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A viral TikTok video highlights an extreme version of inequality that many wives and mothers in heterosexual relationships face. However, the mom in this story hit her limit and won’t deal with it anymore.

Lynalice Bandy, who goes by @5kids5catssomedogstoo on TikTok, posted a video that showed her home looking like a disaster after she worked six 10-hour days straight while her husband did nothing to help.

Her time-lapse video shows every room in the house completely trashed, with toys, food and laundry scattered everywhere. “Shampoo on the carpets in the girls’ room, nail polish all over Nugget covers, hair, and carpet. Scissors were used to cut hair, the down comforter, the mattress cover, and two Nugget covers,” wrote the mom.

“I’ve worked six, ten-hour days in a row with only one day off being a sick day,” she captioned the video. “I’d like to pretend I’m not the only person who cleans here, but as you can see…These rooms don’t get much attention when I’m not here.”

@5kids5catssomedogstoo

#divorce #parentingfail #messyhouse #whenwomen #depressionanxiety #clean #satifying

She says her husband’s excuse was that he was focused on doing his schoolwork and couldn’t pay attention to the kids. “Now, that school is out for a break, he doesn’t have that excuse anymore,” Bandy says, noting that all of his attention has been focused on “the four vehicles in our driveway that he wants to work on continuously.”

In a follow-up video, Bandy announced that she left her husband after the debacle. The original video received over 17,000 comments, many of which were from supportive women.

“You deserve much better, and he deserves to be alone. Much love to you from someone that left that life behind almost 20 yrs ago. You’ll get here, too,” Angela LaRoche wrote.

“Ma’am, you are nothing short of amazing! Hang in there!” Japanese with Jenny wrote.

“That home is beautiful because of YOU,” Hillary added. “You put in so much work, and it is not unseen by me and so many others. But, you DO deserve better. Proud of you.”

@5kids5catssomedogstoo

Sounds about right…

Even though Bandy’s experience with her husband is an extreme case of a couple whose domestic duties are way out of balance, it points to a problem that plagues many households. Even though it’s 2023 and families are becoming more equal, women still do significantly more housework than men.

A study utilizing data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics’ American Time Use Survey found that women 15 years and older spend 5.7 hours daily doing housework and looking after kids and elders. Men in the same age group do an average of 3.6 hours of daily domestic work.

That’s a 37% difference in time spent on household responsibilities.

Further, women who work an average of 35 hours a week spend 4.9 hours a day on household chores and child care, while men who work the same amount spend an average of 3.8 hours.

The comments show that there are a lot of women out there who are frustrated with their husbands for not doing their fair share. Hopefully, this video will encourage more people to speak out about domestic inequality and for more men to step up and do their part.

Being in a relationship can be difficult at times. Learning someone else’s quirks, boundaries, and deep views on the world can be eye-opening and hard. But usually, the happy chemicals released in our brain when we love someone can cause us to overlook things in order to keep the peace.

Jayson Gaddis, a relationship expert, took to Twitter to rip off people’s rose-colored glasses and tell them to forego marriage. Honestly, with the divorce rate in this country being as high as it is, he probably could’ve stopped his tweet right there. Don’t get married, the end. Many people would’ve probably related and not questioned the bold statement, but thankfully he followed up with three things you must be willing to do before going to the chapel.

Before going into his reasons for why he tells people not to get married, Gaddis explained that he is a person that “LOVEs being married.” I mean, it would probably make him a pretty weird relationship expert if he hated relationships, so it’s probably a good thing he enjoys being married. Surely his spouse appreciates his stance as well.

So why does he tell unsuspecting people not to get married? “Because a long-term partnership might be one of the hardest paths out there. It will confront everything about you and your partner. Your relationship skills will be tested. And all your unresolved childhood trauma will come to the surface,” Gaddis wrote.

Unresolved childhood trauma can become a major problem in relationships because oftentimes our trauma is present in how we react to conflict or relationship strain. According to Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, childhood trauma manifests in relationships in multiple ways including fear of abandonment, being easily irritated, constantly arguing or avoiding conflict at all costs.

u201cNever, ever get married. Unless you are willing to do these 3 things.u201d

— Jayson Gaddis (@Jayson Gaddis)
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It’s not unwise to tuck that bit of information in your pocket if you’re thinking about a long-term relationship, and Gaddis bringing this to the forefront will certainly benefit someone. That’s not to say you can’t be in a relationship if you have trauma; Gaddis is simply suggesting that you be aware of your traumas and how they may show up in the course of a relationship.

