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Arctic Monkeys Cater To Day-One Fans On Their ‘The Car’ North American Tour

“Who the f*ck are Arctic Monkeys?!” a clearly inebriated dude yelled from behind me each time the band paused between songs. For any other band, that question might be an insult. But for the British rock band, it’s not. It’s actually a callback to their debut 2006 EP that introduced them with the appropriately titled 5-track project Who The F*ck Are Arctic Monkeys? Obnoxiousness aside, that dude’s shouts were indicative of the crowd that showed up to see Arctic Monkeys perform on night two of their three-night sold-out tour stop at the Kia Forum in Los Angeles. Many people there were day-one fans.

When you’re a band that has been releasing music as long as Arctic Monkeys have — 18 years to be exact — you’re sure to have cultivated a committed fan base. And when you’re a band with seven era-defining albums to your discography, going to a live concert is a stroll down band merch memory lane. The line to get in was packed with fans repping their favorite Arctic Monkeys era like a badge of honor. Though the majority were from 2013’s AM cycle and featured that recognizable oscilloscope logo, I clocked band tees from nearly every album. I myself was rocking one I picked up at their Suck It And See support tour in 2011 (is this where I out myself as someone who had more than one Arctic Monkeys poster plastered on my childhood bedroom walls?). No matter which era we showed up supporting, there was one thing we all had in common: Everyone wore black.

Despite their recently released album The Car, which follows the loungy feel of the band’s more conceptual Tranquility Base Hotel & Casino, there was a consensus among the crowd, or at least in the women’s bathroom line, that people were most excited to hear Arctic Monkeys play their earlier hits. But when it comes to a band like Arctic Monkeys, what exactly can be considered their “earlier hits?” Is it strictly music from their pre-2010s albums, 2006’s debut Whatever People Say I Am, That’s What I’m Not, 2007’s follow-up Favourite Worst Nightmare, and 2009’s Humbug? Does the band’s behemoth 2013 album AM — the record that catapulted the band into international fame and gave them their first Billboard Hot 100 entry — now fall into that category? After all, it has now been 10 years since that album was released (can you believe it?). Semantics aside, while each era of Arctic Monekys was represented in their setlist, the band did deliver on the hope that they’d play their earlier hits.

For most bands releasing an album, tours are typically meant to be a way to promote their most recent LP. But Arctic Monkeys took a different approach. Instead, Arctic Monkey’s North American tour is about fan service, it celebrates their die-hard day-one listeners, as well as those who discovered them through their AM radio hits. Rather than playing mostly songs from The Car, Arctic Monkeys opted to only deliver three songs, two of which were singles — “There’d Better Be A Mirrorball” (which there was, of course), and “Body Paint” — after opening with the languid number “Sculptures Of Anything Goes.” Singer Alex Turner fully committed to his role, leaving behind his once signature leather jacket in favor of dressing like if your favorite uncle happened to be a well-dressed rock star: a fitted suit over a pin-striped shirt buttoned almost scandalously low accented by a gold chain, sepia-toned sunglasses, and hair floppy enough that brushing his hands through it elicited deafening screams from the crowd.

Though much of the setlist has remained the same throughout their North American tour, each night they swap out one or two songs from the bill. As such, there were some slight changes during night two at the Forum. They traded in “From The Ritz To Rubble” for “View From The Afternoon,” two songs that appeared on their debut LP. Instead of performing “Teddy Picker,” like they had the night before, the band launched into a rendition of “Cornerstone,” a song that has grown to become one of my personal favorites from their discography. Since it’s one of their more ballad-like tracks, the crowd put up their cell phone lights to transform the Forum into a twinkling starry sky. Of course, Arctic Monkeys appeased the AM crowd by playing several songs off the album. They shredded through the three biggest hits, “Why’d You Only Call Me When You’re High?” and “Do I Wanna Know?” before closing out the night with “R U Mine?” They also performed “Arabella,” which Turner sweetly dedicated to drummer Matt Helders’ daughter.

Though the crowd was filled with people who knew most of the words to their songs, it was likely many concertgoers’ first time seeing the band perform since it has now been five years since they crossed the pond to tour. Those who have seen a stadium concert before may have been expecting a big lights show, a special guest performance, or perhaps even some sort of exciting choreography. Arctic Monkeys’ concert had none of that. Save for a glowing circular screen putting Turner’s knowing charm on full display and a massive disco ball that dropped for one single song, the concert didn’t have much in terms of theatrics. Turner hardly even addressed the crowd. Instead, Arctic Monkeys leaned into doing what they do best; they donned suave suits, fired up the crowd with raucous hits, and let their music speak for themselves.

