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Over the past few years, women named Karen have taken a lot of heat in the media. The term “Karen” has been used to describe a specific type of entitled, privileged and often middle-aged white woman. Typically, “Karen” is depicted as demanding, self-important and constantly seeking to escalate minor inconveniences to authority figures, like demanding to “speak to the manager.”

Identifying the folks who create unnecessary drama in our world is important. But calling them a “Karen” isn’t the best way to solve the problem. There are many reasons to have an issue with the “Karen” stereotype. First, it’s terrible for people named Karen, and it’s also a connotation that many feel is racist, sexist and ageist.

Further, according to a new study by Trustpilot, the stereotype isn’t accurate. A recent survey by the online media site found that the people who leave the most one-star reviews aren’t female, and the women who do it the most aren’t named Karen.

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Trustpilot is a site where people can review a business from which they’ve purchased a product or contacted customer service. According to TrustPilot, the number one biggest one-star reviewers are named John, not Karen.

“The name John is top for [one-star] reviews in the US, with the rest of the top five positions filled by David, Michael, Chris and James,” the site wrote in a press release. “Looking at specific categories, John is also first for negative reviews in Business Services, Electronics and Technology, Shopping and Fashion, and Money and Insurance. Meanwhile, Lisa left the most [one-star] reviews in our Beauty and Wellbeing category.”

So, if your name is Karen, keep this story in your back pocket next time someone stereotypes you as an entitled complainer. The real complainers are the Johns and, for the women, Lisas.

Why do people go online and write negative reviews? Psychologist William Berry writes in Psychology Today that people get many positive benefits from complaining, although they may annoy everyone around them.

The first big reason is an ego boost. When people complain, they feel validated. It also makes them feel superior to others. Complaining can also bring like-minded people together. If you and a significant other have ever been mistreated in a restaurant or car dealership, having a mutual enemy can work wonders for your relationship.

There are also entire groups of people who bond over a common gripe.

People who habitually complain may do so because of the brain’s negativity bias. “The human brain, geared for survival, focuses on negatives (as they appear more threatening to survival) than on positives (which enhance life but are less vital for survival),” Berry writes. “As the brain perceives negatives at an approximated ratio of five to one, there is simply more to complain about than there is to be grateful for. Additionally, this may lead to less general happiness.”

Here are the top 15 names of consumers who leave the most one-star reviews on Trustpilot. (Also known as the folks that owe the Karens out there an apology.)

1. John

2. David

3. Michael

4. Chris

5. James

6. Mike

7. Mark

8. Robert

9. Alex

10. Paul

11. Lisa

12. Sarah

13. Steve

14. Sam

15. Daniel

It’s pretty common for people to exhibit some strange behaviors after coming out of anesthesia. Anesthesiologists call it “postoperative delirium.” It can happen after major surgery and after dental work. Dentists say it’s common for patients to weep uncontrollably after waking up from having their wisdom teeth removed.

A Utah woman named Skye is going viral after a video taken by her mother, Shani Jensen, shows her crying while saying some hilarious things after having her tonsils removed. Skye is upset because the nurses didn’t let her see her tonsils, and her mom let them dispose of the cap she wore, which she refers to as “her hat.”

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“They keep taking my stuff here. They took my tonsils, they took my hat!” Skye says in the video with tears streaming down her face. “It’s going to be OK, though, because I got a new one … When I put it on, I just feel much better,” she said while putting on a new disposable surgical cap.”

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‘They took my tonsils’: A woman is going viral after video captured her hysterical reaction while under anesthesia for a tonsillectomy. #fyp #viralvideo #funny

During the video, Skye pushes back against her mother, who says that she shouldn’t post anything on social media while under the influence of anesthesia, which makes a lot of sense. But Skye isn’t having it.

“What’s embarrassing about being a warrior, Mom?” Skye asks petulantly. “She doesn’t get it.”

