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A mother’s exasperated reaction to getting Christmas gifts from her family in 1988 shows that things haven’t changed much for mothers in 35 years.

Jordan Alvillar, 36, was transferring his family’s old camcorder footage when he found this goldmine of footage of his mother. “I digitized my family’s home videos from the ’80s,” Jordan Alvillar, 36, captioned a TikTok video. “Here’s my mom’s soul leaving her body on Christmas Day!”

The shining moment is when Alvillar’s mother, Susan, opens up her gift, a Kitchen-Aid mixer. “It’s a mixer!” Susan says to the camera in a sarcastic deadpan. “Boy, oh boy, I can’t wait to use that to make my husband a wonderful meal.”

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“Just think of the tasty treats I can make my family with this mixer,” she continued. Even though she asked for the mixer, there’s something a little sad about giving a woman a kitchen appliance as a gift.

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I digitized my family’s home videos from the 80s. Here’s my mom’s soul leaving her body on Christmas day! #familyvideos #homevideos #christmas #snarkyhumor #familymemories #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged

“Isn’t this just a wonderful holiday season? I’m so glad I’ve been able to cook and clean and just do things like a regular housewife should!” Susan says later in the video, to which her husband jokingly responds: “A woman’s work is never done!”

Women in the comments applauded Susan’s timeless performance on Christmas 1988.

“It’s like those clips you see on True Crime. ‘She seemed like a normal housewife. But she was about to murder them all,’” Bonky wrote. “I am a Mom in 2023 & I strongly feel every word she’s saying. Exhausted & overwhelmed Moms are timeless,” Erin added. “So moms have always been like this. I love it!” Milli commented.

Many people dream of somehow being able to pay their parents back for the sacrifices made for them during childhood. Whether that’s something physical, like paying off their mortgage, or simply being the best version of ourselves to make them absolutely proud.

For Lindsay Moore, it was finding a “prized possession” her dad once gave up to help the family, and returning it to him once again.

Moore still vividly remembers being only seven years old when she saw her father walk into a comic book store to sell a Dan Marino rookie football card from his first season with the Miami Dolphins.

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In a now-viral TikTok, Moore’s father is seen reliving this memory as he holds onto a Christmas bag and a family member reads a card out loud.

“Money was tight, so you were selling your most prized possession – at least I viewed it as that,” Moore wrote. “I felt your sacrifice and it taught me that I would do whatever necessary to ensure my future family never needed anything. It was a lesson that has stuck with me since that moment.”

It was also the moment she became “determined” to pay her father back. Cut to thirty years later, and her father is her Secret Santa. It was the perfect opportunity to fulfill that promise.

“I will never be able to fully repay that debt,” her note continued. “Seven-year-old me would be so elated to see that I finally fulfilled that promise I made to myself. Thank you for everything.”

As he listened, Moore’s dad began tearing up. Sure enough, he opened his gift to see it was the cherished card he sold all those years ago.

The video concludes as Moore and her father enjoy a warm embrace.

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Im not crying, you’re crying

♬ original sound – Lindsey Moore

The sweet exchange certainly struck a chord online.

“When he started crying I LOST IT,” one person wrote.

Another added, “Something about bringing a grown man to tears always gets me.”

A few parents shared their own stories of sacrificing prized possessions.

“As someone who has sold his prized Gretzky rookie to provide for his kids, I appreciate and respect this a lot,” commented one person.

“Just had to sell my signature MacKinnon jersey to pay bills. Sucked so much but kid comes first,” echoed another.

On the flip side, some shared their one experience of getting to repay their parents. One wrote:

“I got to do this for my mom last year. She won a [Dolce & Gabbana] purse one year at work and sold it to buy my prom dress and never thought twice. She never [got] name brand anything. So this year I took her to get her very first name brand fancy hand bag or her picking, my treat.”

But perhaps the best comment belonged to this person, who astutely pointed out: “The card wasn’t the real gift to him. It was hearing his impact on you. Priceless.”

