The NBA’s inaugural In-Season Tournament began last week and the league and its teams are doing their best to promote it and, effectively, raise awareness that this thing is happening. The league created a very good “Heist” ad campaign for it and even got LL Cool J and The Roots to create a promo song for the tournament, but that hasn’t stopped the teams from getting in on the fun as well.
On Thursday, the Atlanta Hawks debuted a…let’s say “very different” campaign for selling In-Season Tournament tickets, with a Hawks “Only Fans” video featuring a seductive Harry the Hawk.
The response was mixed, but it got lots of attention so for the most part you could say it succeeded in its goal. The only problem was, the Hawks star players were decidedly in the “not a fan” section of the response. Trae Young was quick to note he was not a part of it in anyway, while Dejounte Murray had a much more direct call to action for the Hawks to “Delete This Shit.”
I’m not sure that’s the ideal response you’re looking for from your top players as a social team, and I’m sure there’s some very interesting Slack convos and calls being had this afternoon at Hawks HQ. Atlanta is in Mexico City tonight to face the Magic and will make their In-Season Tournament debut on Tuesday in Detroit.
I was lucky enough to get to taste these awesome and very bold bourbon-barrel-aged stouts with the Goose Island crew recently. I’m going to impart that experience to you because it’s a great one for both beer lovers and bourbon fans. This year’s lineup is the following bottles of Bourbon County Brand Stout:
2023 Bourbon County Brand Original Stout
2023 Bourbon County Brand Eagle Rare 2-Year Reserve Stout
2023 Bourbon County Brand Angel’s Envy 2-Year Cask Finish Stout
2023 Bourbon County Brand Bananas Foster Stout
2023 Bourbon County Brand Backyard Stout
2023 Bourbon County Brand Proprietor’s Stout
Below, I’m ranking each of the stouts according to taste. Admittedly, this is a bit of a fool’s errand. Each of these stouts is very unique. They all offer a deeply diverse profile. So while this is my ranking, read through my tasting notes and find the bourbon stout that speaks to you and make it part of your life. Another quick note before we dive in, these are only hitting shelves right now with a few coming in the next weeks. Moreover, the price tag on these bottles is going to range from $15 to $50 or more — depending on how deeply your local retailer wants to gouge you.
Thems just the breaks. Capitalism comes for us all. Okay, let’s get after it!
Also Read: The Top 5 UPROXX Bourbon Posts Of The Last Six Months
The base stout is made with heavily roasted malts and amplified with mild Millennium hops. The stout then goes into a bourbon barrel with several adjuncts — banana, three kinds of almonds, cassia bark, and “natural flavor”.
Tasting Notes:
Nose: The nose is like shoving your nose in freshly baked banana bread full of butter cake crumb, cinnamon, nutmeg, and walnuts with a slab of unsalted butter.
Palate: The palate opens with a sweet and roasted almond with a nice chew to it before perfectly ripe yellow bananas cut in next to sharp cinnamon mixed with white sugar and butter and then spread over brown bread toast.
Finish: The end gets super sweet like a banana cake filled with cinnamon-spiked molasses next to rock candy with a malted brown bread in a can vibe.
Bottom Line:
This is nice but very sweet. If you’re looking for a dessert stout, this is it.
This is the same base stout with those darkly roasted malts and Millennium hops. This version rests in bourbon barrels with cassia bark, toasted rice, raisins, and “natural flavor” added to the beer as it ages in the wood.
Tasting Notes:
Nose: Brown rice pops dusted with cinnamon chocolate powder draw you in on the nose with a hint of vanilla pudding and maybe some clove.
Palate: The brown rice pops really amp up on the palate as the cinnamon and vanilla mingle with a nice creaminess accented by a hint of nuttiness over clove tobacco.
Finish: The end leans into the toasted rice with a good dose of vanilla cinnamon.
Bottom Line:
This is just so unique with that rice vibe. It’s engaging and interesting in all the right ways. Plus, this stout isn’t overly sweet. It’s a nice change of pace.
This is Goose Island’s signature Bourbon County Brand Stout. This year, the stout was aged for 12 months in barrels from Buffalo Trace, Wild Turkey, and Heaven Hill distilleries. Those barrels were batched to make this release.