Skye then recalled an embarrassing moment she had before surgery. “I forgot to wear underwear here,” she said. I forgot, and they said: ‘You can take everything else off but leave your underwear.’ I said: ‘I’m not wearing any!’”

Participating in paternity leave offers fathers so much more than an opportunity to bond with their new kids. It also allows them to help around the house and take on domestic responsibilities that many new mothers have to face alone…while also tending to a newborn.

All in all, it enables couples to handle the daunting new chapter as a team, making it less stressful on both parties. Or at least equally stressful on both parties. Democracy!

TikTok creator and dad Caleb Remington, from the popular account @ustheremingtons, confesses that for baby number one, he wasn’t able to take a “single day of paternity leave.”

This time around, for baby number two, Remington had the privilege of taking seven weeks off (to be clear—his employer offered four weeks, and he used an additional three weeks of PTO).

The time off changed Remington’s entire outlook on parenting, and his insights are something all parents could probably use.

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“It’s unfortunately the end of my maternity —ahem— paternity leave,” Remington quips at the beginning of his video, via voiceover. “I only joke because my wife is truly the man of the house. And call me what you want, but I am totally okay with that.”

He then shares that after getting to spend quality time with his family to create precious memories—losing track of time to “watch ants cross the sidewalk,” for instance—he feels “guilty” about not doing so with their firstborn.

“[It] made me realize how many of those small moments I missed out the first time, but I’m looking past that guilt and grateful that I had some time to make it up,” he says.

You’ll notice that during this entire video, Remington is also doing chores. Sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, washing dishes, wiping the countertops…you get the picture.

@ustheremingtons I (caleb) am getting ready to go back into work and i am not ready. Grateful for my four weeks plus 3 weeks of PTO, but i feel like we were just getting into a groove and i was finally getting to have some 1 on 1 time with my son. Picking up the house today because we all function better with a clean space and we haven’t had time to do much of it while surviving these past 7 weeks. I do work from home and find that I have a little more flexibility in helping out here and there but i am also pretty glued and have to be zoned in during work hours. I do however have some pretty awesome and understanding coworkers and company!Shout out to @SAMBAZON Açaí 👊 Tiff is an all star: working and stay at home mom. I am dedicated in doing better to help balance more of the domestic responsibilities. #paternityleave #dadtok #dadsover30 #dadlife #fyp #foryoupage #ditl #ditlvlog #maternityleave #newbornlife #newbornbaby #secondbaby #2under2 #toddlerlife ♬ original sound – Tiffany + Caleb

Why is he doing this? His wife, aka “the lady with the milk bags,” has been so stressed with the house being messy that Remington decided to focus on doing all the housecleaning so that she could spend time with the kids.

Doing a fair share of the domestic labor is something Remington admits to failing at their first time around. Spending seven weeks taking on more responsibilities, however, opened his eyes to the fact that what he previously saw as doing his “fair share” was actually doing “the bare minimum.”

“It has taken multiple conversations — and many ongoing ones — to truly master how to take on more of the mental load of raising children, growing our marriage and taking care of our investments like our home.”

Proof that having difficult conversations can lead to better understanding!

Lastly, Remington reflects on how the emotional turbulence of being new parents challenged his relationship, even though he and his wife were good communicators and aware of how much effort would be required.

“I honestly hated how much we fought, how much I felt misunderstood, and how much I misunderstood her…so now as second-time parents, I feel like we’re a little bit more prepared. Prepared in how we talk to each other, prepared in how I balance work, life, and personal life, and prepared to just let things go,” he says.

Definitely valuable insights for anyone navigating baby number one. Or number five, for that matter.

Remington’s story stands as a great example of just how beneficial paternity leave can be. It offers priceless bonding time, an equal balance of responsibilities, and more time for much needed reflection as parents begin a pivotal new chapter in their lives.