The Car is out now via Domino. Find more information here.

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Ian McKellen Told Patrick Stewart To Turn Down ‘Star Trek: The Next Generation’ And Now Knows That Was Terrible Advice

Captain Jean-Luc Picard is easily Patrick Stewart‘s most iconic role. It put the classically trained Shakespearean actor on the Hollywood map as he helmed the Enterprise on the beloved ’90s staple Star Trek: The Next Generation. However, at least one friend advised Stewart to turn down the hit television series, and the actor hasn’t let the friend forget it about since. That pal? Sir Ian McKellen, of course.

In a passage from his new memoir, Making It So, Stewart reveals that McKellen was strongly against him taking the Picard role. McKellen would physically stop Stewart if he had to.

“When I told him I was going to sign the contract, he almost bodily prevented me from doing so,” Stewart wrote via Insider. “‘No!’ he said. ‘No, you must not do that. You must not. You have too much important theater work to do. You can’t throw that away to do TV. You can’t. No!’”

While Stewart trusted the advice of McKellen more than anyone, he ultimately accepted the role because chances like this don’t happen often.

“I had to tell him that I felt theater would return to my life whenever I was ready for it, whereas an offer of the lead role in an American TV series might never come again,” Stewart wrote. Despite not listening to his counsel, McKellen still gave Stewart a big hug and wished him the best even though he reacted to the decision like Stewart was “enlisting the army.”

Now, obviously, Stewart’s decision was the right one as he went on to make TV history. As for McKellen, he’s eaten crow as any good friend would do.

“In the years since, we have become dear pals and ‘X-Men’ colleagues, and Ian has acknowledged that he was wrong and I was right,” Stewart wrote. “More than once, in fact – primarily because I like making him say those words.”

(Via Insider)

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Oklahoma City Thunder Offseason Report Card

The Oklahoma City Thunder took a leap into playoff contention last season, making it to the second round of the Play-In out West before losing to the Minnesota Timberwolves. Leading the charge for OKC’s first 40-win season since 2019-20 was Shai Gilgeous-Alexander, who has become a bonafide superstar at the point guard position for the Thunder. Around him is a cast of intriguing young talent, and the Thunder are steadily approaching the time to start consolidating that young talent to make a run at being a firm playoff squad in the West.

However, Sam Presti has preached patience in OKC since they started this rebuild and for at least one more year, they’ll lean on their youngsters. Part of the impetus for that approach is still needing to see Chet Holmgren on an NBA court, after he had to sit out his rookie year with a foot injury, and much of the excitement for what the Thunder can be this season revolves around how he can fill the biggest hole from last year’s roster in the form of a real frontcourt presence. Another year of evaluation in OKC isn’t a bad thing, and they’ll look to see who continues to take strides internally as they figure out what their core group should be moving forward.

While it was a fairly quiet summer in Oklahoma City, there were some roster additions and plenty of other deals made by Presti and company that we will grade out here.

Draft: B

For the first time in a few years, the Thunder did not have a pick in the top 10, but did move up from 12th to 10th in a draft night deal with Dallas to take on Davis Bertans’ contract. With the 10th pick, they took Kentucky guard Cason Wallace, who fits their recent trend of adding players with strong defensive traits in the Draft, but his fit is a bit of a question given a glut of young guards in OKC and Wallace not being a high-level shooter. For those reasons, our Brad Rowland gave them a B on Draft night for the selection.

The fit could be a bit of a challenge for Wallace in OKC with a backcourt that is already quite full with Shai Gilgeous-Alexander, Josh Giddey, Lu Dort, and others. In a vacuum, Wallace is a solid pick here, though, as he might be the best perimeter defender in the draft. There are some questions about his offensive ceiling, particularly as a shooter, but the overall package is encouraging.

They also added Keyontae Johnson on a two-way, who doesn’t figure to be a major factor in the rotation this season but will be up and down from the G League squad as a deep bench option at forward.