He then went on to get into his actual list of things couples should be willing to do before they get married in order to have a successful marriage.

“Learn. Learn about you, learn about them. Never stop learning about yourself and each other in the context of your relationship,” he wrote, which falls right in line with his pre-numbered suggestions.

Now, the second suggestion may have people quickly raising an eyebrow, especially if they don’t like conflict. Gaddis suggested embracing “conflict, adversity and challenges” and getting “very very good at repairing it and working it through 100% of the time.”

u201cSomething about long-term partnership invites us to face everything unloved and unprocessed in our psychology, neurobiology, and mammalian wiring. It is, at its core, a spiritual path.u201d

— Jayson Gaddis (@Jayson Gaddis)
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That’s a good one. Conflict resolution is a skill and committing to sharpening it and using it every single time could save some relationships. The third may help preemptively alleviate some unforeseen power struggles and I’m here for it.

“Share leadership and collaborate. Being teammates about everything and sharing the load together is crucial. Be honest about how hard it is to share leadership and get better at it,” Gaddis tweeted before elaborating further in the thread.

The author and relationship expert bluntly stated that if both people can’t agree to do those three suggestions, then the couple would not survive. Gaddis rounded out the Twitter thread by explaining that unless you’re ready to work on yourself and commit to the three things listed, you should stay single.

Ouch. Harsh words, but it’s better to come from a behavior and relationship expert than anyone else.

This article originally appeared on 2.3.23

The enjoyment you got while watching the Barbie trailer? That’s how Ryan Gosling felt once he tapped into his “Ken-ergy.”

While appearing at CinemaCon 2023 on Tuesday, the actor, who plays Ken to Margot Robbie’s Barbie in director Greta Gerwig’s colorful comedy, discussed his, uh, process for the role. “Up until this point, I only knew Ken from afar. I didn’t know Ken from within. I doubted my Ken-ergy. I didn’t see it. But Margot and Greta conjured this out of me,” he said. It’s a different kind of “Ken-ergy” than what Jeremy Strong brings to playing Ken(dall) on Succession.

Gosling showed his appreciation for Gerwig through his shirt.

Gosling compared stepping onto the Barbie set for the first time to The Wizard of Oz. “I think I finally know what Dorothy felt like,” he said. It’s a fitting comparison, as Gerwig was inspired by Technicolor musicals while making the film. Also, disco. “We had a bunch of references. Disco was a big part of this. This assumption is when people get together they want to dance,” she said.

Gerwig talked about writing the screenplay with her long-time partner Noah Baumbach. “We were making each other laugh and then we got to the end and we started to make each other cry. He thought it was very good and was maybe wanting to direct it,” she told the crowd. “And I said, ‘Step aside.’ There was a point I was so in love with it that I couldn’t imagine anyone else doing it.”

Barbie opens on July 21st.

(Via Variety)

A dedicated Ice Spice fan, aptly already named Lil Munchy Baby, rose the stakes by taking out a whole billboard to invite the “Princess Diana” rapper to his graduation party.

“Dear Ice Spice, I’m feelin’ u, love Munchy,” the sign reads. “You’re invited to my graduation on May 5th. Please DM.” After already providing his Instagram handle on the billboard, he also posted a picture of the open invite.

Oh, and it also includes a photo of Munchy posing in his graduation cap, holding a ton of cash, and sitting on a throne. This photoshoot further proves just how extravagant he’s willing to get and go for Ice’s grad party acceptance.

“Court ordered to go to school is crazy but I did it and kept my head up high I graduated and actually got a degree finna walk the stage and I need bae there tag @icespice for me,” he captioned. “just embracing my inner munch.”

In another Instagram post, it seems Munchy graduated within the past year from Atlanta Metropolitan State College with a Mass Communications degree.

Fans in the replies are already trying to get Ice Spice to take notice by tagging her in the comments. “@icespice come watch my little bro walk the stage !” one added. Others are simply offering kind words to the grad.

Check out the billboard for Ice Spice above.

Over the weekend, Morgan Wallen unexpectedly canceled his performance in Oxford, Mississippi after the Vaught-Hemingway Stadium was already packed and the audience sat through the openers Bailey Zimmerman, Ernest, and Hardy. It’s an understatement to say that fans were not pleased with that night. In fact, one is suing.

