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My heart dropped when I read the message from my friend. Normally the exchange is pleasant and I look forward to our conversations but before I even opened the message, the preview told me that something was wrong. All I could see was, “Did you hear about Edith’s son?”

I hesitated before opening the message because I knew it wouldn’t be good, and sadly, I was right. Our friend posted that she was planning funeral services for her 15-year-old son, explaining that he died by suicide. I didn’t have the words so I waited days to reach out to share condolences.

It hit too close to home. I have a 14-year-old son. I’ve talked to my children about mental health and how it’s always OK to seek help, even when it feels hopeless. I’ve given tools to clients and friends who are struggling with their own child’s mental health diagnosis and the script remains the same, “I feel like it’s my fault.”

Shortly after Orion’s funeral, one of my own children came to me expressing despair and with all of my training I immediately went to self-blame, still. Even though I know better. Even though my job as a therapist is to help others navigate these feelings. “It’s my fault” rang in my ears. But just like I tell other parents, your child’s mental health disorder is not a failure on your part as a parent. Some people are just depressed without real explanation. Some people’s brains are wired a little bit differently and that doesn’t mean that someone broke them or that they’re broken at all.

Getting a mental health diagnosis for a child can sometimes knock the wind out of people because as parents the single most important job we have is to get our children to adulthood with as little trauma as possible. We taxi them to different sports, sign ourselves up for field trips and make sure they make it to their well-child visits. We do all of the things to get them across the finish line of adulthood. A mental health diagnosis can feel like you’ve somehow dropped a very important ball and oftentimes, you didn’t.

Our kids live in a completely different world than we did growing up. They’re inundated with messaging on a constant basis, and even if you do your best to limit their screen time, it’s impossible to escape. Social media continues to be a big driver in declining mental health among teens.

While suicide rates briefly showed an overall decline a couple of years ago, rates of suicide are highest among teens and young adults ages 15 to 24. Mental health conditions in kids such as depression, which can sometimes lead to suicide, are a heavy burden on parents, even without the added burden of guilt. Parents can talk to their children often, check in on active coping skills they’re using and give them some if they don’t have any.

One of the most important things a parent can do is let go of the guilt. Nothing about your child’s mental health struggles says anything about you as a parent, especially If you’ve been doing the best you can. If you’re struggling with feelings around your child’s mental health disorder, you too should reach out to a therapist.

Not all mental health disorders result in a catastrophic loss through suicide, but it doesn’t hurt to make sure your children have suicide hotlines saved in their phones and posted on the fridge. While death by suicide is tragic, it’s also important to remember that it’s not anyone’s fault.

If you can look at all you’ve done and can say you’ve provided a safe and nourishing environment for your child, I invite you to lay down the self-blame. Parenting is hard enough without beating ourselves up over things outside of our control.

If you or someone you know are having thoughts of suicide or require mental health support, call or text 988 to talk to a trained counselor at the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or visit 988lifeline.org to connect with a counselor and chat in real time. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress as well as prevention and crisis resources for healthcare professionals.

The Trevor Project provides 24/7 crisis counseling via phone, text or chat specifically for young LGBTQ people.

The water bill at the Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis residence appears to be pretty low after recent revelations the couple made about their family’s bathing habits.

In a recent appearance on Dax Shepard’s “Armchair Expert” podcast, they admitted they’re not that into bathing themselves or their two children, Dimitri Portwood, 4, and Wyatt Isabelle, 6.

The conversation started when Shepard explained his ongoing disagreement with co-host Monica Padman. The two have dissenting views over whether people should use soap. “You should not be getting rid of all the natural oil on your skin with a bar of soap every day,” he said. “It’s insane.”

Kunis agreed with Shepard and was very candid about her bathing ritual. “I don’t wash my body with soap every day,” she shared. “But I wash pits and tits and holes and soles.”

“I can’t believe I’m in the minority here of washing my whole body in the shower,” Padman replied. “Who taught you to not wash?”

“I didn’t have hot water growing up as a child,” Kunis recalled, “so I didn’t shower very much anyway.” Kunis was born in the then-Soviet controlled Ukrainian city of Chernivtsi in 1983. Her family migrated to America when she was seven.

