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Harry Styles finished his two-year-long Love On Tour in Italy on July 22. In bidding it farewell, Styles wrote to his fans on his Instagram Story, in part, “Look after each other, I’ll see you again when the time is right.” Oh, Harry. You know better than this. Your fans look after you at all times, and seeing you with the actress Taylor Russell has only guaranteed that they won’t look away.

June 2023: First Spotting

According to People, Styles and Russell were first spotted together in June. The publication cited a TikTok from Ella Hodgkinson from June 23 that compiled photos of Styles outside of the White Cube art gallery in London. One photo shows Styles and what appears to be Russell from afar as they approach a car.

July 2023: Love On Tour

The Bones And All actress was then seen in a VIP section at Styles’ Love On Tour stop in Vienna, Austria on July 8, as shown in footage obtained by TMZ. The following day, the rumored couple were the subject of a fan TikTok — showing them (or we’re told it’s them) walking around Vienna. Russell is also alleged to have attended Styles’ Love On Tour finale on July 22, as seen here.

August 2023: Attending Russell’s Play

Come August 9, Page Six and TMZ reported that Styles had attended Russell’s The Effect play at London’s National Theatre and fueled romance rumors at the afterparty by allegedly holding hands. (For those wondering, yes, famed Harry Styles Third Wheel James Corden was with them.)

“We’re told Harry left the shindig after a while, jumping into the back of a car by himself while carrying Taylor’s stuff,” TMZ relayed at the time. “However, sources say Harry’s ride pulled up to the stage door not long after, with Taylor jumping in the back seat before pulling off.”

On August 30, The Face published an interview with Russell, and the 29-year-old was asked if she trusts people easily and what makes her feel safe.

“It comes and goes,” Russell said. “It’s something that has been a big part of my life this past year. I mean, it’s been a big part of my life since I can remember, because I really want to live an open life and meet somebody and be real and honest and truthful with them. You can’t really live an open life if you aren’t sharing of yourself while you ask another person to share of themselves with you.”

She continued, “But I’ve found it increasingly harder to do that, and I’m trying to challenge myself in that way right now. My experience the past couple of years, [with] people I’ve really trusted, things weren’t held in a way that I would’ve appreciated them to be held. And so, that has changed things in me a little bit.”

Within her answer, Russell touched on how moving to London has shifted her perspective, noting that she’d thought to herself, “You know what, Taylor, this is a new place. You’re not in America, not in Canada. You have to open up and allow people to know you. You’re going to be in a community of people that are going to be there for you. You have to allow them to know you. If something happens, something happens, that’s life. You are going to be hurt – that’s the tax. The tax on a real relationship is the reality that you will get hurt, you will [have] grief, something will be lost at some point and that’s OK. It’s worth it.”

September 2023: Holding Hands In London

This week, Styles and Russell were photographed out and about in London, holding hands and very small coffees. Without any facts or knowledge of these two people, it would appear that Russell is reaping the rewards of opening herself up to someone. (And for those wondering, Styles has also been spotted at least three times with Corden in the last month — riding bikes and on a very small boat).

There is certainly no shortage of stories from women highlighting the glaring disparity between society’s expected responsibilities of husbands vs. wives. Some are a bit more lighthearted, poking fun at the absurdity. Others reflect utter frustration and had-it-up-to-here-edness with partners not doing their share of the work.

However, self-proclaimed “Clueless Husband” J Fisher’s honest, thoughtful retrospection on the subject shows that it’s not just female partners noticing that things need to change.

In a now-viral TikTok video, Fisher describes how he used to consider himself the “main character” of his relationship.

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What exactly did that look like? Early on in his marriage, it looked something like this:

“Say we’d be going on a trip. My partner at that point in time would be doing the laundry, vacuuming the house, making sure the dishes were done. I would think, I would literally think like, ‘Well, yeah, we don’t have to do that. That’s you wanting to do that. It’s not what I want to do,’” he explained in the clip.

@jfisher62 What NOT to do as a husband #fyp #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #fairplay #parenting #feminism #dismantlethepatriarchy #relationship #marriage #support #partnering ♬ original sound – J Fisher

Fisher later shared how his wife would then get everything ready for said trip, while he would simply pack for himself. This continued even after they had kids. It became worse, actually.