Tasting Notes:
Nose: Dark yet buttery chocolate grabs your attention on the nose with a rich vanilla buttercream cut with salted caramel, dark cherry, and roasted almonds covered in sugar coating.
Palate: The palate has a deep dark chocolate brandy cherry vibe that’s almost sharp before salted caramel gives way to spiced winter cakes dipped in vanilla buttercream icing that’s almost eggnog.
Finish: The end is lush, spiced, and full of creamy spiced dark chocolate that almost edges toward espresso.
Bottom Line:
This is very bourbon-forward. And that’s great! But it doesn’t quite have the depth of the next three bottles of stout.
3. 2023 Bourbon County Brand Eagle Rare 2-Year Reserve Stout
This is still Goose Island’s Millennium-hopped stout. This time, the beer was left in 10-Year-Old Eagle Rare Bourbon barrels for two long years before batching and bottling.
Tasting Notes:
Nose: Marzipan soaked in cherry brandy drives the nose toward deep old oak with an earthy note of fall on a cold day before the stout gets warm with cinnamon and allspice and creamy with vanilla sauce.
Palate: The marzipan turns to roasted almond on the palate as the vanilla turns into lush crème brûlée with a sense of eggnog, sticky toffee pudding, and mincemeat pies with plenty of winter spice, buttercream icing, and soft sugar cookies.
Finish: The maltiness of the dark roasted barley comes through at the end with a rich salted dark chocolate espresso that edges toward cherry brandy tobacco and a whisper of old oak staves rolled in cedar bark.
Bottom Line:
The whiskey really shines through on this one and blends with the dark stout in all the right ways. This is bold though. The wood and earthiness aren’t going to be for everyone (I dig it). So if you’re looking for a very bourbon-forward stout, this is the bold one for you.
So the ripple here is Goose Island stout that spends time slowly aging in bourbon barrels from Angel’s Envy. In this case, those are actually ruby port wine barrels that held Angel’s Envy bourbon, adding a serious depth to the stout.
Tasting Notes:
Nose: The nose has a distinct Cherry Coke (off a foundation with the syrup turned up) vibe next to spiced Christmas cakes brimming with candied orange peels, brandy-soaked raisins, and fatty walnuts next to rich yet subtle salted dark chocolate just kissed with stewed red berries.
Palate: The palate really leans into the brandy-soaked raisins with a mulled wine vibe that’s cut with fresh orange zest, dark rum, and dried red berries before more of that spiced holiday cake arrives with a deeply roasted chestnut vibe.
Finish: The end gets lush with a vanilla creaminess before the spiced cakes, boozy raisins, and roasted nuts all combine on the very end with a hint of tobacco-infused oak.
Bottom Line:
Look, this is basically tied for number one. This is just delicious. It’s like Christmas in a glass yet somehow stays light and fun. That doesn’t really take away from the stout but it does kind of pigeonhole it into a season. Still great though.
This Goose Island stout is loaded into bourbon barrels and then mulberries, boysenberries, and marionberries (shoutout, PDX!) are added to the beer before it rests.
Tasting Notes:
Nose: Bright blackberry and huckleberry pop on the nose with deep and dark chocolate that gets a little creamy on the backend of the nose as it attaches to vanilla cream and a whisper of woody winter spice barks dipped in cherry syrup and gooseberry jam.
Palate: The chocolate covers a batch of dried red, black, and blue berries with a balance of sweetness, woodiness, and tartness before a touch of eggnog leads to creamy mocha lattes cut with clove-spiked orange, a touch of tart cherry tobacco, and a whisper of old sweet oak.
Finish: The end gets malty and tart with spiced winter cakes and sharp red berries next to blackberry jam with a hint of savory salal berry compote over malted dark brown bread cut with molasses and rum.
Bottom Line:
This has everything that makes the other stouts great and more! The addition of tartness adds a wonderfully diverse dimension to the dark beer that livens it up and takes it so much further. This is a universally great stout that’ll hit right no matter what the weather is outside.
All people have a need to communicate, but the way we do that varies greatly from place to place. Every culture has its own communication peculiarities that make our human family delightfully diverse.