Free Agency/Contract Extensions: B-

Unsurprisingly, the Thunder weren’t major players on the free agency market this summer, but they did make one rather fascinating addition. Nine years after he was drafted in the second round by the Sixers, Vasilje Micic has finally left Europe for the NBA, as the Serbian guard who won back to back EuroLeague titles and Final Four MVPs with Anadolu Efes signed with the Thunder this summer on a three-year deal. While the Thunder haven’t added much in the way of NBA veterans, Micic will give them a veteran presence in the backcourt behind Shai Gilgeous-Alexander and Josh Giddey, which could help stabilize their bench units and provide Mark Daigneault with some interesting guard combinations to play with. We’ll have to see what the full impact of Micic’s arrival is, but given their heavy reliance on Gilgeous-Alexander a year ago, it should be helpful adding another capable ball-handler who can create for himself and others.

Trades: C

Sam Presti’s Cap Space Laundering Emporium was once again open for business this summer, as he made a number of trades, almost none of which figure to have a real impact on the Thunder’s on-court performance this season, that netted OKC more draft capital for the trouble of taking taking on contracts and helping facilitated other deals. Davis Bertans remains on the roster and could provide some floor-spacing for a team that needs that, provided he can stay on the floor defensively. Victor Oladipo figures to spend much of this season rehabbing after tearing his patellar tendon in the playoffs, as he returns to OKC in a salary dump deal from the Heat. Patty Mills passed through OKC from Brooklyn on his way to Atlanta, with Rudy Gay, TyTy Washington, and Usman Garuba all also being dealt to the Thunder and subsequently waived. I am no longer particularly impressed by Presti working his cap magic to hoard more future second round picks. All of the moves he made this summer make absolute business sense, but I can’t give anything higher than a C until a trade is made to genuinely upgrade the actual roster rather.

All told, it was a perfectly good summer for the Thunder. They didn’t make any ground-shaking moves, but added a helpful veteran (even if one who is unfamiliar to NBA fans) and continue to leave themselves future flexibility around an extremely promising young core, headlined by a legitimate superstar. At some point it’ll be time to cash in that draft capital and consolidate some of their young talent — OKC could have as many as 10 team options to pick up for players on rookie scale deals this summer — in order to maximize Gilgeous-Alexander, who has an argument as a top-10 player in the NBA this season. How good Holmgren looks as a rookie could determine how quickly Presti and company expedite that process. Last year the Thunder made the leap into the Play-In out West, which is no small feat, but taking the next step to being a playoff contender is among the hardest jumps to make as a team and makes this a very interesting season in Oklahoma City.

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Here Are The Musical Guests For ‘The Late Show With Stephen Colbert’ This Week

After 148 days, the Writers Guild Of America strike is over. The most immediate apparent change in light of that is this week’s return of late-night TV shows. That also means the return of late-night TV musical performances, so here are the artists taking the stage on The Late Show With Stephen Colbert this week.

Louis Cato — Monday, October 2

Cato, who took over as The Late Show‘s bandleader after Jon Batiste’s departure in 2022, was a natural choice to perform on the show’s first night back. He delivered a rendition of “Reflections,” the title track from his latest album.

Boygenius — Tuesday, October 3

This performance is perfect timing for Boygenius: The trio (Phoebe Bridgers, Lucy Dacus, Julien Baker) just announced their new EP The Rest and they’re playing at the Hollywood Bowl later this month.

Japanese Breakfast — Wednesday, October 4

Michelle Zauner became a literary star over the past couple years with her successful memoir Crying In H Mart. Her latest Japanese Breakfast album is 2021’s Jubilee, so a song from that feels likely for her Colbert performance.

Thursday, October 5

As of this post, there is currently no musical guest listed for the Thursday episode, per TV Guide.

Friday, October 6

As of this post, the guests for the Friday episode have yet to be announced, per TV Guide.

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Conan O’Brien Only Had Nice Things To Say About His Time On ‘The Simpsons’ During An Interview With Ed Sheeran, With One ‘Terrible’ Exception

The Simpsons writers’ room was the origin of many of the greatest jokes in television history. It was also a total dump.

On a recent episode of the Conan O’Brien Needs a Friend podcast, host and former Simpsons writer Conan O’Brien was asked by guest Ed Sheeran if he had any stories about his time on the animated series. “What’s funny is that, you know, I was there from… let’s see… Simpsons fans know everything, and they get upset that I don’t know it because I was there and I was there during a fairly early stage considering how long it’s run,” Conan said. First off, yes, we do. Secondly, “a fairly early stage” is a nice way of saying “the golden era.”