Wallen did offer an explanation. “After last night’s show I started losing my voice so I spent the day resting up, talking to my doctor and working through my vocal exercises trying to get better,” he wrote in an Instagram Story. “I really thought I’d be able to take the stage and it kills me to deliver this so close to showtime, but my voice is shot and I am unable to sing. All tickets will be refunded at point of purchase. I am so sorry, I promise you guys I tried everything I could.”

However, many concertgoers will not accept this apology. In her lawsuit, Brandi Burcham argued that ticket refunds neglect to include “out of pocket” expenses. One fan took to Facebook to share exactly what kind of out of pocket expenses she’s expecting to be reimbursed for — and she even included his Cash App. It starts off with basic things like hotel, gas, tickets, whatever — until she mentions Oxford Grillehouse, Cracker Barrel, Los Parrilleros, Rebel Rags, drinks at the show, and even merch.

Good luck with that.

I don’t know when the hell it happened, but there are an absolute shit ton of Reese’s Peanut Butter cups out right now. Seriously, it’s out of control. You’ve got cups with potato chips inside and cups with pretzels inside and cups with Reese’s cereal inside and big cups and thin cups and all sorts of things to change the ratio of peanut butter to chocolate (which was the absolute best thing about this candy in the first place). In 2016, an Uproxx article absolutely marveled at the idea of Reese’s cups with Reese’s Pieces inside and now that’s like real basic b*tch shit. There are dark Reese’s cups and “Chocolate Lovers” Reese’s cups and “Peanut Butter Lovers” cups and white chocolate and marshmallow top… it’s a lot. There are also organic and “plant-based” cups and — okay, seriously, who in the world is demanding all these varieties of Reese’s?

The rapid bloom of variety boggles my mind and we’re talking about my preferred dessert here. At least twice per week I will buy two cups, microwave them for 18 seconds, sprinkle some sea salt on top (how is there not a sea salt cup?), and eat them with a spoon like the famous epicure George Costanza. But I’m simply astounded by all the riffs on my favorite candy showing up at various stores (it’s never all of them at any one store, so some buyer is making a judgment call about which Reese’s flavors to give shelf space to). In fact, I’ve just spent 15 minutes of my one and only life on earth looking at the Reese’s website and there are also Peanut Brittle cups and Crunchy Cookie cups and Frankenstein cups, among others.*

*Okay, here’s my theory as to why Reese’s decided to flood the market with options: Their branding is really bold and clear. By gobbling up more shelf space, they’re also buying up ad impressions in the form of your eyeballs while you’re waiting in line at the grocer or pharmacist. Seriously, next time you’re at Walgreens look at the candy. The color block of five or six Reese’s varieties makes a statement, grabs the eye, and reminds you that maybe you want some candy and maybe that candy should be a new Reese’s flavor. In this sense, having more candy where people look for candy seems like a more effective use of money that any ad on TV or IG as those platforms grow increasingly health conscious.

Annnnyway, this whole mini-rant had been percolating in my for a few weeks, so when I saw a “Reese’s Creamy” and a “Reese’s Crunchy” at my local 7-11, I knew I had to take action by comparing them to the original. For what it’s worth, I tasted these blind and am happy to share that I got a lot of food writer points with my friends when I could tell the creamy from the original. Obviously, the Crunchy was the one with the nuts.

Check out the rest of my tasting notes and the ranking below:

3. Reese’s Creamy Cups

“This is thinner than the original, so it must be the creamy.”

The thing is, I don’t think anyone has ever thought that Original Reese’s cups weren’t creamy enough. That’s like a big selling point for the candy. But this version is certainly meltier and airy-er. Like the peanut butter filling is almost ready to slime right out of the cup when bitten. I don’t like that effect at all. You want a little bite with your Reese’s cup.

Having this melted goo slither out reminds you too keenly of all the stabilizers and preservatives that it takes to make this product shelf stable in the first place. In that sense, this ignites the Uncanny Valley of candy — making it harder for you to lie to yourself about what you’re eating and feeling somehow more distinctly unhealthy while not adding anything in flavor or texture.

BOTTOM LINE:

This feels like a totally superfluous product. Regular Reese’s are already creamy. These are just sort of weirdly… slithery.

2. Reese’s Crunchy Cups

“This makes my teeth hurt. It’s the crunchy but it must have more sugar.”

I was wrong. The crunchy actually has one gram less sugar. But if we’re wildly speculating, maybe that’s because the chopped peanuts take up space where the sugary peanut butter solution would have gone, thereby making the sugar level drop. And — ready for a deep candy conspiracy? — maybe the brand compensated with a little more sugar in the base mix? I’m not sure and am not about to, like, call Reese’s for a comment or something, but these did make my teeth hurt.