Kutcher added that he regularly uses soap and water on just his “armpits and crotch” and “nothing else.”

Kunis has passed her lax attitude towards bathing on to her children.

“When I had children,” she said, “I also didn’t wash them every day. I wasn’t the parent that bathed my newborns—ever.” Shepard agreed, saying that he and wife Kristen Bell only bathe their children as part of a nighttime routine and don’t pay much attention to their cleanliness.

“That’s how we feel about our children. We’re like, ‘Oof, something smells,'” Kunis added. Kutcher has a simple rule when it comes to his children and their cleanliness. “Here’s the thing — if you can see the dirt on ’em, clean ’em,” he says. “Otherwise, there’s no point.”

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While the Kutcher-Kunis clan’s approach towards hygiene may not be typical of the average American family, they may not be wrong according to science. Research suggests that children benefit from being exposed to germs early in life.

“This line of thinking, called the ‘hygiene hypothesis,’ holds that when exposure to parasites, bacteria, and viruses is limited early in life, children face a greater chance of having allergies, asthma, and other autoimmune diseases during adulthood,” WebMD says.

Basically, the more your body is exposed to the more it can fight off.

“Just as a baby’s brain needs stimulation, input, and interaction to develop normally, the young immune system is strengthened by exposure to everyday germs so that it can learn, adapt, and regulate itself,” notes Thom McDade, PhD, associate professor and director of the Laboratory for Human Biology Research at Northwestern University.

As for Kutcher and Kunis, they both share the same attitude when it comes to hygiene so nobody in the relationship has the right to complain if the other is a little funky. If it works for them, who are we to judge?

With October festivities wrapped up, let’s take a look back at one of the craziest events that went down over Halloween weekend. Partnering with nightlife impresarios Teksupport, the nomadic and world-renowned club collective CircoLoco took over a Brooklyn, NY warehouse to throw an all-out banger of a dance party — loaded to the gills with explosive house, rowdy reveling, and eye-catching costumes.

A New York Halloween staple, this year’s edition of CircoLoco featured performances from Swiss Duo Adriatique, founder of Life and Death Records DJ Tennis, Parisian Multi-instrumentalist Chloé Caillet, and Lone Star jewel Sossa, among many others. In addition to enjoying an A-List lineup, it’s not a rarity to catch glamourous celebrity guests and fashion industry icons alike hitting up CircoLoco events. With stars like Naomi Campbell and Leonardo DiCaprio having made surprise cameos on these same dance floors in the past, there’s no telling who might show up.

From its roots as a locals-only after-party at Ibiza’s iconic DC10 nightclub, Circoloco has expanded globally into a coveted marque event. Its dance floor invites the apex of fashion and dance culture to strut its stuff, and when Halloween season rolls in what could be more fashionable than flashy, sexy costumes? Relive the madness of CircoLoco down below!

Chris Farley certainly lived a colorful, if tragically short, life. Which is why a graphic novel about the Saturday Night Live legend from his brother certainly makes sense in a lot of ways.

According to Z2 Comics, which is publishing the graphic novel, “Growing Up Farley” will debut in the fall of 2023. Farley will co-write the work with Frank Marraffino, while artist Ryan Dunlavey will illustrate the project. Described as “the insanely true adventures of Chris and Kevin Farley,” the graphic novel features the two brothers and their father in some of the marketing art put together to promote the book.

Here’s the description from the novel’s website:

Chris Farley was a beloved comedy legend with a totally singular style, one that was heavily influenced by his childhood and his relationship with his father. Told in collaboration with his brother, stand-up comedian Kevin, Growing Up Farley is an intimate glimpse into Chris and Kevin’s adventures; from performances at Red Arrow Camp, to improv sets at the Arc Theater in Wisconsin, all the way to Second City in Chicago. Growing up Farley is a heartfelt dive into laughter and love.

“Laughter was always a big part of growing up Farley,” Kevin Farley said in a statement according to Entertainment Weekly. “I’m excited to partner with the team at Z2 Comics to share all the humor and humanity of growing up with my brother, Chris, in 1970s Madison, Wisconsin and the huge influence our dad had on our decision to go into comedy.