It’s hard to explain the relentless intensity of having young children if you haven’t done it. It’s wonderful, beautiful, magical and all of that—it truly is—but it’s a lot. Like, a lot. It’s a bit like running an ultramarathon through the most beautiful landscape you can imagine. There’s no question that it’s amazing, but it’s really, really hard. And sometimes there are storms or big hills or obstacles or twisted ankles or some other thing that makes it even more challenging for a while.

Unfortunately, a lot of moms feel like they’re running that marathon alone. Some actually are. Some have partners who don’t pull their weight. But even with an equal partner, the early years tend to be mom-heavy, and it takes a toll.

In fact, that toll is so great that it’s not unusual for moms to fantasize about being hospitalized—not with anything serious, just something that requires a short stay—simply to get a genuine break.

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In a thread on X (formerly Twitter), a mom named Emily shared this truth: “[I don’t know] if the lack of community care in our culture is more evident than when moms casually say they daydream about being hospitalized for something only moderately serious so that they are forced to not have any responsibilities for like 3 days.”

In a follow-up tweet, she added, “And other moms are like ‘yeah totally’ while childfree Gen Z girls’ mouths hang open in horror.”

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Other moms corroborated, not only with the fantasy but the reality of getting a hospital break:

“And can confirm: I have the fondest memories of my appendicitis that almost burst 3 weeks after my third was born bc I emergency had to go get it taken out and I mean I let my neighbor take my toddlers and I let my husband give the baby formula, and I slept until I was actually rested. Under the knife, but still. It was really nice,” wrote one mom.

“I got mastitis when my first was 4 months old. I had to have surgery, but my hospital room had a nice view, my mom came to see me, the baby was with me but other people mostly took care of her, bliss,” shared another.

Some people tried to blame lackadaisical husbands and fathers for moms feeling overwhelmed, but as Emily pointed out, it’s not always enough to have a supportive spouse. That’s why she pointed to “lack of community care” in her original post.

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They say it takes a village to raise a child, but it also takes a village to raise a mother. Without the proverbial village, we end up bearing too much of the weight of childrearing ourselves. We’re not just running the ultramarathon—we’re also carrying the water, bandaging the blisters, moving fallen trees out of the way, washing the sweat out of our clothes—and we’re doing it all without any rest.

Why don’t moms just take a vacation instead of daydreaming about hospitalization? It’s not that simple. Many people don’t have the means for a getaway, but even if they do, there’s a certain level of “mom guilt” that comes with purposefully leaving your young children. Vacations usually require planning and decision-making as well, and decision fatigue is one of the most exhausting parts of parenting.

Strange as it may seem, the reason hospitalization is attractive is that it’s forced—if you’re in the hospital, you have to be there, so there’s no guilt about choosing to leave. It involves no decision-making—someone else is calling the all shots. You literally have no responsibilities in the hospital except resting—no one needs anything from you. And unlike when you’re on vacation, most people who are caring for your kids when you’re in the hospital aren’t going to constantly contact you to ask you questions. They’ll leave you to let you rest.

Paula Fitzbiggons shares that had three kids under the age of 3 in 11 months (two by adoption and one by birth). Her husband, despite being very involved and supportive, had a 1.5 hour commute for work, so the lion’s share of childcare—”delightful utter chaos” as she refers to it—fell on her shoulders. At one point, she ended up in the ER with atrial fibrillation, and due to family medical history was kept in the hospital for a few days for tests and monitoring.

“When people came to visit me or called to see how I was, I responded that I was enjoying my time at ‘the spa,’ and though I missed my family, I was soaking it all in,” she tells Upworthy. “My husband understood. Other mothers understood. The medical staff did not know what to make of my cheerful demeanor, but there I was, lying in bed reading and sleeping for four straight days with zero guilt. What a gift for a new mom.”

When you have young children, your concept of what’s relaxing shifts. I recall almost falling asleep during one of my first dental cleanings after having kids. That chair was so comfy and no one needed anything from me—I didn’t even care what they were doing to my teeth. It felt like heaven to lie down and rest without any demands being made of me other than “Open a little wider, please.”

