It’s not easy living away from family, especially when you live in a completely different country. The distance can become increasingly more difficult to adjust to when tragedy strikes your family back home. It can be cost prohibitive to fly back home and depending on your employer’s attendance policy, it may be nearly impossible.
Jarom Ngakuru recently faced this very situation. The New Zealander of Māori descent is living in the United States while his family still resides in his home country. Unfortunately, when Ngakuru’s grandmother died, he was unable to make the trip back to the island to give his proper goodbye.
Not being able to attend his grandmother’s funeral left him sad and broken. He wanted nothing more than to be there with his family. Ngakuru’s friends knew how important it was for him to send his grandmother off properly so the group of American colleagues worked in secret to learn the haka.
Haka is a traditional dance performed by Māori people for important events like weddings, funerals, and significant life events as a sign of respect. The dance has been known to bring viewers to tears, and this haka is doing the same. Not just because of the haka itself, but because of everything that went into a group of American men learning a dance from another culture to honor their friend and his grandmother.
Ngakuru uploaded the video to his TikTok page with the caption, “Hardest part about living in America is that we live so far away. I couldn’t make it home for my nan’s funeral and I was BROKEN! So my boys at work learned the haka without me knowing and brought home to me.”
See why commenters could not stop crying below:
@jaromngakuru Hardest part about living in america 🇺🇸 is that we live so far away. I couldnt make it home for my nans funeral and i was BROKEN! so my boys at work learned the haka without me knowing and brought home to me 🇳🇿🏠 #haka #grateful #maori #newzealand #brothers #fyp #foryou
“I don’t think they even understand how beautiful of an act this is,” one person writes.
“There is so much depth of emotion attached to the Haka I uncontrollably cry every time. This was beautiful,” another says.
“Well I’m sobbing like a baby in my office now,” a commenter reveals.
“You can feel the mana [spiritual power] and the aroha [love] they have for you they know your mamae [hurt], what a beautiful tribute to you and our culture. Arohanui [deep affection] for your loss,” someone else writes.
Ngakuru explains in the comments that it’s his brother-in-law, who is Tongan, leading the chant. He is also the one that taught their friends the haka in a single day. What an impressive show of love for their grieving friend. There’s no doubt that Ngakuru will remember this for the rest of his life.