Not only do humans speak thousands of languages around the world, but we also engage in culturally specific speaking styles, speech patterns and body language, some of which are immediately identifiable.
Case in point: the Italian “finger purse.”
Italian people are known for using their hands a lot when speaking. Italian hand gestures can vary a bit between northern and southern Italy, but one of the most universally recognizable is the pinched fingers or “finger purse.” That’s the gesture in which the tips of the fingers and the thumb are pressed together (forming a purse shape) and pointed upward, often in a repeated back-and-forth or up-and-down motion, sometimes with one hand and sometimes with both. Along with the rhythm of punctuated emphasis on certain words, especially when speaking passionately, the finger purse is often used to convey a question with a sense of annoyance, exasperation or confusion.
It’s a gesticulation most of us associate with a classic Italian grandma or grandpa, but when you see it coming from a tiny little Italian person, it’s utterly hilarious. A viral video, originally shared by @guiseppe_matilde on TikTok, shows a preschooler engaging in a passionate rant that is unmistakably Italian, both in the actual language she’s speaking and in her hand gestures.
u201ci absolutely need to have an italian baby who gesticulates with the passion of a 64 year old sicilian manu201d
According to Italian speakers in the comments, the little girl is conveying a story about how someone commented negatively about her wearing a miniskirt. u/shykawaii_shark on Reddit shared:
“Rough translation for English speakers. Not a literal translation, I made it easier to comprehend
Mother: What kind of sense does that make!
Daughter: They told me ‘What sense does going out with a miniskirt make?’ Like, think for yourself! I can wear my miniskirt, and you mind your own business!
Mother: Exactly!
Daughter: Think about your own miniskirt, not mine!”
Got a feisty little feminist here.
The full video on TikTok is even better (but it doesn’t have the Italian subtitles):
Secondo voi ha ragione matilde ? #foryoupage @Giò Canaletti seguitela tutti su istragram matilde_vaccar
As adorable as this video is, it’s also an example of how culture gets passed on from generation to generation. An Australian study found that young humans across different cultures imitate adults in ways that animals don’t. Animals will imitate adult behavior to the extent that it’s efficient and necessary to perform a task, whereas humans will mimic even silly or frivolous behaviors that have no purpose whatsoever.
“Animals focus on getting the job done,” Mark Nielsen, a psychologist at the University of Queensland in Brisbane, Australia, told Science. “Humans seem to almost forget about the outcome and copy everything we see.”
That mimicry of unnecessary actions may contribute to the complexity of human cultures. After all, it’s not really necessary to do the finger purse to make a point, but Italians do it anyway. Little Italians pick it up from adult Italians, and so the classic Italian communication style is passed on.
And thank goodness it is, because babies gesturing in Italian is absolutely adorable.
All people have a need to communicate, but the way we do that varies greatly from place to place. Every culture has its own communication peculiarities that make our human family delightfully diverse.
Not only do humans speak thousands of languages around the world, but we also engage in culturally specific speaking styles, speech patterns and body language, some of which are immediately identifiable.
Case in point: the Italian “finger purse.”
Italian people are known for using their hands a lot when speaking. Italian hand gestures can vary a bit between northern and southern Italy, but one of the most universally recognizable is the pinched fingers or “finger purse.” That’s the gesture in which the tips of the fingers and the thumb are pressed together (forming a purse shape) and pointed upward, often in a repeated back-and-forth or up-and-down motion, sometimes with one hand and sometimes with both. Along with the rhythm of punctuated emphasis on certain words, especially when speaking passionately, the finger purse is often used to convey a question with a sense of annoyance, exasperation or confusion.
It’s a gesticulation most of us associate with a classic Italian grandma or grandpa, but when you see it coming from a tiny little Italian person, it’s utterly hilarious. A viral video, originally shared by @guiseppe_matilde on TikTok, shows a preschooler engaging in a passionate rant that is unmistakably Italian, both in the actual language she’s speaking and in her hand gestures.
u201ci absolutely need to have an italian baby who gesticulates with the passion of a 64 year old sicilian manu201d
According to Italian speakers in the comments, the little girl is conveying a story about how someone commented negatively about her wearing a miniskirt. u/shykawaii_shark on Reddit shared:
“Rough translation for English speakers. Not a literal translation, I made it easier to comprehend
Mother: What kind of sense does that make!