Obviously, being hospitalized isn’t ideal for a whole host of reasons, but the desire is real. There aren’t a lot of simple solutions to the issue of moms needing a real break—not just an hour or two, but a few days—but maybe if society were structured in such a way that we had smaller, more frequent respites and spread the work of parenting across the community, we wouldn’t feel as much of a desire to be hospitalized simply to be able to be able to rejuvenate.

Drake has been teasing his forthcoming album For All The Dogs all summer, beginning with a QR code placed in select newspapers in late June. Him talking about the album has become something of a staple on his shows during his and 21 Savage’s ongoing It’s All A Blur Tour. On August 21, Drake revealed that his five-year-old son, Adonis, drew the album’s cover art. Most recently, on Wednesday, September 6, photos circulated online of Drake wearing various multi-colored clips in his braids, and fans took it as him relaying the album’s release date as September 22.

That night, Drake verified their collective hunch.

Drake posted an old video to Instagram of his father, Dennis Graham, performing in Memphis, Tennessee, for Stormy Monday With Dennis Marks while casually smoking a cigarette. Along with his band, he covered Albert King’s “Crosscut Saw.” Drake captioned the video, “FOR ALL THE DOGS SEPTEMBER 22.”

Drake will also perform his second of back-to-back It’s All A Blur Tour shows at Desert Diamond Arena on Wednesday night, so prepare for more For All The Dogs anticipation-building. On September 22, Drake will celebrate the long-awaited release during his It’s All A Blur Tour stop at Spectrum Center in Charlotte, North Carolina. See all of the remaining tour dates here.

Ethan Hawke has a new movie on the festival circuit: Wildcat, a drama about the Southern writer Flannery O’Connor. It’s a chance for him to do something he’s never done before: direct his daughter. Maya Hawke has come into her own over the last few years, acting in Stranger Things and Fear Street and Asteroid City, plus standing out as a singer. They appear to have a good relationship, enough that she can make fun of him for badly hitting on Rihanna. Heck, it’s not even weird for them that he directed her doing intimate scenes.

In a double interview with Variety (in a bit caught by Insider), there are two scenes that might be weird for a father and daughter to shoot together. Wildcat dips in and out of some of O’Connor’s work, with Maya playing those characters, too. In one, from the short story “Good Country People,” a young woman played by Maya “goes at it with a Bible salesman,” played by Cooper Hoffman. In another, from “Parker’s Back,” she “gets felt up by a ne’er-do-well,” played by Rafael Casal.

Sounds awkward! Well, it wasn’t.

“We were so comfortable with it,” Ethan said, turning to Maya. “I couldn’t care less.”

Maya added that they “made sure to have an intimacy coordinator on set for them. So that they felt safe and comfortable and not like they were being spied on…”

Interjected Ethan, “…by some creepy dad.”

(Via Variety and Insider)

Conan O’Brien gets the most out of his guests on the Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend podcast. He bonded with Japanese Breakfast over her Coachella set. Chris Martin explained why Bruce Springsteen is to blame for his decision to stop eat dinner. Billie Eilish shared “heartbreaking” advice she once received from her idol-turned-friend Justin Bieber. So, it was only a matter of time before Conan O’Brien Needs A Friend hosted a story about friendship.

Questlove was O’Brien’s guest for the September 4 episode of the podcast, and their hour-plus conversation included insight into how Jimmy Fallon helped pieceThe Roots back together again.

Questlove explained that personal and professional responsibilities were stretching The Roots thin around 2009, so they wished “a Celine Dion situation would happen,” meaning a stable residency. Their version of that was joining up with Fallon, first on Late Night With Jimmy Fallon and then as the in-house band on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon, which he said “is what we needed to actually bond and be friends again.”