I eat a fair bit of candy and that doesn’t happen often. I find it offputting.

Regardless, the nuts are so small here that it pales in comparison to chunky peanut butter — my preferred PB — which typically has practically whole nuts inside. These little slivers don’t add much crunch and are just generally a little discordant with the whole Reese’s cup experience. If you’re going to put something inside my peanut butter cup make it some sort of other candy or confection so at least it offers a flavor contrast.

Bottom Line:

A half-assed attempt at crunch that somehow seems more saccharine. If you want crunch get the potato chip cups, which also hit that whole “salted cup” note that I mentioned earlier.

1. Reese’s Cups

“This is the original. It tastes like a Reese’s cup. No notes.”

The icon. And, just from a pure flavor, texture, and balance perspective, a far better peanut butter cup than the other two. It was the only one I took another bite of after the blindfolds came off.

Bottom Line:

Hands down better than these two new entrants in the vast Reese’s cup universe. Maybe we need to rank all the cups next to see where this lands. But with so many new cups surfacing lately, I’m sure by the time the article launches there will be four or five new types to try.

For now, if it’s peanut butter flavor you want, stick to the OG — creamy and chunky aren’t doing anything special.

If you would for a moment think back to the pilot of Succession. I know, it’s been approximately 45 years since 2018, but we all remember watching Kieran Culkin as Roman Roy tearing up that check after bullying a child after taking over his family’s baseball game. Memories!

But you might also recall a time when Roman had a family with a wife (?!) that was only briefly mentioned in the first episode. As with most shows, the pilot was shot way before the rest of the season, and before the show was considered a “hit,” so it’s normal for things to change in that time, like hairstyles or characters being replaced. For Roman, he had a whole storyline with his family that was ultimately scrapped by the second episode.

When asked by Variety about the change, Culkin admitted that he was excited about the idea of playing a dad, though it never panned out. “It was in the pilot, and after it was picked up, it was his girlfriend, and she had a child. I’m wearing my real wedding band in the episode. I was excited about the idea of having a kid, and the kid was like 7 or 8,” Culkin explained, before adding that the idea was axed. “It was a little disappointing, but I think the idea was that it would just give them more freedom to play with the character.”

Since the writers wanted more freedom, this gave them the opportunity to be a little more ambiguous about Roman’s love life and sexuality. Culkin continued, “They had mentioned to me, even before we shot the pilot, about questioning what Roman’s sexuality is — and we don’t know what it is. But it put something in my brain, and I was like, ‘OK, but I’m married and have kids?’” He added, knowing that episode one introduced the idea of his family. “They were toying with the idea that she’s aware that you have sort of hangups sexually when it comes to monogamy and might be more fluid, but we don’t know what that is yet.”

This wasn’t the first time that writers toyed with the idea of making one of the family members gay, though it would have been Cousin Greg, who didn’t have much of a backstory until the later seasons. Perhaps a disgusting brothers spinoff will explore that idea a bit more!

(Via Variety)

It goes without saying, but Bad Bunny has a ton of fans: In 2022, he was Spotify’s most-streamed artist in the world for the third year in a row. Among those admirers, it would seem, is another hyper-successful figure: Jeff Bezos.

This past Friday (April 21), Bad Bunny headlined the first night of Coachella’s second weekend for 2023. As People reports, the billionaire Amazon founder, who was once the wealthiest person in the world (he’s currently third), was seen attending Bad Bunny’s performance alongside partner and reporter Lauren Sánchez, Kris Jenner, and Corey Gamble. Fan-shot videos also show Bezos and Sánchez enjoying the show.

Bezos’ look drew some attention. As People notes, “Bezos, 59, also kept it casual in a long-sleeve light blue button-up shirt with butterflies on the front, a pair of jeans, and white sneakers with dark trim around the ankle.” Some onlookers took notice of the shirt, which can apparently be bought on Amazon for about $12 (or at least one that looks just like it can). One Reddit user summarized the ensemble, “Jeff looking like the dude that comes into a store and asks to buy the outfit off the mannequin.”

This comes months after Bezos gave Dolly Parton $100 million to use for philanthropic purposes.

Tucker Carlson may have buried himself in Swanson money last night because he’s been pretty quiet after parting ways with Fox News. Still, that doesn’t prevent anyone else from discussing this shocking turn of events for cable news. The conservative network didn’t spare many seconds to summarily dismiss the subject while Brian Kilmeade punched in on Tucker’s old time slot, but other nighttime hosts had a field day.