“My partner would do all the work to get all of them ready to make sure they were bathed, snacks packed, and I would get myself ready.”

Looking back, Fisher can plainly see how this behavior was “not okay.” But how did he think this was acceptable in the first place? After some reflection, he realized that it was simply the standard being modeled to him from an early age.

“I saw my own father do this quite a bit where he would take care of his own needs. So, I know I didn’t learn it from nowhere,” he said. “But I also had to unlearn it because it never was okay. I thought that my role was to do all these things outside of the home and that the home was women’s domain. I saw that modeled and even taught as the way it should be, but, oh my gosh, is that not partnership? And that sucks.”

After coming to this revelation, Fisher’s opinion is that if you approve of this division of labor, that you “shouldn’t be in a relationship.”

Hard to argue with that.

Hoping that he can further illustrate a better partnering mindset in a way that “may help it click for some guys,” Fisher has all kinds of insightful TikToks focused on taking accountability and expanding emotional intelligence. In them, he often names therapy, setting boundaries, finding community and accessing personal joy (rather than relying on a partner to fulfill all emotional needs) as major tools for creating a more equal relationship.

@jfisher62 Good intention ≠ Truly loving 💔😔 “I’m Sorry” doesn’t begin to do it justice. #fyp #foryoupage #marriage #longtermrelationship #partner #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #accountability #healingjourney #grief #stagesofgrief #dabda #acceptance ♬ original sound – J Fisher

And perhaps the best part—there doesn’t seem to be so much shame around the subject. Fisher acknowledges his own goodwill while still admitting to displaying less-than-healthy behavior. It’s hard not to feel like if maybe this kind of honest, yet compassionate reexamination of gender stereotypes were more commonplace, we’d all collectively be a lot farther ahead.

This article originally appeared on 5.4.23

Few people have earned the amount of genuine, wholesome love that Fred Rogers did. Mr. Rogers made an indelible mark on countless children’s childhoods with his goodness, and he even managed to maintain his reputation for being genuinely kind and caring until the end of his life and beyond.

It’s a rare feat these days, to live a life in the spotlight and not be outed for some kind of scandal. But Mr. Rogers did and we love him all the more for it.

There are countless qualities that made Mr. Rogers who he was, but one clip from a 1982 David Letterman interview showcases his unique combination of kindness and self-assuredness.

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In the clip, Letterman chatted with Rogers for a few minutes about his career, then pointed out that there was a performer in the building who had done imitations of Rogers.

“I just met him a little bit ago,” Rogers responded, pulling out a Polaroid photo of himself smiling next to comedian Eddie Murphy.

Murphy was a regular cast member on Saturday Night Live from 1980 to 1984 and one of his most popular skits was a parody of “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood” called “Mister Robinson’s Neighborhood.”

By Eddie Murphy standards, the skits were fairly clean, but they referenced some hefty topics such as poverty, racism and gentrification while also playing up certain racial and socioeconomic stereotypes. And they weren’t always very kid-friendly (as is the case with many SNL skits).

“How do you react to that?” Letterman asked Rogers. “We talked to Andy Rooney about someone doing an impression of him and he didn’t seem too keen on it.”

Rogers’ response was honest but totally classy.

“Well, some of them aren’t very funny,” he said. Then he seemed to choose his words thoughtfully: “But I think that a lot of them are done with real kindness in their hearts.”

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People in the comments praised Rogers for being exactly who he was during the interview.

“I love that he seems unfazed that some of the audience are not exactly laughing with him… or that Dave would ask him some baiting questions. The man is so comfortable in his own skin that he cares not what others think or say. One of the many reasons he was such a wonderful role model for us kids. A truly wonderful human being.” – @OldSaltyBear

“After watching this interview, I just realized what you see on Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood is basically him, he wasn’t acting or trying to be someone else just for the show, that was him. Fred Rogers was Fred Rogers on and off the show. Such genuineness, it definitely, and exponentially, multiplies the kindness he shows on the show.” – @arisketch9247

“Mr Rogers was truly the odd man out. Just a wonderful human being. I was never a fan of Letterman but I think he wanted this interview to go different. I’m not sure the exact intent but Mr Rodgers was just a convicted, sincere and genuine person to want kids to be kids. Even the bad, he wanted them to be true to their feelings and have a safe place to express it. He was the best.” – @MurphySullivan