We might not all get to reclaim what our parents sacrificed. And that’s okay. There are so many other ways to share just how much of a positive impact they made on our lives. Even saying how much we appreciate them can be an invaluable reward. Yes. Really.

A mother’s exasperated reaction to getting Christmas gifts from her family in 1988 shows that things haven’t changed much for mothers in 35 years.

Jordan Alvillar, 36, was transferring his family’s old camcorder footage when he found this goldmine of footage of his mother. “I digitized my family’s home videos from the ’80s,” Jordan Alvillar, 36, captioned a TikTok video. “Here’s my mom’s soul leaving her body on Christmas Day!”

The shining moment is when Alvillar’s mother, Susan, opens up her gift, a Kitchen-Aid mixer. “It’s a mixer!” Susan says to the camera in a sarcastic deadpan. “Boy, oh boy, I can’t wait to use that to make my husband a wonderful meal.”

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“Just think of the tasty treats I can make my family with this mixer,” she continued. Even though she asked for the mixer, there’s something a little sad about giving a woman a kitchen appliance as a gift.

@jordielaura5

I digitized my family’s home videos from the 80s. Here’s my mom’s soul leaving her body on Christmas day! #familyvideos #homevideos #christmas #snarkyhumor #familymemories #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged

“Isn’t this just a wonderful holiday season? I’m so glad I’ve been able to cook and clean and just do things like a regular housewife should!” Susan says later in the video, to which her husband jokingly responds: “A woman’s work is never done!”

Women in the comments applauded Susan’s timeless performance on Christmas 1988.

“It’s like those clips you see on True Crime. ‘She seemed like a normal housewife. But she was about to murder them all,’” Bonky wrote. “I am a Mom in 2023 & I strongly feel every word she’s saying. Exhausted & overwhelmed Moms are timeless,” Erin added. “So moms have always been like this. I love it!” Milli commented.

Many people dream of somehow being able to pay their parents back for the sacrifices made for them during childhood. Whether that’s something physical, like paying off their mortgage, or simply being the best version of ourselves to make them absolutely proud.

For Lindsay Moore, it was finding a “prized possession” her dad once gave up to help the family, and returning it to him once again.

Moore still vividly remembers being only seven years old when she saw her father walk into a comic book store to sell a Dan Marino rookie football card from his first season with the Miami Dolphins.

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In a now-viral TikTok, Moore’s father is seen reliving this memory as he holds onto a Christmas bag and a family member reads a card out loud.

“Money was tight, so you were selling your most prized possession – at least I viewed it as that,” Moore wrote. “I felt your sacrifice and it taught me that I would do whatever necessary to ensure my future family never needed anything. It was a lesson that has stuck with me since that moment.”

It was also the moment she became “determined” to pay her father back. Cut to thirty years later, and her father is her Secret Santa. It was the perfect opportunity to fulfill that promise.

“I will never be able to fully repay that debt,” her note continued. “Seven-year-old me would be so elated to see that I finally fulfilled that promise I made to myself. Thank you for everything.”

As he listened, Moore’s dad began tearing up. Sure enough, he opened his gift to see it was the cherished card he sold all those years ago.

The video concludes as Moore and her father enjoy a warm embrace.

@lindseyswagmom

Im not crying, you’re crying

♬ original sound – Lindsey Moore

The sweet exchange certainly struck a chord online.

“When he started crying I LOST IT,” one person wrote.

Another added, “Something about bringing a grown man to tears always gets me.”

A few parents shared their own stories of sacrificing prized possessions.

“As someone who has sold his prized Gretzky rookie to provide for his kids, I appreciate and respect this a lot,” commented one person.

“Just had to sell my signature MacKinnon jersey to pay bills. Sucked so much but kid comes first,” echoed another.