Daughter: They told me ‘What sense does going out with a miniskirt make?’ Like, think for yourself! I can wear my miniskirt, and you mind your own business!
Mother: Exactly!
Daughter: Think about your own miniskirt, not mine!”
Got a feisty little feminist here.
The full video on TikTok is even better (but it doesn’t have the Italian subtitles):
Secondo voi ha ragione matilde ? #foryoupage @Giò Canaletti seguitela tutti su istragram matilde_vaccar
As adorable as this video is, it’s also an example of how culture gets passed on from generation to generation. An Australian study found that young humans across different cultures imitate adults in ways that animals don’t. Animals will imitate adult behavior to the extent that it’s efficient and necessary to perform a task, whereas humans will mimic even silly or frivolous behaviors that have no purpose whatsoever.
“Animals focus on getting the job done,” Mark Nielsen, a psychologist at the University of Queensland in Brisbane, Australia, told Science. “Humans seem to almost forget about the outcome and copy everything we see.”
That mimicry of unnecessary actions may contribute to the complexity of human cultures. After all, it’s not really necessary to do the finger purse to make a point, but Italians do it anyway. Little Italians pick it up from adult Italians, and so the classic Italian communication style is passed on.
And thank goodness it is, because babies gesturing in Italian is absolutely adorable.
All people have a need to communicate, but the way we do that varies greatly from place to place. Every culture has its own communication peculiarities that make our human family delightfully diverse.
Not only do humans speak thousands of languages around the world, but we also engage in culturally specific speaking styles, speech patterns and body language, some of which are immediately identifiable.
Case in point: the Italian “finger purse.”
Italian people are known for using their hands a lot when speaking. Italian hand gestures can vary a bit between northern and southern Italy, but one of the most universally recognizable is the pinched fingers or “finger purse.” That’s the gesture in which the tips of the fingers and the thumb are pressed together (forming a purse shape) and pointed upward, often in a repeated back-and-forth or up-and-down motion, sometimes with one hand and sometimes with both. Along with the rhythm of punctuated emphasis on certain words, especially when speaking passionately, the finger purse is often used to convey a question with a sense of annoyance, exasperation or confusion.
It’s a gesticulation most of us associate with a classic Italian grandma or grandpa, but when you see it coming from a tiny little Italian person, it’s utterly hilarious. A viral video, originally shared by @guiseppe_matilde on TikTok, shows a preschooler engaging in a passionate rant that is unmistakably Italian, both in the actual language she’s speaking and in her hand gestures.
u201ci absolutely need to have an italian baby who gesticulates with the passion of a 64 year old sicilian manu201d
According to Italian speakers in the comments, the little girl is conveying a story about how someone commented negatively about her wearing a miniskirt. u/shykawaii_shark on Reddit shared:
“Rough translation for English speakers. Not a literal translation, I made it easier to comprehend
Mother: What kind of sense does that make!
Daughter: They told me ‘What sense does going out with a miniskirt make?’ Like, think for yourself! I can wear my miniskirt, and you mind your own business!
Mother: Exactly!
Daughter: Think about your own miniskirt, not mine!”
Got a feisty little feminist here.
The full video on TikTok is even better (but it doesn’t have the Italian subtitles):
Secondo voi ha ragione matilde ? #foryoupage @Giò Canaletti seguitela tutti su istragram matilde_vaccar
As adorable as this video is, it’s also an example of how culture gets passed on from generation to generation. An Australian study found that young humans across different cultures imitate adults in ways that animals don’t. Animals will imitate adult behavior to the extent that it’s efficient and necessary to perform a task, whereas humans will mimic even silly or frivolous behaviors that have no purpose whatsoever.
“Animals focus on getting the job done,” Mark Nielsen, a psychologist at the University of Queensland in Brisbane, Australia, told Science. “Humans seem to almost forget about the outcome and copy everything we see.”
That mimicry of unnecessary actions may contribute to the complexity of human cultures. After all, it’s not really necessary to do the finger purse to make a point, but Italians do it anyway. Little Italians pick it up from adult Italians, and so the classic Italian communication style is passed on.