After sharing how episodes were pitched, O’Brien discussed the urine-soaked hellhole (or pee pee-soaked heckhole) that was the Simpsons writers’ room. “So many people think, ‘Oh my god, this epic television show known for its really good writers,’ these people I got to work with are insanely talented, and the room is just awful. The room is terrible,” he said. “It looks like the worst — I mean, it did at the time, I think it’s much nicer now — there was just a bad shag carpet. Sofas that if, y’know, you’re in your first year at college or university, you just get them off the sidewalk.” You can see it for yourself here.

The writers would “sit there and eat fried food” (and Butterfinger BB’s), and O’Brien sat next to another writer who “smoked all the time… so when I die, it will be because of him.” Sounds like John Swartzwelder.

You can watch a clip from the podcast above.

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King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard Announced Their New Album, ‘The Silver Cord,’ With A Trio Of Singles

In June, King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard dropped their album, PetroDragonic Apocalypse; or, Dawn of Eternal Night: An Annihilation of Planet Earth and the Beginning of Merciless Damnation. Today (October 3), the “Gila Monster” musicians have announced that their already massive discography will increase by one body of work. Later this month, the group will release their next album, The Silver Cord. Remarkably, this will be their seventh album since just the start of 2022.

As a special treat, King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard uploaded a mashup video for the project’s first three singles, “Theia,” “The Silver Cord,” and “Set.” In a statement by the group’s Stu Mackenzie, he shared the inspiration behind the tracks.

“The first version’s really condensed, trimming all the fat,” he said. “And on the second version, that first song, ‘,’eia’, is 20 minutes long. It’s the ‘everything’ version – those seven songs you’ve already heard on the first version, but with a whole lot of other shit we record while making it. It’s for the Gizz-heads. I love Donna Summer’s records with Giorgio Moroder, and I’d never listen to the short versions now – I’m one of those people who wants to hear the whole thing. We’re testing the boundaries of people’s attention spans when it comes to listening to music, perhaps – but I’m heavily interested in destroying such concepts.”

Watch King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard’s latest video above. Continue below for the album artwork and track listing.

King Gizzard and The Lizard Wizard The Silver Cord album cover.
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1. “Theia”
2. “The Silver Cord”
3. “Set”
4. “Chang’e”
5. “Gilgamesh”
6. “Swan Song”
7. “Extinction”

The Silver Cord is out 10/27. Find more information here.

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Who Is In The Musicians Union?

With the WGA and SAG strikes in the headlines for the past several months, unions have been at the forefront of pop culture for some time. Plenty of music listeners have likely found themselves whether there is a similar guild for recording artists and musicians… and, as it turns out, yes, there is! In fact, there are two: One is the American Federation Of Musicians, while the other is SAG-AFTRA’s sound recordings division. This may lead to another question:

Who Is In The Musicians Union?

According to the American Federation Of Musicians website, 70,000 musicians comprise the AFM. These musicians are generally instrumentalists who work in the realms of film, television, on Broadway, and in live settings such as orchestras, backup bands, and more.

Some examples include International Vice President Dave Pomeroy, who has played electric and acoustic basses on over 500 albums with stars like Elton John, Willie Nelson, and more. The AFM’s International President, Tino Gagliardi, was a trumpet player in New York City, playing with the Met Opera, New York Philharmonic, NYC Ballet, and others.

And while this is good news for those musicians who play in orchestras for black-tie events, there’s a still a ways to go in terms of organizing on behalf of artists in the popular music field, who negotiate directly with major and independent record labels — and often feel like they got burned in the process.

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I’m Sorry But We Know Too Much About Kelly Ripa And Mark Consuelos’ Personal (And Sex) Lives

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos seem like a fun couple. The Live with Kelly and Mark hosts and former All My Children co-stars have been married since 1996, which is an eternity for Hollywood, and People tells me that Ripa calls working with her hunky husband “a dream come true.” Getting paid many millions of dollars to hang out with your partner? I’m happy for them. But if I ever have to hear about their personal and/or sex lives again, I’m going to scream.

I haven’t spent time in any mechanic or dentist waiting rooms in awhile, so I’m behind on Live with Kelly and Mark (no spoilers). Maybe it’s become an informative show that takes a hard-hitting look at the biggest issues plaguing society today. But based on the clips I’ve seen online, Live with Kelly and Mark is mostly an excuse for Ripa and Consuelos to talk about their genitals.

Here are a few recent headlines about the morning show, courtesy of Decider’s exhaustive (and exhausting) archive.