On the flip side, some shared their one experience of getting to repay their parents. One wrote:

“I got to do this for my mom last year. She won a [Dolce & Gabbana] purse one year at work and sold it to buy my prom dress and never thought twice. She never [got] name brand anything. So this year I took her to get her very first name brand fancy hand bag or her picking, my treat.”

But perhaps the best comment belonged to this person, who astutely pointed out: “The card wasn’t the real gift to him. It was hearing his impact on you. Priceless.”

We might not all get to reclaim what our parents sacrificed. And that’s okay. There are so many other ways to share just how much of a positive impact they made on our lives. Even saying how much we appreciate them can be an invaluable reward. Yes. Really.

The Dry January challenge as we know it has around since the early 2000s, but the idea of taking a break from alcohol the first month of the year actually has its roots in World War II. To save resources, the Finnish government initiated “Raitis Januar,” or Sober January, in 1942, encouraging people to stop drinking alcohol entirely for at least that one month.

The modern Dry January has become more and more popular as people recognize the health benefits of abstaining from alcohol and acknowledge the impulse to cut back after the indulgent holidays. According to the American Association for Cancer Research, 19% of millennials, 14% of Gen Xers 12% of baby boomers say they plan to participate in Dry January 2024. That’s about 31 million Americans.

Some people find it easy to stop drinking for a month, while others find it more challenging. If you’re going to try to have a Dry January, here are some tips for a successful and satisfying month.

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Get clear on your ‘why’ and remind yourself of it often.

If you’ve decided to try Dry January, there must be a reason. Maybe you’re on a mission to take better care of your body. Maybe you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol. Maybe you feel like it’s a good self-discipline exercise. Maybe you read the WHO statement that no amount of alcohol can be considered safe or healthy.

Whatever your “why” is, keep it front and center in your mind—maybe even write it down someplace—so that you can call on it if or when you’re tempted to drink.

Find some yummy substitutes for your favorite drinks.

When you’re trying to cut something out, it can be helpful to have something to replace it with. Decide ahead of time what you’re going to order in a restaurant instead of wine or a beer. Lots of establishments offer non-alcoholic alternatives to those things, but you might also just choose a favorite soda or even just water. It’s just good to go in with a plan, rather than relying on whatever sounds good in the moment because what sounds good in the moment will likely be the alcohol drink you’d normally get.

You might even decide to treat yourself to a yummy mocktail so that you don’t feel like you’re missing out on the festive element of drinking. Mocktails have grown in popularity so it’s not an unusual request.

Read other people’s success stories.

Sometimes a little inspiration can be helpful, so reading about other people who’ve successfully completed a Dry January can help.There are plenty of success stories from people who have done Dry January at least once, but many who have done it each year. Testimonials like these ones from a Reddit thread can help keep you going:

“It was worth it. It was an effort to drink less, lose weight, sleep better. I lost 4 lbs, slept better, and generally had more energy and focus in the morning.”

“I’ve done it the past few years and love it. Honestly the hard part is the social side and less the alcohol side. I love a beer or a whiskey when hanging but the value of a clear head in the morning is increasing with my age. I find a reset helps me temper how much I drink in general. Like, the casual couch drink on a Tuesday goes away for a while after Jan. since it’s pretty worthless.”

Track how you feel (especially after the first week, which might suck).

One of the things people who complete Dry January often share is how much better they physically feel. Better sleep, less grogginess, more energy, better digestion, lowered blood pressure, weight loss and more are commonly reported. Some people experience these benefits right away, but for some it might take a bit to feel those benefits as your body adjusts to not processing alcohol. Stick with it and pay attention to how your body and brain feel without it as you go through the month.

(A word of warning: Alcohol Withdrawal Syndrome can occur in heavy drinkers who stop suddenly and can be dangerous, so watch for symptoms that are concerning. According to Harvard Health, mild withdrawal symptoms include anxiety, shaky hands, headache, nausea, vomiting, sweating, and insomnia. Severe symptoms can include hallucinations, delirium, racing heart rate, and fever, and often occur within two or three days after you stop drinking. Seek medical assistance immediately if you experience symptoms of alcohol withdrawal.)