The Grammy and Oscar winner then shared a story involving the Red Hot Chili Peppers around 2006 that had previously made him realize that he was no longer friends with his longtime bandmates

“We’re on tour with the Chili Peppers, and it’s a European tour. And they’re playing, like, soccer — I’m sorry, post-[Ted] Lasso, football stadiums,” he said. “You know, it’s like 80,000 to 120,000 [people] a night. Every three to four songs, those guys get into sort of a football magic circle huddle. By the fourth time they do this, I’m thinking like, ‘Oh, they’re gonna call an audible and change up the setlist.’ And then, I had the setlist in my hand, I’m like, Wait, they didn’t change anything. … Why do they keep having these little meetings every five songs, and nothin’ changes from what I know the show to be?”

He continued, “I see Flea in catering, and I’m like, ‘Dude, what are you guys talking about when you go into that huddle?’ And Flea is like, ‘Yo, man, it’s like, I don’t know, man. We’re just so full of gratitude.’”

While Questlove was initially “dismissive” of Flea’s reasoning, his manager put it into perspective: The Red Hot Chili Peppers “actually” liked each other, and The Roots has unknowingly transitioned from being friends to “just business partners” around 2006 or ’07.

“I realized, Ah, sh*t. We’re really not friends. We’re just nine strangers that just play the same songs every night, and that’s it,” Questlove said. “What wound up happening at Fallon is Jimmy has a way of disarming you. At least for the first six years, we were 13-year-olds in adults’ bodies, we could do silly things and not feel like we’re gonna lose our street cred because we’re doing silly sh*t.”

At one point, Questlove said, Fallon “talked The Roots into an eight-man human pyramid,” which perfectly illustrated how crucial Fallon would be to reconnecting them with each other and their individual humanity.

Watch the full clip above.

Ayra Starr ended last year by collaborating with Wizkid, and she hopped on Bien’s “My Baby” in early 2023. But now it’s all about her.

“It’s my first headline tourrrrr !!!” Starr wrote in an Instagram post on July 12 announcing her 21: The World Tour. “I’ve been touring around the world, opening for other artists, opening stages at festivals, Now it’s an Ayra Starr show !”

The tour will have three legs — North America, Africa and Australia, and Europe — and it began in Houston, Texas on July 27. So far, Starr has staged nine shows, including stops in Boston, Chicago, New York City, and Toronto. She will next perform on Wednesday night, September 6, in Charlotte, North Carolina, with the North American leg scheduled to wrap on September 19 in Vancouver, British Columbia.

Starr won’t have much rest before starting her trek across Africa and Australia, beginning on September 30 in the latter’s Gold Coast. The European leg will kick off on November 3 in Stockholm, Sweden and wrap with a grand finale in Zurich, Switzerland on November 30.

If you’re planning on attending any of the remaining dates, check out Starr’s setlist (as chronicled by setlist.fm based on her September 2 show at Webster Hall in New York City).

1. “Intro”
2. “Toxic”
3. “Away”
4. “2 Sugar”
5. “Crazy”
6. “Beggie Beggie”
7. “People” (Feat. Arya Starr and Omah Lay)
8. “Love Don’t Cost A Dime (Re-Up)”
9. “Overloading (OVERDOSE)”
10. “Won Da Mo”
11. “Running”
12. “Stamina”
13. “Bridgertn”
14. “Ase”
15. “Fashion Killer”
16. “Bloody Samaritan”
17. “Rush”
18. “Sability”

Omah Lay is a Warner Music artist. Uproxx is an independent subsidiary of Warner Music Group.

Michael Imperioli is more than just a beloved actor who doesn’t love any bigots who watch his work. He’s also a filmmaker. He wrote and directed the 2009 indie Hungry Ghosts. And in 1999, he teamed up with his frequent collaborator Spike Lee to write Summer of Sam, about the New York City’s hellish summer season. It was a tough sell, even in the pre-franchise days, and it took some doing to get it off the ground. Indeed, Imperioli recently revealed that he went to some truly outside-the-box means to ensure it was made.