And thank goodness it is, because babies gesturing in Italian is absolutely adorable.
When it comes to babysitting, you can hit the jackpot with someone who not only enjoys hanging out with your kiddos but also cleans out of boredom. The only babysitter I’ve had that experience with is my mom, but I do hear they do exist. While walking into a spotless house after a much-needed night out would be amazing, it’s not really part of a standard babysitting package.
Typically, whoever babysits for you is solely there to focus on the well-being of your children. They feed them snacks, play games with them, and follow their bedtime routine to the letter. Then they hang out on your couch reminding Netflix that they’re still watching and wait for you to return. Sure, they clean up dishes from dinner and whatever toys were pulled out during their time with your kids, but they don’t typically clean your house.
But in a private parenting group I belong to, a long debate was started when a mom asked a group of 260k of her closest friends if it would be appropriate for a parent to ask a babysitter to clean their home.
The anonymous mom explained that her college-aged daughter had recently started babysitting for a family, but on the second day, her duties suddenly changed. There was a list of chores waiting for the babysitter that included cleaning the family’s dishes and cleaning up messes that were there before the sitter arrived.
This revelation set off a firestorm of comments with many agreeing that anything outside of cleaning up after the children while they’re in your care is a separate job. But not everyone was on the same page and it was clear that this was a topic that was going to cause some intense debate. Since summer months are here, there’s no wonder this topic is coming up and views are split.
Scary Mommy recently published an article posing a similar question, only this was coming from a parent who wanted her babysitter to clean while her children slept. Elizabeth Narins explains that she and her husband are stretched thin and have an active toddler she jokingly calls a “toy tornado.”
“Given the amount of housework that clearly needs to be done, paying someone to sit on our toy-covered couch during naps or after bedtime just seems… inefficient,” Narins wrote before posing the question. “Is it completely out of line for me to ask her to declutter when my kids are in bed?”
Whether it’s the expert interviewed for the Scary Mommy article or the parents in the private group, there does seem to be one common theme among the discourse: Any additional chores should be clarified in the original job description, and if it wasn’t, then it should be directly brought up in a conversation with the babysitter.
Many parents in the comments believed that a housekeeper should be hired in addition to the babysitter, while others thought the babysitter should be offered more money for the additional work. But there were several people who thought it was just common courtesy for a babysitter to clean the house while the kids were asleep.
It may seem that you’re paying a babysitter to do nothing while your children sleep, but you’re paying them to be there in the event of an emergency. No matter which side of the debate you’re on, it seems proper communication about expectations will save everyone a headache in the future.
Do you think cleaning should be expected from a babysitter?
When it comes to babysitting, you can hit the jackpot with someone who not only enjoys hanging out with your kiddos but also cleans out of boredom. The only babysitter I’ve had that experience with is my mom, but I do hear they do exist. While walking into a spotless house after a much-needed night out would be amazing, it’s not really part of a standard babysitting package.
Typically, whoever babysits for you is solely there to focus on the well-being of your children. They feed them snacks, play games with them, and follow their bedtime routine to the letter. Then they hang out on your couch reminding Netflix that they’re still watching and wait for you to return. Sure, they clean up dishes from dinner and whatever toys were pulled out during their time with your kids, but they don’t typically clean your house.
But in a private parenting group I belong to, a long debate was started when a mom asked a group of 260k of her closest friends if it would be appropriate for a parent to ask a babysitter to clean their home.
The anonymous mom explained that her college-aged daughter had recently started babysitting for a family, but on the second day, her duties suddenly changed. There was a list of chores waiting for the babysitter that included cleaning the family’s dishes and cleaning up messes that were there before the sitter arrived.
This revelation set off a firestorm of comments with many agreeing that anything outside of cleaning up after the children while they’re in your care is a separate job. But not everyone was on the same page and it was clear that this was a topic that was going to cause some intense debate. Since summer months are here, there’s no wonder this topic is coming up and views are split.
Scary Mommy recently published an article posing a similar question, only this was coming from a parent who wanted her babysitter to clean while her children slept. Elizabeth Narins explains that she and her husband are stretched thin and have an active toddler she jokingly calls a “toy tornado.”