Make it a group effort.

You can go through Dry January alone, but you probably don’t have to. Who among your friends and family might want to do it with you? Even if you find just a couple of people who agree to support you, that can make a big difference in how you feel about the challenge. Not drinking for a whole month can be hard if alcohol is a regular part of your life, especially your social life. Ask for help from your loved ones to provide non-alcoholic alternatives and not to put any pressure on you to drink, and if anyone is available and willing to do it with you, all the better.

If you slip up, don’t quit, just pick back up the next day.

The beauty of sobriety is that it truly is a daily (or hourly, or minute-by-minute) choice, so if you do find yourself with a drink in your hand, you haven’t ruined anything. Just pick it back up the next day and move forward. No need to beat yourself up. No need to give up completely.

For some people, Dry January is a welcome break for overall wellness. Others find it eye-opening when it’s a lot harder than they anticipated and use it as a wake-up call that leads to life-changing—and in some cases, life-saving—shifts in alcohol use.

Dry January may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it can be a great tool to throw into your health and wellness toolbox if you’re up for it.

The Dry January challenge as we know it has around since the early 2000s, but the idea of taking a break from alcohol the first month of the year actually has its roots in World War II. To save resources, the Finnish government initiated “Raitis Januar,” or Sober January, in 1942, encouraging people to stop drinking alcohol entirely for at least that one month.

The modern Dry January has become more and more popular as people recognize the health benefits of abstaining from alcohol and acknowledge the impulse to cut back after the indulgent holidays. According to the American Association for Cancer Research, 19% of millennials, 14% of Gen Xers 12% of baby boomers say they plan to participate in Dry January 2024. That’s about 31 million Americans.

Some people find it easy to stop drinking for a month, while others find it more challenging. If you’re going to try to have a Dry January, here are some tips for a successful and satisfying month.

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Get clear on your ‘why’ and remind yourself of it often.

If you’ve decided to try Dry January, there must be a reason. Maybe you’re on a mission to take better care of your body. Maybe you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol. Maybe you feel like it’s a good self-discipline exercise. Maybe you read the WHO statement that no amount of alcohol can be considered safe or healthy.

Whatever your “why” is, keep it front and center in your mind—maybe even write it down someplace—so that you can call on it if or when you’re tempted to drink.

Find some yummy substitutes for your favorite drinks.

When you’re trying to cut something out, it can be helpful to have something to replace it with. Decide ahead of time what you’re going to order in a restaurant instead of wine or a beer. Lots of establishments offer non-alcoholic alternatives to those things, but you might also just choose a favorite soda or even just water. It’s just good to go in with a plan, rather than relying on whatever sounds good in the moment because what sounds good in the moment will likely be the alcohol drink you’d normally get.

You might even decide to treat yourself to a yummy mocktail so that you don’t feel like you’re missing out on the festive element of drinking. Mocktails have grown in popularity so it’s not an unusual request.

Read other people’s success stories.

Sometimes a little inspiration can be helpful, so reading about other people who’ve successfully completed a Dry January can help.There are plenty of success stories from people who have done Dry January at least once, but many who have done it each year. Testimonials like these ones from a Reddit thread can help keep you going:

“It was worth it. It was an effort to drink less, lose weight, sleep better. I lost 4 lbs, slept better, and generally had more energy and focus in the morning.”

“I’ve done it the past few years and love it. Honestly the hard part is the social side and less the alcohol side. I love a beer or a whiskey when hanging but the value of a clear head in the morning is increasing with my age. I find a reset helps me temper how much I drink in general. Like, the casual couch drink on a Tuesday goes away for a while after Jan. since it’s pretty worthless.”

Track how you feel (especially after the first week, which might suck).