The erstwhile Christopher Moltisanti is one of the talking heads in the forthcoming documentary Ghosts of the Chelsea Hotel, which explores the storied Manhattan institution. In a clip shared with Variety, Imperioli talks about what would become his first produced screenplay.

“I had just begun writing Summer of Sam with Victor Colicchio — we wrote that script together,” Imperioli recalls. “I really wanted to get it made. So I met somebody who was living here who was a witch, who said she could help me get it made, but it wasn’t going to happen the way I thought it would. I was very ambitious at the time and wanted to get that made, so [I] resorted to tapping into otherworldly means to get it through the studio system.”

Imperioli does not go into details about the meet-up. But Summer of Sam got made, and with no less than Spike Lee at the helm, so maybe witches are real.

In another segment of the doc, Imperioli shares a second story about the supernatural lurking in the Chelsea Hotel.

“I saw a ghost here,” he remembers. “Some people may think that I’m insane and it’s bullsh*t or whatever. But I’m not the only person who has seen this apparition of a woman, apparently from the late 19th century, whose soon-to-be husband died on the Titanic. She came from upstate or something and was waiting for him here, and when she found out what happened to him, she killed herself.”

Imperioili survived the spectral encounter, ensuring that we’d see him not only on The Sopranos but, much later, on The White Lotus, too.

(Via Variety)

There’s not a ton of NBA news being made in early September, but on Tuesday night we got a brief flurry of free agency signings as Danny Green inked a deal to return to Philadelphia, while the Lakers finally nabbed Christian Wood off of the open market.

Wood was unable to land a long-term deal in free agency, as he has earned a reputation as a bit of a malcontent and despite strong production (16.6 points and 7.3 rebounds per game in Dallas) has never been a favorite of coaching staffs over his time in the league. That is usually telling, but as often happens when the Lakers make a signing, some can’t help but overlook potential red flags and get maybe a bit too excited about a talented player joining the team.

That happened on Wednesday, when Richard Sherman decided to compare Wood’s stats (over the last three years) to those of Hall of Famer and two-time champion Pau Gasol.

Sherman probably lost a lot of Laker fans with this comparison, as Pau is about as beloved a figure as the Lakers have had in the last two decades outside of Kobe Bryant. He also was a terrific two-way player who impacted winning in a way Wood never has, and it’s honestly wildly unfair to Wood to even trot out a comparison to Gasol.

Wood is a fascinating litmus test for how you view basketball. If you are like Sherman, you can’t help but be blinded by his raw numbers on offense, where he’s a highly effective stretch big. Wood posted the aforementioned strong averages in scoring and rebounding in his one season in Dallas, shooting 51.5 percent from the field and 37.6 percent from three. However, he has long been a tantalizing talent boasting similar numbers in most every stop, but one who has never been able to stick in a single place. The Lakers will be his eighth NBA team entering his 10th year in the league, which isn’t something that just happens with someone capable of Wood’s production. From attitude to a lack of defensive impact has often kept him from getting the minutes he craves — which was particularly the case for a defensive-minded coach like Jason Kidd — Wood has never found a long-term home in the NBA.

Now he heads to L.A. on a minimum deal with a stated goal of playing a big role alongside LeBron James and Anthony Davis, but it will require a commitment from him to embracing a secondary role and playing hard on both ends of the floor in a way we simply haven’t seen from him yet. Maybe the Lakers are finally the team that will get through to him, and there’s an optimists view that could happen if you want to try and find one. Dallas was supposed to be that place coming off of a conference finals trip, but the team as a whole fell flat and there were plenty of reasons to be frustrated in that locker room. LeBron James commands a level of respect in the locker room that tends to get guys to buy in, but it still requires the humility to fall in line and James won’t suffer a fool for long. However, all of that is to say, you’re asking someone who’s been in the league a decade to do something they never has, albeit now in a situation they’ve never been in. Wood has become the NBA’s version of the Arrested Development marriage counseling joke, where teams recognize it never worked for anyone else…but it just might work for us.