Others shared how much Mr. Rogers meant to them personally:

“I will always appreciate Mr. Rogers because my childhood was one of abuse and violence. Watching an adult talk to me like I mattered and in a calm way was a refuge for me. It may sound corny and dramatic, but it was my reality back in the 80’s. He was a blessing and a genuine person.” – @jameswhittenburg5299

“That man saved me from my childhood. Abuse surrounded me. There were no good or trustworthy adults I could rely on, but I had Mr. Rogers. I loved him when I was really young, & he taught me things I desperately needed to hear. What a wonderful, wonderful man.” – @dshepherd107

“I don’t think people realized that Mr. Rogers was actually a foster parent to every child that watched this show. He’s still fostering children posthumously. He just had that big of a heart and good spirit. Such a good man. RIP” – @randomsteve7808

It’s truly impossible to overstate the impact Fred Rogers had on generations of kids during his lifetime, and thanks to the miracle of television, his legacy continues to inspire and comfort to this day.

(And if you haven’t seen “Mister Robinson’s Neighborhood,” here’s a taste:)

A Helpful Chart to Explain the Difference Between Support and ‘Toxic Positivity” was originally published on The Mighty.

There’s no denying that positivity can be powerful. I know when I’m struggling with anxiety and negative thoughts, if I can hold onto an ounce of hope — that I’ll make it through, that I’m not defined by my thoughts, that I’m not as bad as my brain is making me out to be — I can cope a little better.

The positivity we hold within ourselves, when we can manage it, makes it a little easier to get by.

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That being said, perhaps counterintuitively, positivity isn’t always the best way to help others. You can’t make someone be positive. You can’t sprinkle positivity dust on them and make their problems go away. And honestly, when people are seeking help and support, they’re usually not looking for straight-up, inspirational poster positivity. More often, they’re looking for validation that their negative feelings are OK.

I’ve always kind of known this but didn’t think about it in a tangible way until I saw a graphic made by Whitney Hawkins Goodman, LMFT, owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center. She runs the Instagram account @sitwithwhit, and after she posted an image explaining “Toxic Positivity,” I started seeing it all over social media.

The graphic shows the difference between supporting someone with validation and hope, and trying to support them with “toxic positivity.” According to Whitney, it’s the difference between, “This is hard… I believe in you,” and, “Just be happy!” If you could never pinpoint why simple “inspiring” quotes didn’t sit well with you, this could be the explanation.

It reminds me of a popular animated video about empathy, which uses the words of Brené Brown. If sympathy is shouting down at someone while they’re stuck in a hole, empathy is getting into the hole with them. If “toxic positivity” is telling someone to just “look at the bright side,” support is putting yourself in someone’s shoes, and accepting their feelings for what they are.

Of course, when we throw around phrases like, “Think positive,” or, “Stop being so negative,” we’re probably coming from a good place. You’re spreading these messages because you want people to be happier, damn it! So what’s wrong with reminding people to be positive?

The hard-to-face truth is, supporting people isn’t about being “positive.” In fact, when you force positivity down someone’s throat, it can actually have the opposite effect. “Toxic positivity” can make people feel unsafe expressing their negativity, and negativity thrives in isolation. It can make people think there’s something wrong with them for not simply “choosing” happiness, and shame is negativity’s enabling best friend.

When we’re supporting someone who’s hurting, we need to leave room for positivity to grow. And you don’t yell at a flower to “just” grow — you water it. In this case, you water it with listening, with validation, and with unconditional support. It’s OK to experience negative emotions, and with support, we can help people who are stuck in negativity find their own way out. Simply telling them to “be positive” doesn’t cut it.

Thanks to Whitney for making this informative graphic! You can follow her on Instagram here.

This article originally appeared on February 12, 2019

Patrick Stewart often talks about his childhood and the torment his father put him and his mother through. However, how he answered this vulnerable and brave fan’s question is one of the most eloquent, passionate responses about domestic violence I’ve ever seen.

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WARNING: At 2:40, he’s going to break your heart a little.

You can read more about Heather Skye’s hug with Captain Picard at her blog.

This article originally appeared on 06.26.13.