The special edition bundle for the comic also includes some fun Easter eggs such as Scotch Oil Company merchandise like a trucker hat, pen and coaster. Scotch Oil, of course, is the name of the oil company that Farley’s father owned when he was growing up.

If you were hoping to save a little bit of money and try out Netflix’s new ad-supported tier then you’re in luck! Today, the streamer launched the new service and for the low low price of just $6.99, so you too can enjoy your favorite content with some brief ad breaks. That is unless you have an Apple TV, because then it actually won’t work for you just yet.

Oh, also, if you’re looking to watch one of the 18 seasons of Grey’s Anatomy or binge New Girl, you won’t be able to. The same goes for Breaking Bad and The Crown. Is this appealing to you? Sure, you can’t watch Cobra Kai or Friday Night Lights but you can watch, uh, The Grey Man, or maybe Blonde? Everybody wins! Kind of.

When Netflix announced the new tier, they gave a disclaimer saying that this could happen, but they are working to fix it. As of launch day, it has not been fixed. “A limited number of movies and TV shows won’t be available due to licensing restrictions, and we’re going to be working on reducing that over time,” Netflix COO Greg Peters said last month.

The list of shows currently unavailable at the lowest price point also includes How To Get Away With Murder, The Sinner, Good Girls, Peaky Blinders, The Magicians, The Last Kingdom, Arrested Development, and House of Cards. The movies Skyfall, 28 Days, The Imitation Game, and The Bad Guys are unavailable, too.

While this is a pretty good chunk of fan favorites, a lot of Netflix’s original content is still available, like all 759 hours (an estimate) of Stranger Things or Love Is Blind. The only solution here seems to be to just keep paying in order to keep your favorite shows available to you. Maybe this was the point all along.

(Via Variety)

Jazlyn Guerra, the adorable kid journalist best known by the moniker Jazzy’s World, has netted her next big-name interview in Nicki Minaj, who she caught backstage at New York’s Power 105.1 Powerhouse concert. As usual, she dropped a couple of snippets on her Instagram ahead of releasing the full interview, and also as usual, she gets an insightful response by asking an unexpected question. In the first of the two clips, Jazzy asks Nicki what tools aspiring musicians need to succeed.

“I think you have to have faith in God,” Nicki replies. “I think that you have to be consistent, you have to work very hard, you can’t expect anyone to give you anything, you cannot expect to be treated differently… and what you’re doing has to really be your passion, not something that someone told you to do. It has to be something that you truly love.”

In the second clip, Jazzy, a middle school student herself, asks Nicki how going to a performing arts school helped her on her path to stardom. This time, Nicki says, “I got to meet other people around my age who loved to do what I do too… And I felt right at home.” Then, Nicki turns the tables when Jazzy says she wants to attend Nicki’s alma mater, LaGuardia (aka Fiorello H. LaGuardia High School of Music & Art and Performing Arts), asking her what she wants to study. As it turns out, she wants to be a drama major — and adds a clip of Nicki from her own drama classes.

Ms. Minaj even offers Jazzy a leg-up, telling any LaGuardia admin to give the kid a shot because she’s already accomplished so much on her own. Which is true; so far, Jazzy’s impressive reel includes interviews with Jay-Z, Kendrick Lamar, J. Cole, and Cardi B. Add one more to the list!

J.Prince is no stranger to sharing how he feels, and today seems no different. The music executive took to Instagram to offer his thoughts about the tragic death of Migos rapper Takeoff.

Prince starts the post by sending condolences on behalf of himself and his family before going into his personal relationship with Takeoff, Quavo, and Offset. Later in the Instagram post, Prince declares that the rapper’s senseless death could have been avoided and the incident shouldn’t have been displayed across social media.

“This shouldn’t have happened,” he wrote. ” This shouldn’t have ever happened in our city. This shouldn’t have been recorded, and this damn sure shouldn’t be circulating across social media for family, friends, and fans to see.”

He went on to call the entire situation a “foolish tragedy” and noted the importance of gun safety and what can happen when things go awry.