September 29:

Kelly Ripa Makes Mark Consuelos “Lightheaded” With NSFW Description Of Her Body On ‘Live’: “Nipples That Have Nursed Three Kids And Now Need To Be Rolled Up”

September 28:

‘Live’s Mark Consuelos Was Feeling “Really Good” About His Penis Size After Watching ‘Naked Attraction,’ According To Kelly Ripa

September 15:

Kelly Ripa Says Mark Consuelos Asks For First Aid When She’s Right Out Of The Shower On ‘Live’: “I’m Naked And Afraid” And “Mid-Lubrication”

September 13:

‘Live With Kelly & Mark’: Mark Consuelos Accidentally Mixes up Allergy Pills and “Viagra”

August 30:

Kelly Ripa Teases Sex in Space With Mark Consuelos “Could Be Fun” on ‘Live’: “Does a Bounce House Count?”

August 29:

“Naked” Kelly Ripa Reveals She “Walked Out Of The Bedroom” To Discover Mark Consuelos Hired Three Housekeepers on ‘Live’

August 22:

Kelly Ripa Says Mark Consuelos Emptying the Dishwasher Is “Like Porn” on ‘Live’

August 7:

Kelly Ripa Begs Mark Consuelos to Show off His “Gorgeous” Legs in a Pair of “Daisy Dudes” on ‘Live’: “It’s What the Women Want — and Some of the Men!”

August 1:

Kelly Ripa Jokes That She’ll “Sacrifice” Herself to Take a Video of Mark Consuelos Showering for ‘Live’

July 27:

Kelly Ripa Sends in Phallic Photo of Mushrooms to Mark Consuelos and Anderson Cooper on ‘Live’: “She Was Thinking of Us”

July 19:

Mark Consuelos Defends His Manhood on ‘Live’ After Kelly Ripa Compares His Penis to a “Cocktail Weenie”: “I Would Say More Like a Fine Chorizo”

July 12:

Kelly Ripa Wants to See How Cold Plunge Shrinkage Affects Naked Mark Consuelos: “We All Want to Know What Everything Looks Like in Ice Cold Water”

I’m going to stop here. You get the idea.

I’m sorry if this makes me sound like a prude, but I shouldn’t know about the shape of Mark’s penis, or that Kelly’s nipples are like Fruit Roll-Ups. This is a silly morning show. Stick to unlikely animal friendships, cooking demonstrations, and dance lessons (but don’t dance too closely). I’m glad these two are still very into each other, but keep it in the bedroom, guys.

Or Instagram.

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Streaming Price Increases Are Coming For Netflix, Amazon, Disney+, And More: Here’s How That Shakes Out For You

With the writers’ strike over and the actors’ strike reportedly nearing an agreement, the streaming networks are ready to get back to work. They’re also ready to raise prices as they enter a world with increased residuals on the table.

While some platforms like Disney+, Hulu, and technically Amazon, have already announced their upcoming price increases, others like Netflix are reportedly working on price jumps that could arrive sooner rather than later. So to make things easier on the average consumer, we broke down where all of the major streamers currently stand on subscription prices and made sure to include any increases that are coming or are already here.

You can follow our handy guide below:

Netflix

According to The Wall Street Journal, Netflix is reportedly “discussing” a price increase that will go into effect after the SAG-AFTRA strike is settled. The increase will reportedly target ad-free plans and will happen sometime in the “next few months.” The WSJ did not have an exact date or dollar amount for the price hike.

Here are the current monthly prices for Netflix plans as of this writing:

Standard with ads: $6.99
Standard without ads: $15.49
Premium without ads: $19.99

The Basic plan without ads was eliminated over the summer.

Amazon Prime Video

Amazon technically has no plans for a price increase. However, there is a change coming to Prime Video that could still hit subscribers in the wallet.

Starting in early 2024, Prime Video shows and movies will include “limited advertisements.” The price for Amazon Prime will remain the same, but if users want to avoid the commercials, they will be able to purchase an ad-free option for $2.99/month. While this move technically isn’t a price increase, it will be for subscribers who wish to continue enjoying ad-free programming.

Here are the current prices for Amazon Prime as of this writing:

Amazon Prime membership: $14.99/month or $139/year
Just Prime Video membership: $8.99/month

Disney+ and Hulu

Starting on October 12, both Disney+ and Hulu will significantly raise the prices on their ad-free plans while making changes to their bundle subscriptions. In addition, Disney+ will reportedly be cracking down on password sharing in a move similar to Netflix.