“Given the amount of housework that clearly needs to be done, paying someone to sit on our toy-covered couch during naps or after bedtime just seems… inefficient,” Narins wrote before posing the question. “Is it completely out of line for me to ask her to declutter when my kids are in bed?”
Whether it’s the expert interviewed for the Scary Mommy article or the parents in the private group, there does seem to be one common theme among the discourse: Any additional chores should be clarified in the original job description, and if it wasn’t, then it should be directly brought up in a conversation with the babysitter.
Many parents in the comments believed that a housekeeper should be hired in addition to the babysitter, while others thought the babysitter should be offered more money for the additional work. But there were several people who thought it was just common courtesy for a babysitter to clean the house while the kids were asleep.
It may seem that you’re paying a babysitter to do nothing while your children sleep, but you’re paying them to be there in the event of an emergency. No matter which side of the debate you’re on, it seems proper communication about expectations will save everyone a headache in the future.
Do you think cleaning should be expected from a babysitter?
When it comes to babysitting, you can hit the jackpot with someone who not only enjoys hanging out with your kiddos but also cleans out of boredom. The only babysitter I’ve had that experience with is my mom, but I do hear they do exist. While walking into a spotless house after a much-needed night out would be amazing, it’s not really part of a standard babysitting package.
Typically, whoever babysits for you is solely there to focus on the well-being of your children. They feed them snacks, play games with them, and follow their bedtime routine to the letter. Then they hang out on your couch reminding Netflix that they’re still watching and wait for you to return. Sure, they clean up dishes from dinner and whatever toys were pulled out during their time with your kids, but they don’t typically clean your house.
But in a private parenting group I belong to, a long debate was started when a mom asked a group of 260k of her closest friends if it would be appropriate for a parent to ask a babysitter to clean their home.
The anonymous mom explained that her college-aged daughter had recently started babysitting for a family, but on the second day, her duties suddenly changed. There was a list of chores waiting for the babysitter that included cleaning the family’s dishes and cleaning up messes that were there before the sitter arrived.
This revelation set off a firestorm of comments with many agreeing that anything outside of cleaning up after the children while they’re in your care is a separate job. But not everyone was on the same page and it was clear that this was a topic that was going to cause some intense debate. Since summer months are here, there’s no wonder this topic is coming up and views are split.
Scary Mommy recently published an article posing a similar question, only this was coming from a parent who wanted her babysitter to clean while her children slept. Elizabeth Narins explains that she and her husband are stretched thin and have an active toddler she jokingly calls a “toy tornado.”
“Given the amount of housework that clearly needs to be done, paying someone to sit on our toy-covered couch during naps or after bedtime just seems… inefficient,” Narins wrote before posing the question. “Is it completely out of line for me to ask her to declutter when my kids are in bed?”
Whether it’s the expert interviewed for the Scary Mommy article or the parents in the private group, there does seem to be one common theme among the discourse: Any additional chores should be clarified in the original job description, and if it wasn’t, then it should be directly brought up in a conversation with the babysitter.
Many parents in the comments believed that a housekeeper should be hired in addition to the babysitter, while others thought the babysitter should be offered more money for the additional work. But there were several people who thought it was just common courtesy for a babysitter to clean the house while the kids were asleep.
It may seem that you’re paying a babysitter to do nothing while your children sleep, but you’re paying them to be there in the event of an emergency. No matter which side of the debate you’re on, it seems proper communication about expectations will save everyone a headache in the future.
Do you think cleaning should be expected from a babysitter?
What do you do when you find out your kid bullied someone? For many parents, the first step is forcing an apology. While this response is of course warranted, is it really effective? Some might argue that there are more constructive ways of handling the situation that teach a kid not only what they did wrong, but how to make things right again.
Single dadPatrick Forseth recently shared how he made a truly teachable moment out of his son, Lincoln, getting into trouble for bullying. Rather than forcing an apology, Forseth made sure his son was actively part of a solution.
The thought process behind his decision, which he explained in a now-viral TikTok video, is both simple and somewhat racial compared to how many parents have been encouraged to handle similar situations.
“I got an email a few days ago from my 9-year-old son’s teacher that he had done a ‘prank’ to a fellow classmate and it ended up embarrassing the classmate and hurt his feelings,” the video begins.