“With that being said, the root of this tragedy is foolish and has to be owned by the fool,” Prince writes. “I will sum this up by saying a gun in the hands of any human that close his eyes to shoot and doesn’t have the proper skills of operating that gun is dangerous and the results usually end with innocent people who had nothing to do with the altercation being shot or killed.”

Businesswoman, new mom, style and pop cutlure icon Rihanna is gearing up for a major moment. Her next Savage X Fenty show is coming up, she just debuted “Lift Me Up,” her first song since the 2016 album Anti, and she is performing at the Super Bowl Halftime Show in 2023. And there is probably more new music on the horizon.

Rihanna’s Savage X Fenty fashion show has become one of the most highly-anticipated events of the year. Savage X Fenty Show Vol. 4 will feature lingerie from the billionaire businesswoman and pop star’s popular line. The looks will be modeled by models and celebs alike, and there will be performances, too (possibly from Rihanna this year, since she’s back from her nearly-seven-year music hiatus). The show will be available to stream exclusively on Amazon Prime.

Where Can I Watch Savage X Fenty Show Vol. 4?

The Savage X Fenty Show Vol. 4 premieres exclusively on Amazon Prime on Wednesday, November 9. You must have a Prime membership to watch it — there are no options to rent the show for non-membership. An Amazon Prime membership is required to watch the show; the service costs $9 monthly for Video-only access, while the full service is $15 per month or $139 annually.

This year’s star-studded cast for Savage X Fenty includes Cara Delevigne, Taraji P. Henson, Marsai Martin, Taylour Paige, Abbott Elementary’s Sheryl Lee Ralph, Winston Duke, Simu Liu, Irina Shayk, Lilly Singh, and, unfortunately, Johnny Depp. Depp’s unfortunate appearance was announced on Thursday, November 3. Happy streaming (until Depp shows up)!

Jimmy Kimmel fully believes that he’s lost half of his fans after making fun of Donald Trump so much, and he’s totally fine with going down that path even if it costs him his job. While stopping by Stitcher’s Naked Lunch podcast, Kimmel revealed to hosts Phil Rosenthal and David Wild that Republicans once considered him “the most popular talk show host.” Since then, the late-night host has repeatedly gone to town on Trump’s disastrous presidency (and his “Big Lie” post-presidency) even though it did spark a conversation with ABC brass.

According to Kimmel, there was talk of him maybe laying off Trump, and the comedian wasn’t having it. “If you want somebody else to host the show, that’s fine, that’s okay with me. I’m just not going to do it like that,” Kimmel said before revealing that the network reluctantly backed off.

The two parties clearly worked things out because Kimmel recently signed a three-year extension on his contract. Although, once again, that decision all comes back to Trump. Via The Wrap:

“I want to be on the air when Donald Trump goes to jail. I still believe, even after living through the O.J. [Simpson] trial, that justice triumphs in America and I know there are a billion different examples to the contrary. [But] how can you commit this many crimes and be this unethical and be this terrible and get away with it?”

Considering Trump’s mounting legal troubles from the Mar-a-Lago raid to the January 6 committee subpoena, Kimmel might get to see his dream come true sooner rather than later.

(Via The Wrap)

Drake and 21 Savage’s rollout for their joint project Her Loss has been immaculate so far, as they lampoon all the standards of a traditional album promotion cycle. Instead of appearing on a magazine cover, they mocked up their own; rather than doing all the expected radio interviews, they faked a sitdown with Howard Stern; and while NPR Music seems open to the idea of them doing a Tiny Desk Concert, they were content to offer a cleverly-produced parody snippet, getting the initial rush of excitement, as well as follow-up round of appreciation for the well-executed troll.

With all that said, it can make it a little hard to know what parts of the rollout to believe. For instance, the album cover has been roasted by fans — but who’s to say it’s the real album cover? Likewise, they just shared what looks to be the official tracklist on social media, but considering they were joking about so many other aspects of a traditional rollout, it’s hard to tell whether it’s authentic or not. One thing is for sure, though; the project itself better turn out to be real — especially after being delayed a week — or all the good-humored indulgence could turn into sour grapes in a hurry.

Her Loss is (supposedly) out tonight at midnight via OVO and Slaughter Gang. Stay tuned.