The Daily Show was happy to pick up the subject with guest host Desi Lydic — who has served up rabid parody rants aimed at Fox News over the years — swinging in on a wild news day. Obviously, Desi wasn’t about to hold back on the irony of the non-gender-affirming Fox News deciding to “just cut off their own dick.” That wink was a nice touch.

Desi also addressed Tucker’s chronic wallpaper face by pointing out that, finally, the “stupid look” had a time and place to be appropriate. As well, Desi paid tribute to the “17 years of New Year’s Eve blackouts” contributed by Don Lemon at CNN before he lost his gig, too. And then Desi pretended to swiftly get fired as well and pack up her “giant fish” because, sure, why not, but hey, not so fast. Desi Lydic will guest-host The Daily Show all week long.

You can watch the full applicable The Daily Show segment below, and the Tucker part begins after 3:00.

Today, 6lack announced a massive global Since I Have A Lover Tour, in support of his recent album under the same title.

Kicking off in North America this October before heading to Europe in early 2024, he will be joined by Mereba, Spinall, Sadboi, and another special surprise guest throughout select dates.

Tickets for 6lack’s new tour go on sale this Friday (April 28) at 10 a.m. There are also several presales happening before that, earlier throughout this week, and VIP packages available. Find more information here and a complete list of dates below.

10/01/2023 — Portland, OR @ Alaska Airlines’ Theater of the Clouds **
10/04/2023 — Vancouver, BC @ PNE Forum **
10/05/2023 — Seattle, WA @ WAMU Theater **
10/07/2023 — San Francisco, CA @ The Masonic **
10/10/2023 — Los Angeles, CA @ YouTube Theater **
10/12/2023 — San Diego, CA @ SOMA **
10/13/2023 — Phoenix, AZ @ The Van Buren **
10/15/2023 — Salt Lake City, UT @ The Complex **
10/17/2023 — Denver, CO @ Fillmore Auditorium **
10/19/2023 — St. Louis, MO @ The Pageant *
10/21/2023 — Dallas, TX @ The Pavilion at Toyota Music Factory *
10/22/2023 — Austin, TX @ Stubb’s Waller Creek Amphitheater *
10/25/2023 — Houston, TX @ Bayou Music Center *
10/26/2023 — New Orleans, LA @ The Fillmore New Orleans *
10/31/2023 — Minneapolis, MN @ The Fillmore Minneapolis *
11/01/2023 — Chicago, IL @ Byline Bank Aragon Ballroom *
11/02/2023 — Detroit, MI @ The Fillmore Detroit *
11/05/2023 — New York, NY @ Manhattan Center Hammerstein Ballroom *
11/06/2023 — Brooklyn, NY @ Great Hall – Avant Gardner *
11/08/2023 — Washington, DC @ The Anthem *
11/10/2023 — Boston, MA @ MGM Music Hall at Fenway *
11/11/2023 — Montreal, QC @ MTELUS *
11/13/2023 — Toronto, ON @ HISTORY *
11/16/2023 — Philadelphia, PA @ The Fillmore Philadelphia *
11/18/2023 — Raleigh, NC @ The Ritz *
11/19/2023 — Charlotte, NC @ The Fillmore Charlotte *
11/21/2023 — Orlando, FL @ Hard Rock Live Orlando *
11/22/2023 — Miami, FL @ Kaseya Center *
11/24/2023 — Atlanta, GA @ State Farm Arena *
02/12/2024 — Dublin, Ireland @ 3Olympia Theatre #
02/14/2024 — Glasgow, United Kingdom @ O2 ­­Academy Glasgow #
02/15/2024 — Manchester, United Kingdom @ O2 Apollo #
02/17/2024 — Birmingham, United Kingdom @ O2 Academy Birmingham #
02/18/2024 — London, United Kingdom @ Eventim Apollo #
02/20/2024 — Paris, France @ Bataclan #
02/21/2024 — Cologne, Germany @ Live Music Hall #
02/22/2024 — Brussels, Belgium @ Ancienne Belgique #
02/252024 — Amsterdam, Netherlands @ Melkweg #
02/27/2024 — Berlin, Germany @ Huxley’s Neue Welt #
02/29/2024 — Copenhagen, Denmark @ Amager Bio #
03/01/2024 — Stockholm, Sweden @ Berns #
03/03/2024 — Oslo, Norway @ Rockefeller Music Hall #

* special guest
** Mereba
# Spinall and Sadboi