We know how important it is for adults to take a mental health day once in a while. But allowing kids the same privilege isn’t quite as mainstream. It’s easy to forget that, while maybe not the exact same as clocking in for a job, going to school everyday for upwards of 6-7+ hours a day can be physically and emotionally draining.

That said, parents who do allow their kids to skip school once in a while have noticed how beneficial it can be for their wellbeing.

Recently a mom named Noel LaPalomento shared in a TikTok video her 6-year-old daughter Giada enjoying a day off from school at the mall—something she now gets to do every month, “without being sick.”

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LaPalomento told “Good Morning America” she had noticed a dip in her daughter’s energy levels and mental health since taking on private school full time, depleting her motivation to keep going back.

“Last year, there [were] times she would literally come home from school, she’d be sleeping on the step before I could get her off, then she’d be sleeping in the hallway. It was like, the kid was a zombie,” she told GMA. “And then she comes home, and I don’t even have time to spend with my kid. I’m making dinner, trying to do homework [with her], and then it’s time for bed.”

One morning, LaPalomento wasn’t really feeling great either. And certainly wasn’t eager to make the 30-40 minute drive to Giada’s school. So, she offered a trip to the mall instead, and Giada was thrilled.

In the clip, Giada can be seen sipping boba, playing arcade games, eating cotton candy, and, perhaps most important of all, smiling from ear to ear.

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And now, playing hooky is a monthly tradition—a choice most viewers wholeheartedly support…even envy.

“A mental health day off would have done so much good for my hurting brain and heart when I was growing up. This is amazing!” wrote mom blogger Elyse Myers.

“This should be normalized! So happy to see this!” wrote another.

Of course, others were critical of the decision, arguing that weekends offered the needed amount of relaxation time and the Giada could be missing out on important education days.

But according to LaPalomento, Giada’s grades haven’t been compromised at all. In fact, the days off have even boosted her with a little more motivation.

“It only accounts for 9 days out of an 181-day school year. I don’t see the problem if the student is doing well in school, which in that case she is doing great!,” she reasoned with the New York Post.

Actual educators even weighed in, most in favor of Giada taking a monthly mini break.

“I’m a teacher and I’m not mad about it. Mental health days are super important and let kids be kids!” one person wrote on TikTok.

Meanwhile, psychologists also noted the benefits.

Amy Morin, LCSW, argued that it could help offset anxiety—a serious issue in today’s pressure-inducing, performance-oriented world. And Dr. Kimberly Alexander of the Child Mind Institute in New York City remarked days off as “very restorative when done strategically.” (Insider, GMA)

The key to this strategy is being clear on exactly why a kid might want to skip school. There is of course a difference between needing to prioritize self care avoiding facing fears, which can make mental health issues worse.

It also helps if parents plan for rejuvenating activities rather than allowing bad habits such as excessively playing video games or sleeping all day to form. But the common denominator between all these things is open communication. Checking in, asking questions, and validating a child’s experience.

Not every parent might be able to pull off a monthly day off like LaPalomento, but it helps to at least recognize the value in letting kids have the autonomy to actually voice when they need a break. Just think of how different our world might be if it were full of adults who didn’t think the world would end if we sat back and enjoyed life once in a while.

LoveLoud is an annual festival founded by Dan Reynolds of Imagine Dragons. It aims to “progress the relevant and vital conversation about what it means to unconditionally love, understand, accept, and support LGBTQ+ youth in our communities.” Over the years, it’s had Kesha, Anitta, Willow, Zedd, Laura Jane Grace, Grouplove, and more.

This year, the touring festival will take place in three locations in October and November: Washington DC; Salt Lake City, Utah; and Austin, Texas. On October 17 at The Anthem in Washington DC, the lineup has Lindsey Stirling, Allison Russell, Victoria Monét, David Archuleta, Dan Reynolds, and Tyler Glenn of Neon Trees. On November 3 at The Delta Center in Salt Lake City, the lineup has Lauv, Tegan And Sara, Mother Mother, David Archuleta, Dan Reynolds, and Tyler Glenn. On November 10 at The Long Center For The Performing Arts in Austin, the lineup has Chelsea Cutler, Cavetown, VINCINT, Dan Reynolds, and Tyler Glenn.