One of the things people who complete Dry January often share is how much better they physically feel. Better sleep, less grogginess, more energy, better digestion, lowered blood pressure, weight loss and more are commonly reported. Some people experience these benefits right away, but for some it might take a bit to feel those benefits as your body adjusts to not processing alcohol. Stick with it and pay attention to how your body and brain feel without it as you go through the month.

(A word of warning: Alcohol Withdrawal Syndrome can occur in heavy drinkers who stop suddenly and can be dangerous, so watch for symptoms that are concerning. According to Harvard Health, mild withdrawal symptoms include anxiety, shaky hands, headache, nausea, vomiting, sweating, and insomnia. Severe symptoms can include hallucinations, delirium, racing heart rate, and fever, and often occur within two or three days after you stop drinking. Seek medical assistance immediately if you experience symptoms of alcohol withdrawal.)

Make it a group effort.

You can go through Dry January alone, but you probably don’t have to. Who among your friends and family might want to do it with you? Even if you find just a couple of people who agree to support you, that can make a big difference in how you feel about the challenge. Not drinking for a whole month can be hard if alcohol is a regular part of your life, especially your social life. Ask for help from your loved ones to provide non-alcoholic alternatives and not to put any pressure on you to drink, and if anyone is available and willing to do it with you, all the better.

If you slip up, don’t quit, just pick back up the next day.

The beauty of sobriety is that it truly is a daily (or hourly, or minute-by-minute) choice, so if you do find yourself with a drink in your hand, you haven’t ruined anything. Just pick it back up the next day and move forward. No need to beat yourself up. No need to give up completely.

For some people, Dry January is a welcome break for overall wellness. Others find it eye-opening when it’s a lot harder than they anticipated and use it as a wake-up call that leads to life-changing—and in some cases, life-saving—shifts in alcohol use.

Dry January may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it can be a great tool to throw into your health and wellness toolbox if you’re up for it.

There was drama at the Denver Zoo after the birth of a baby orangutan named Siska. The zookeepers didn’t know if the father was 16-year-old Jaya or 30-year-old Berani. So, to learn the truth about Siska’s paternity, they found the perfect man for the job, Maury Povich.

For 31 years, Povich was the host of his eponymous daytime talk show, where one of the highlights was his paternity tests, where he dramatically explained, “You are the father” or “You are not the father.

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In a video shared by the zoo on December 19, Maury announced the truth of Siska’s paternity to the world.

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“We want to thank the Denver Zoo for everything they do, but this is really important,” said Povich, dressed in a tuxedo. “When it comes to the orangutan—4-month-old Siska—Berani, you are the father,” he continued as photos of both orangutans in question were superimposed on the screen.

Povich’s name is synonymous with paternity tests, even though he began his career as a serious journalist. Povich started as a news anchor in the ’60s, before becoming the host of “A Current Affair” from 1986 to 1990.

His wife, journalist Connie Chung, set the record straight when Povich won the Lifetime Achievement award at the Daytime Emmy Awards on December 16.

“I know that you think he’s been determining the paternity of every child in America all his life,” Chung said, according to ABC News.

“But no, in his 67 freaking years in television, he’s been a news reporter and a news anchor and old fashion talk show host interviewing world leaders, politicians, members of Congress, authors, movie stars and even Julia Child,” Chung continued.

Yasiin Bey announced that he’s holding a truly special show in Paris, which will be held for one night only at La Cigale Paris on January 18. As for what else will make it unique, he will be doing a tribute to the late MF Doom by covering his songs during the concert.

“Yasiin Bey always showed admiration to the rhymes of who’s been called Viktor Vaughan, The Villain, King Gheedorah or simply DOOM,” the description on the social media reveal read. “He will perform some of his favorite tracks from the Masked One.”

For those looking to attend, tickets for Yasiin Bey’s concert went on sale today. As of Friday afternoon, there are still passes available for €45.

A few years ago, during an interview with Vulture, Questlove shared a heartfelt story about how Yasiin Bey was the one to introduce him to MF Doom’s music.