Here are the new prices for Disney+ and Hulu starting October 12:

Disney+ Basic (with ads): $7.99/month or $79.99/year
Disney+ Premium: $13.99/month or $139.99/year

Hulu (with ads): $7.99/month or $79.99/year
Hulu: $17.99/month
Hulu Live TV: $75.99/month

Disney Bundle Duo Basic (Disney+ and Hulu with ads): $9.99/month
Disney Bundle Duo Premium (Disney+ and Hulu): $19.99/month
Disney Bundle Trio Basic (Disney+, Hulu, ESPN+ with ads): $14.99/month
Disney Bundle Trio Premium (Disney+, Hulu, ESPN+): $24.99/month

Max

Max, the streaming platform formerly known as HBO Max, raised its prices back in April 2023. There are no known price increases on the horizon, but the trend among its competitors could change that.

Here are the current prices for Max as of this writing:

With Ads: $9.99/month or $99.99/month
Ad-Free: $15.99/month or $149.99/year
Ultimate Ad-Free: $19.99/month or $199.99/year

Paramount+

After adding Showtime as an option earlier in the year, Paramount+ changed up its subscription tiers and made a few slight price increases to reflect the extra added content that’s now available to users.

Here are the current prices for Paramount+ as of this writing:

Paramount+ Essential (with ads): $5.99/month or $59.99/year
Paramount+ with SHOWTIME (no ads): $11.99/month or $119.99/year

That about covers it for the major platforms. Anyone miss cable yet?

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Doctor explains why he checks a dead patient’s Facebook before notifying their parents

Losing a loved one is easily the worst moment you’ll face in your life. But it can also affect the doctors who have to break it to a patient’s friends and family. Louis M. Profeta MD, an Emergency Physician at St. Vincent Emergency Physicians in Indianapolis, Indiana, recently took to LinkedIn to share the reason he looks at a patient’s Facebook page before telling their parents they’ve passed.

The post, titled “I’ll Look at Your Facebook Profile Before I Tell Your Mother You’re Dead,” has attracted thousands of likes and comments.


“It kind of keeps me human,” Profeta starts. “You see, I’m about to change their lives — your mom and dad, that is. In about five minutes, they will never be the same, they will never be happy again.”

“Right now, to be honest, you’re just a nameless dead body that feels like a wet bag of newspapers that we have been pounding on, sticking IV lines and tubes and needles in, trying desperately to save you. There’s no motion, no life, nothing to tell me you once had dreams or aspirations. I owe it to them to learn just a bit about you before I go in.”

“Because right now… all I am is mad at you, for what you did to yourself and what you are about to do to them. I know nothing about you. I owe it to your mom to peek inside of your once-living world.”

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Profeta explains that the death of a patient makes him angry:

“Maybe you were texting instead of watching the road, or you were drunk when you should have Ubered. Perhaps you snorted heroin or Xanax for the first time or a line of coke, tried meth or popped a Vicodin at the campus party and did a couple shots.”

“Maybe you just rode your bike without a helmet or didn’t heed your parents’ warning when they asked you not to hang out with that ‘friend,’ or to be more cautious when coming to a four-way stop. Maybe you just gave up.”

“Maybe it was just your time, but chances are… it wasn’t.”

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Profeta goes on to explain why he checks a patient’s Facebook page:

“So I pick up your faded picture of your driver’s license and click on my iPhone, flip to Facebook and search your name. Chances are we’ll have one mutual friend somewhere. I know a lot of people.”

“I see you wearing the same necklace and earrings that now sit in a specimen cup on the counter, the same ball cap or jacket that has been split open with trauma scissors and pulled under the backboard, the lining stained with blood. Looks like you were wearing it to the U2 concert. I heard it was great.”

“I see your smile, how it should be, the color of eyes when they are filled with life, your time on the beach, blowing out candles, Christmas at Grandma’s; oh you have a Maltese, too. I see that. I see you standing with your mom and dad in front of the sign to your college. Good, I’ll know exactly who they are when I walk into the room. It makes it that much easier for me, one less question I need to ask.”

“You’re kind of lucky that you don’t have to see it. Dad screaming your name over and over, mom pulling her hair out, curled up on the floor with her hand over her head as if she’s trying to protect herself from unseen blows.”

“I check your Facebook page before I tell them you’re dead because it reminds me that I am talking about a person, someone they love — it quiets the voice in my head that is screaming at you right now shouting: ‘You mother f–ker, how could you do this to them, to people you are supposed to love!'”

— Updated June 5, 2019.

This article originally appeared on June 5, 2019