The press release also states, “Each date will also host local drag queens, speakers, and LGBTQ+ talent and allies.” Proceeds from the festival will go to The Trevor Project, The Tegan And Sara Foundation, GLAAD, and other organizations.

Tickets and more information can be found here.

Most of Elon Musk‘s posts on X are of the “!!” or “yup” variety. But every so often, he’ll share a private photo of his ex-girlfriend or try to unseat Bill Maher as the “unfunniest person” alive with pithy comebacks.

Earlier this week, Musk accused Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY) of being “not that smart.” In response, the congresswoman wrote, “I wasn’t born rich and became the youngest woman in American history to be elected to Congress. Then I investigated Cohen, authored the largest FEMA funeral assistance program in history and led creation of a US Climate Corps to create tens of thousands of new jobs.” She added, “Stay mad.” Stay mad, he did.

“I take it back – you’re obviously a genius,” Musk replied. God stuff, sir. Then, four hours later (at 3:47 a.m. lol), he tried again. “First, please allow me to congratulate you on these epic achievements. However, have you considered, rather than ‘funeral assistance’, that FEMA focus its funding on preventing funerals in the first place?” he wrote. Musk pulling a Costanza isn’t as weird as the time he flirted with a fake AOC account, but it’s close.

As pointed out by Matt Binder, “an incredible tweet from Musk. the funeral assistance that AOC is referencing here is re: COVID-19 deaths… something that Elon Musk himself consistently spreads massive disinformation & anti-vaccine sentiment about contributing to the very deaths he’s telling her to prevent.” Musk would respond, but he’s busy sharing 2012-ass memes.

(Via X)

This week’s GOP debate churned out another viral moment of Ron DeSantis attempting to smile like a human and further convincing everyone that he might be a robot. Chris Christie also stared straight into the camera to address former pal Donald “Duck” Trump, and surprisingly enough, Don Jr. did not issue another completely mature Krispy Kreme joke in response.

Jr. did, however, take time out from freaking out over the possible dissolution of the Trump Org to get twitchy over DeSantis getting his face powdered (as is customary when one appears on TV cameras). The eldest boy thought this was the funniest thing in the world while zooming right past his dad’s notorious bronzer addiction. And Jr. hopped on that low-hanging fruit like it ain’t no thing while tweeting a clip of DeSantis being de-shined: “Rhonda Santis”

This is only 1% less graceful than when Jr. accidentally ridiculed his dad while trying to make fun of Meatball. And people can’t believe he’s really going there when his dad pays so much attention to hair and making himself look like he fell out of the worst make-up trailer. Yes, “Your dad wears more makeup then Cher” did pop up in the resulting comebacks.

In a new interview with Variety, burgeoning rap superstar Ice Spice addressed a racism scandal involving the 1975 frontman Matty Healy, saying she “didn’t really care” about it, despite an online controversy that had social media users up in arms for days.

The incident she’s referring to took place in spring this year, when Healy appeared on The Adam Friedland Show. Healy mentioned Ice Spice, which prompted the show’s hosts to guess at her ethnicity, all while using derogatory and stereotypical accents for Chinese, Hawaiian, and Inuit people. While Healy himself didn’t participate, he also didn’t push back; in response, fans criticized him heavily on social media (although, to be fair, a lot of that appeared to be driven by protective Taylor Swift fans who just didn’t seem to think he was “good enough” for her).

“When I had heard that little podcast or whatever, I was so confused,” she said. “Because I heard ‘chubby Chinese lady’ or some sh*t like that, and I’m like, ‘Huh? What does that even mean?’ First of all, I’m thick. What do you mean Chinese? What? But then they apologized or whatever. And the whole time, I didn’t really care. But that’s funny because I saw him at the Jean Paul Gaultier party a couple days ago, and he was like, ‘Hey, you OK?’ and I’m like, ‘Of course.’ He apologized to me a bunch of times. We’re good.”

Here’s a prime example of why maybe everyone should consider chilling out a little bit. It’s understandable to be invested in our favorite entertainers to a point, but getting all offended on their behalves when they rarely even notice the stuff we expend so much energy on can’t be healthy. Besides, if Ice Spice is too busy doing deals with Dunkin’, working on her debut album, and collaborating with Healy’s ex Taylor Swift, maybe we could all learn from her example and mind the business that actually keeps us paid.