Anyone who’s had a baby knows how the sound of crying can feel like torture. Literally.
If you’re lucky, you get a baby who rarely cries, but some babies spend weeks or months being screechy, colicky little fussbuckets whose unbearable cuteness is the only thing that keeps you from throwing them out the window. (If you haven’t had one of those babies, that may sound horrifying, but if you know, you know.)
Sometimes babies cry because they’re hungry, which is a problem easily fixed. Sometimes babies cry because their diaper is soiled—also an easy fix. Sometimes babies cry because they are clearly overtired—easy to fix on paper, but not always so simple in practice. Still, you at least know what’s bugging them.
But sometimes babies cry and you can’t figure out why. It might be gas, but they can’t say, “My tummy hurts.” Maybe they want to be held or cuddled, but not like that. Nope, not like that. Not like that, either. Perhaps they see all these big humans doing things they can’t do and they’re just mad about being a helpless baby. Who knows?
With fussy babies, the traditional “feed them, change them, rock them” advice often doesn’t make a dent. The crying can make you feel like you’re losing your mind, so if someone figures out a trick to get them to stop—even for a while—it feels like a godsend.
That’s one reason this video of a dad demonstrating how he gets his baby to stop crying in 18 seconds flat has gone viral.
In a TikTok video, Jonathan, aka “Tuque Daddy,” shows how he holds his 2-month-old son with one hand and wraps his little arms across his body in a “self hug” with the other. Then he holds one hand over the baby’s arms and torso and the other cradling him under the diaper. A little gentle bobbing in this position and voila! Baby stops crying in 18 seconds.
Watch the magic happen (and just ignore the rogue “8” that gets stuck on the screen):
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See how even just a few seconds of that crying sends an electric jolt down your spine? It was enough for some commenters to say “Maybe I need to rethink wanting a baby.” (My 13-year-old son came into the room while I was watching the video and said, “That’s so annoying. How did you have babies?” Yep, that was you, dude. You’re welcome. After the second viewing, he actually said, “Wow. Sorry.”)
But then the unbearable cuteness comes in, doesn’t it? Gracious, that little one’s face at the end. It’s amazing how quickly babies can take us from “Arrrrgh” to “Awwww.”
And this daddy’s gentle patience and reassurance is a beautiful cherry on top. “You alright, my boy?” So dang sweet.
Speaking of sweetness (and unbearable cuteness), check out Tuque Daddy’s convo with his boy in another video:
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And as for the way he calmed the baby down? That’s a legitimate technique that a “magician pediatrician” in Santa Monica, California shows the parents of his patients. Dr. Robert Hamilton has been treating babies and kids for more than three decades. His video describing “the hold” has been viewed more than 53 million times on YouTube and he has been featured in videos all around the world for his ability to almost instantly calm babies down.
If you have a baby in your life, give “the hold” a try the next time they’re crying and see if the magic happens for you.