“I was preparing myself for some kind of deep talk, but he just started preaching the gospel of DOOM,” Questlove said at the time. “I’m talking a 40-minute monologue, almost something like a Jehovah’s Witness would preach, trying to convert me to a new religion. He was like, “Do you understand the majestic gift that is Operation: Doomsday?”

More information about his MF Doom tribute show can be found here.

Nicki Minaj’s new album, Pink Friday 2, has only been out for a few days — but it seems the rapper has some thoughts about how it compares to her past records. Today, she took to Twitter to share her ranking regarding her discography. And fans had a ton of reactions to the placements.

Given its recency and her love for it, Minaj put Pink Friday 2 at the top spot. After that, in second place, she had her 2014 album, The Pinkprint.

To round out the top five, Queen came at No. 3, the original Pink Friday was at No. 4, and Minaj’s Pink Friday Roman Reloaded (The Re-Up) was No. 5. She also made a point to note that anyone’s rankings are valid.

“But I truly respect all gag city resident opinions,” Minaj tweeted. “What the albums mean to you is your own truth based on where you were in your own life.”

Some fans agreed that The Pinkprint deserved one of the higher spots. “queen above pink friday is CRAZY but thank god there’s democracy in gag city cause pinkprint still sitting pretty at the top,” one wrote.

And others reiterated that they felt her 2018 album, Queen, should’ve been lower. In the end, as Minaj mentioned, the Barbz were very divided.

Continue scrolling for some more fan opinions on Nicki Minaj ranking her albums.

For a lot of parents, the word ‘no’ is almost a gut reaction.

“Can we get ice cream?” “No.”

“Can I stay up a little later? “No.”

“Can we put on the ‘Moana’ soundtrack for the 40th time today?” “NO!”

It makes total sense. Kids and teenagers are constantly pushing boundaries, testing limits, and asking for things (some reasonable and some not).

Usually, as a parent, you have to shut it down.

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One mom recently shared a powerful story about why — though it comes easy to us — we shouldn’t always say no without thinking things through.

Rachel Ann Carpenter posted on Facebook sharing the story of her then-9-year-old daughter Nevaeh … who wanted to dye her hair pink.

“I initially said no because I know how judgmental people can be when it comes to children with colored hair,” Carpenter writes in a Facebook message. “I also figured since she was only 9 she had her whole life to change her hair if she wanted!”

So she said it. ‘No.’

But then, Nevaeh had a terrible accident.

“A few days later at a camp they were doing a demonstration involving fire and something went wrong and it caught her on fire. She had horrible burns over 70% of her body. This time last year we were in the hospital with her not knowing if she was going to live or not.”

Life is way to short to say NO all of the time. This time last year she asked me if she could have pink hair and I said…
Posted by Rachel Ann Carpenter on Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Nevaeh was lucky to survive the fire. And a year later, she asked again if she could dye her hair.

This time, her mom gave an emphatic “Yes!”

“Just because someone is young does not mean they are promised time,” Carpenter says. “I was so glad she was still here to ask me. It is just hair, hair color will fade. Something so easy as colored hair made her extremely happy.”

The story highlights a tough question for parents: Are you drawing real, important boundaries with your kids? Or just saying “no” out of fear or habit?

It’s our job to protect our children from danger or grave mistakes that may severely impact their life, but we can’t protect them against every scraped knee from running too fast on the playground — nor should we.

Most experts agree that taking risks, exploring, experimenting with identity, and making mistakes are all important parts of growing up. Psychologist Randy Cale tells “Psychologies” parents should aim to only step in when safety is a serious concern or when the consequences of a behavior won’t be immediately apparent to them (like eating ice cream for dinner every single night).

And beyond all the child psychology, sometimes it’s just more fun to say “yes.”

“It is so important to let your children live a little,” Carpenter says. “As adults it’s easy to forget what it’s like to be a child and how easy it is to make them happy.”

This article originally appeared on 08.03.17