress in society’s relationship to space travel.

Picture of a rocket in spacePhoto credit: Canva

Southern_Lead_1469 suggested that in 25-35 years space tourism would become “a real thing,” while BlinksTale quipped “The Mars landing will be neat.”

But again, it’s not all gloom and doom. The conversation wasn’t without some signature millennial humor.

Match0311 hoped to see “Cereal bags that open and close like a Ziploc bag,” while another joked that “The 5th dentist will finally cave and they’ll all recommend Trident gum.”

“I’m looking forward to those personal assistant robots like in ‘Fallout’ where they do your laundry and dishes and occasionally kill you,” said nzodd, while Blitz-IMP just wants there to be a “Spice Girls reunion.”

Lastly, one person is holding out for a future where his wife “actually breaks down a cardboard box before throwing it in the recycling bin.” It’s important to hold onto our dreams, no matter how lofty.

A woman on Reddit is sharing a problem that far too many women experience: being married to a man who won’t do his fair share around the house. But this woman, who goes by the user name Fantastic_Guess1918, 28, appears to be in an extreme situation. Her husband, 33, does absolutely nothing and hasn’t worked in over a year.

She says the big problem is that he’s a “mama’s boy” who never had any responsibilities growing up and hasn’t taken on any as an adult. His mother owns a business and created a position he’s had since 16, but he never goes to work and still gets paid.

Even though he doesn’t bother going to work, the wife still takes on 100% of the domestic responsibilities in the home. She was so frustrated that she asked for help on the Relationship Advice forum.

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“My husband and I have been married for 10+ years and I’m now learning what weaponized incompetence is,” she opens her story, referencing a passive-aggressive tactic people use to avoid responsibility. He also lives like a slob, making Mountain Dew pyramids on the side of the bed and throwing rotten food down the sink, even though they don’t have a garbage disposal.

“I was young and naive when we got married and assumed that he would grow up. That he would share the housework and not leave me with literally everything,” she continued. “I honestly didn’t even expect 50/50. I would have taken 90% if he’d just do 10%. He did nothing. I mean NOTHING. I didn’t want to put up with it and I tried my hardest not to. We argued about it all the time.”

A wife can no longer take her husband’s laziness. via Timur Weber/Pexels

To make things worse, Fantastic_Guess1918 has severe depression which makes keeping up with household duties even more difficult. She hopes to one day have two children, but those dreams have been dashed because she is already raising a childish husband.

The situation got so bad she gave an “empty threat” of divorce, and he did the dishes. “I was in shock, the first thing he’s done. Immediately afterward my rocky confidence in his ability to change was shattered more when he approached me and wanted PRAISE for cleaning the dishes,” Fantastic_Guess1918 wrote.

“I just feel like I’m in such a bad place now, and I feel completely trapped,” she told the Relationship Advice forum. ”I don’t want to leave; I just want things to be better. I want him to hear me. I want him to care about how stressed I constantly am.”

The good news is that the forum posters gave her some very good advice, although it probably wasn’t exactly what she wanted to hear.

1. Get a divorce

“I can’t even begin to tell you how many women I’ve known in situations like this (it’s literally in the triple digits). Absolutely NONE of those men EVER changed. If anything, they just got worse the longer their atrocious lack of effort was enabled/put up with.”

“It’s easier to dump a mama’s boy than to divorce a mama’s boy, and both are easier than trying to change a mama’s boy.”

2. You’re choosing this

“You are choosing this life by staying. You are choosing to be stressed out by a partner who doesn’t care about you. He’s never had to care about or take care of anything or anyone. Why would he magically start now? Because you want him to? People don’t change just because we want them to; they change when THEY want to.”

3. Get a job

“The ability to leave is to negotiate from strength with a partner. As long as you sit there saying ‘I have nowhere to go!’ you are giving him all the power. Open a private account, put your pay there.”

4. Reframe the narrative

“It helps to keep this perspective: you’re not trapped, you’re in planning mode. Once you start making a plan for your escape, you will feel FAR less trapped. It doesn’t matter if that plan takes 1 year, 2 years or 3 years. You can come up with a plan that will allow you to leave your husband eventually.”

5. Stop working for him

“If he constantly leaves junk around the house, buy a big container and just drop all of errant junk into that container. If he doesn’t cook or do laundry, only cook or do laundry for yourself. You can even buy yourself a locking mini fridge and keep your leftovers and groceries in that fridge so he doesn’t benefit from your labor.”

“Find ways so his mess can remain his problem — even if that just means constantly putting his junk in the trash when he refuses to pick it up. Be petty with it (you’ve earned it) and have fun!”

A wife can no longer take her husband’s laziness.via Timur Weber/Pexels

6. Get a housekeeper

“Have him pay for a maid to do his half of the work and stop arguing about it. That’s the only way to continue the marriage. If he has ‘don’t go to work for a year’ money, he has housekeeper money.”

7. Men don’t grow up

“My dad told me something that made a huge impact on me. He said that men don’t ‘grow up’ and don’t ‘mature.’ They are who they are whether they’re 5, 15, or 55. That’s who they are and that’s who they are always going to be.”

8. Depression lies to you

“You are not trapped, that’s just the lie your depression tells you. You have the power to break free, you just don’t believe in yourself.”

9. Get a support system

“Do you have a therapist, etc? You need someone to talk to about these issues! There are so many concerns you have implied may exist, but not delineated. Do you not have any kind of support system? Parents, siblings, old friends, other relatives? If not, it’s time for you to put on your big girl panties and get a life. You need to make a life for yourself! That includes a job, money management, housing, etc. This balloon you are living within is about to pop.”

10. He was made that way

“The way your husband’s mommy makes excuses for him and treats him like a baby is how so many momma’s boys are raised. Mom Boys are raising defective men ON PURPOSE. Because they don’t want to be ‘abandoned.’ Do not be with a momma’s boy!! Look out for yourself.”

Even though the woman said she didn’t want to leave her husband and only wanted him to understand her situation, she was given a lot of hard truths about her marriage. She is fighting an uphill battle trying to turn her husband into a responsible man when he was raised to let the women in his life do everything for him. So, the good news is that even though she may not want to leave him, she received a lot of practical advice on gaining independence from him so she can at least forge her own path instead of being dependent on a man who gives little in return.