At this point, Forseth doesn’t split hairs. “I don’t care who you are, that’s bullying,” he said. “If you do something to somebody that you know has the potential end result of them being embarrassed in front of a class or hurt—you’re bullying.”
So, Forseth and Lincoln sat down for a long talk (a talk, not a lecture) about appropriate punishment and how it would have felt to be on the receiving end of such a prank.
From there, Forseth told his son that he would decide how to make things right, making it a masterclass in taking true accountability.
“I demanded nothing out of him. I demanded no apology, I demanded no apology to the teacher,” he continued, adding, “I told him that we have the opportunity to go back and make things right. We can’t take things back, but we can try to correct things and look for forgiveness.”
So what did Lincoln do? He went back to his school and actually talked to the other boy he pranked. After learning that they shared a love of Pokémon, he then went home to retrieve two of his favorite Pokémon cards as a peace offering, complete with a freshly cleaned case.
Lincoln would end up sharing with his dad that the other boy was so moved by the gesture that he would end up hugging him.
“I just want to encourage all parents to talk to your kids,” Forseth concluded. “Let’s try to avoid just the swat on the butt [and] send them to their room. Doesn’t teach them anything.”
In Forseth’s opinion, kids get far more insight by figuring out how to resolve a problem themselves. “That’s what they’re actually going to face in the real world once they move out of our nests.”
He certainly has a point. A slap on the wrist followed by being marched down somewhere to say, “I’m sorry,” only further humiliates kids most of the time. With this gentler approach, kids are taught the intrinsic value of making amends after wrongdoing, not to mention the power of their own autonomy. Imagine that—blips in judgment can end up being major character-building moments.
Kudos to this dad and his very smart parenting strategy.
What do you do when you find out your kid bullied someone? For many parents, the first step is forcing an apology. While this response is of course warranted, is it really effective? Some might argue that there are more constructive ways of handling the situation that teach a kid not only what they did wrong, but how to make things right again.
Single dadPatrick Forseth recently shared how he made a truly teachable moment out of his son, Lincoln, getting into trouble for bullying. Rather than forcing an apology, Forseth made sure his son was actively part of a solution.
The thought process behind his decision, which he explained in a now-viral TikTok video, is both simple and somewhat racial compared to how many parents have been encouraged to handle similar situations.
“I got an email a few days ago from my 9-year-old son’s teacher that he had done a ‘prank’ to a fellow classmate and it ended up embarrassing the classmate and hurt his feelings,” the video begins.
At this point, Forseth doesn’t split hairs. “I don’t care who you are, that’s bullying,” he said. “If you do something to somebody that you know has the potential end result of them being embarrassed in front of a class or hurt—you’re bullying.”
So, Forseth and Lincoln sat down for a long talk (a talk, not a lecture) about appropriate punishment and how it would have felt to be on the receiving end of such a prank.
From there, Forseth told his son that he would decide how to make things right, making it a masterclass in taking true accountability.
“I demanded nothing out of him. I demanded no apology, I demanded no apology to the teacher,” he continued, adding, “I told him that we have the opportunity to go back and make things right. We can’t take things back, but we can try to correct things and look for forgiveness.”
So what did Lincoln do? He went back to his school and actually talked to the other boy he pranked. After learning that they shared a love of Pokémon, he then went home to retrieve two of his favorite Pokémon cards as a peace offering, complete with a freshly cleaned case.
Lincoln would end up sharing with his dad that the other boy was so moved by the gesture that he would end up hugging him.
“I just want to encourage all parents to talk to your kids,” Forseth concluded. “Let’s try to avoid just the swat on the butt [and] send them to their room. Doesn’t teach them anything.”
In Forseth’s opinion, kids get far more insight by figuring out how to resolve a problem themselves. “That’s what they’re actually going to face in the real world once they move out of our nests.”
He certainly has a point. A slap on the wrist followed by being marched down somewhere to say, “I’m sorry,” only further humiliates kids most of the time. With this gentler approach, kids are taught the intrinsic value of making amends after wrongdoing, not to mention the power of their own autonomy. Imagine that—blips in judgment can end up being major character-building moments.
Kudos to this dad and his very smart parenting strategy.
This article originally appeared on 3.24.23
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